any other RNY couples out there???

October 1, 2003

I hope some of you can help. I had RNY 4/02, and my hubby had it 4/03. I feel

really resentful that he is losing so rapidly, while I am still struggling with

my last 50 lbs. I know all the reasons...he's a man and they lose faster,

etc.etc.etc. I am trying not to get into the comparison trap, but he is driving

me crazy. He is so excited about losing, that the man who hates shopping won't

leave the men's dept of the store. While I don't think he means to rub it in, he

makes little comments that really get under my skin. I was really discouraged a

couple of weeks ago when he talked me into going to a RNY support meeting for

those considering the surgery. We weighed ourselves before going into the

meeting, ( big mistake!), and I had only lost 8 lbs in 4 months. I had busted my

tail to lose it, too. I had sworn off of carbs, and increased my protein, and

that was as far as I could get??? Anyway, He got up and gave a nice little

speech about the " joys " of the surgery, and I didn't say one

thing about my experience, I was so down...

Have any of you gals experienced anything similar, and if so, how did you deal

with it?

The truth is, I have a really good marriage, so I hate to wallow around in self

pity. I have been discouraged all day, and have eaten so many carbs, that poor

Dr. Adkins is probably rolling in his grave. Please send help soon. Meanwhile, I

am going to go have some cheese with my whine...(lowest carb thing I've had all

day!)

Thanks

Cindy

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