Jackrussell...I am sorry

[Guest guest]

I am so sorry if my email came across the wrong way. I was not trying to imply

that you were attacking anyone. I think you were well within your right to say

what you have. If you feelings were hurt whether intentionally or not it is

wrong. We are here for support and not hurt. We have all been hurt enough with

our weight and the people around us already. My previous email was in now way

intended for you. I am so sorry if you took it that way. You have the right to

your feelings and I would never discount that. I was appalled at the childish,

rude, blatant attack that another person put out there. Once again I apologize

to you if I in any way came across as being angry at you or appearing to address

that issue with you. With that said, I am done on this issue and will not speak

of it again. I hope that you are not angry at me since I did not intend for

that to happen. I just can't stand to have someone attacked who is not here to

defend themselves. No hard feelings?

Dora

Dora

Dora,

I was trying to help another by letting them know how it feels to

be dating after gastric bypass with bm and gas. I was being honest

and spoke from my heart. I was upset because Ray made a joke and I

was offended that he made it at me, not to me (it seemed). I am over

it and he decided to leave for his own reasons. I do not attack

anyone and feel that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I

however think of other's feelings before I type or speak. That is

all that I was saying. Not bickering. I think that Ray learned

things here and he also taught others. I feel that the same goes for

me. I was expressing how I felt and yes, I do think that I was being

fair.

Bethany

> Well, I felt that this group provided support for one another. I

> understand that everyone, including myself, has been missing Ray.

I

> only expressed how my feelings were hurt about one commment. I got

> over it and began to not care anymore. This has been dragged on

long

> enough. I am so disappointed that no one understood how I felt,

not

> stood up for me or even " babied " me, but just expressed sincerity.

> We are all emotional and uneasy after surgery. I felt hurt by

Ray's

> comment about my situation when I was simply spilling my emotions

> and trusting all of you. I have recently decided that I may be

> leaving the group. Since no one has cared up to this point or even

> expressed sympathy, I believe that I will soon be leaving. I have

> learned so much from everyone and enjoyed hearing stories, and yes

> even jokes. I understand that humor helps healing, but sometimes

we

> also need to think about others. I am sure that we have all been

> made fun of at some point or another and it has rolled off our

> shoulders or not. In this instance I felt that I am connected to

all

> of you by a bond that is so strong, I felt comfortable saying

> anything. When my comfort was broken slightly, I felt as if I was

> belittled and ridiculed for honesty. That is how I FELT. Now, I

> think that if Ray came across my path that I would extend my hand

> and have a truths. The only problem with this is that someone e-

> mailed him and asked him to leave. I have never even thought about

> saying this to anyone here, especially since that would break this

> special bond. I know how I would feel if someone came to me and

> asked me to leave this group. In essence, I feel that since no one

> expressed concern or sympathy for the way that I felt, as

expressed

> in previous posts, that no one would care if I decided to leave. I

> have looked for new support groups, other than the one with my

> surgeon, and have found none that compare with the sharing and

> feelings that are here. I will continue to read posts and help

those

> that need it, but I am now apprehensive. I do not feel as though I

> am welcomed here anymore. I am sorry that this happened with Ray

> when he was having a problem with others. Timing is beyond

anyone's

> control. I hope that Ray finds out how I feel now and that he

comes

> back for the sake of the group and for my benefit as well. I can

> only hope that in the next few days that I feel like part of my

> second family.

>

>

>

> Bethany

> 281/261/227/150

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

No hard feelings, an apology was not needed although gladly

accepted. I am only here to support others and gain support as well.

I love you guys!

bethany

> > Well, I felt that this group provided support for one another. I

> > understand that everyone, including myself, has been missing

Ray.

> I

> > only expressed how my feelings were hurt about one commment. I

got

> > over it and began to not care anymore. This has been dragged on

> long

> > enough. I am so disappointed that no one understood how I felt,

> not

> > stood up for me or even " babied " me, but just expressed

sincerity.

> > We are all emotional and uneasy after surgery. I felt hurt by

> Ray's

> > comment about my situation when I was simply spilling my

emotions

> > and trusting all of you. I have recently decided that I may be

> > leaving the group. Since no one has cared up to this point or

even

> > expressed sympathy, I believe that I will soon be leaving. I

have

> > learned so much from everyone and enjoyed hearing stories, and

yes

> > even jokes. I understand that humor helps healing, but sometimes

> we

> > also need to think about others. I am sure that we have all been

> > made fun of at some point or another and it has rolled off our

> > shoulders or not. In this instance I felt that I am connected to

> all

> > of you by a bond that is so strong, I felt comfortable saying

> > anything. When my comfort was broken slightly, I felt as if I

was

> > belittled and ridiculed for honesty. That is how I FELT. Now, I

> > think that if Ray came across my path that I would extend my

hand

> > and have a truths. The only problem with this is that someone e-

> > mailed him and asked him to leave. I have never even thought

about

> > saying this to anyone here, especially since that would break

this

> > special bond. I know how I would feel if someone came to me and

> > asked me to leave this group. In essence, I feel that since no

one

> > expressed concern or sympathy for the way that I felt, as

> expressed

> > in previous posts, that no one would care if I decided to leave.

I

> > have looked for new support groups, other than the one with my

> > surgeon, and have found none that compare with the sharing and

> > feelings that are here. I will continue to read posts and help

> those

> > that need it, but I am now apprehensive. I do not feel as though

I

> > am welcomed here anymore. I am sorry that this happened with Ray

> > when he was having a problem with others. Timing is beyond

> anyone's

> > control. I hope that Ray finds out how I feel now and that he

> comes

> > back for the sake of the group and for my benefit as well. I can

> > only hope that in the next few days that I feel like part of my

> > second family.

> >

> >

> >

> > Bethany

> > 281/261/227/150

> >

> >

> >