Re: Subject: new wrinkle in my logistics

[Guest guest]

Hi Alyssa

I also had my surgery with Dr. Keshishian. I brought my 9 yr. old son and he

was with me everyday. He did, however, stay with my sister in a hotel at

night.

Maybe you could trade with someone else that is having the surgery on the

same day as you so you can get a later time and that way your husband and

children can take you to the hospital.

I had a 7am surgery, the person that had his surgery after me on the same day

told me several days later he almost called up to offer me $50.00 to change

times with him....he couldn't handle waiting LOL.

Anyway it couldn't hurt to try and change times with another pre-op.

Take care and God Bless

Tia

Dr. Keshishian

10-18-01

Lap gastroplasty

[Guest guest]

Alyssa, I completely agree with everyone else. Please

don't cancel your surgery because of the babysitting

problem!

There are so many people here who will literally crawl

to the hospital in order to have the surgery (me

included!) - you are so lucky to have the approval!

I've had several surgeries (including gallbladder

removal) where I had to taxi it to the hospital alone.

Just think - it's one way and the only time you'll

have to do it. Hubby will be there shortly

afterwards! I understand how you would want your

husband there but will you even be lucid the first day

anyway?

Going alone to the hospital... babysitting issues...

these are doable problems - if your doc broke his arm,

now that would not be doable! So please don't do

something you might greatly regret later. You've

wanted this surgery for so long - it's just not fair

to you to postpone!

Good luck!

dee

--- MsMystic1@... wrote:

> Alyssa - my advise is do NOT cancel sugery. Know

> why? Something will always

> come up and it will keep getting cancelled. I know

> how much you want this

> and how hard you have been working at it. Your

> husband probably doesn't

> realize all that you have had to go through to have

> surgery and how much you

> really want it.

> Even if you have to take a taxi at 5:30 am alone to

> the hospital from the

> hotel (which is not really a long ride, is it?), you

> will not be the first or

> only one going into surgery alone without family

> with you. I will be alone

> because I live 3 hrs from the hospital and my family

> is not inclined to go

> that far to be with me, but I am not going to let

> that stop me! I've pretty

> much learned not to count on them for any emotional

> support for anything.

> There are others who live alone, far from family,

> and also have had this

> alone.

> Another suggestion - have your sister come early to

> help you - take them to

> her fiancees house?? Find a day care in Delano (I

> am SURE they have one) and

> put the boys in for one day so your husband can be

> at the hospital during the

> day after you wake up, etc. Or have your Mom come

> early.

> I would say do whatever it takes, or the chance may

> possibly not come around

> again. Remember, you have insurance approval

> now.....and you never know if

> you'd get again. There are just too many variables

> going into this that when

> you get to this point, if you cancel, it could all

> break down. Like, what if

> your husband's father gets worse? Think of that

> scenario.

> I think my family thinks this is *elective* surgery

> and since I am choosing

> to have it (so I can lose weight) instead of going

> on another diet, then it

> isn't like some other *major* surgery. Maybe your

> husband feels the same and

> thinks this can easily be put off and arranged

> later. (Maybe he doesn't feel

> that way, but I know my family does).

> It all comes down to figuiring out a way. And I

> know you can do that! Good

> Luck!

> Carole

>

>

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>

[Guest guest]

It's so good to hear that others have had ch ildren with them and survived.

My parents are ready to take my oldest son (5 years old) for the 3 day

period, but might just have to come with us. I have to say that I am

glad to have the first surgery b/c I don't want time to get anxious in the

morning...even if I do have to take a taxi.

Thank you to ALL who have responded. I'm feeling a lot better about the

whole thing.

~alyssa

surgery date: STILL 12/20

surgeon: the wonderful dr. k

bmi: 45

new wrinkle in my logistics

> Hi Alyssa

>

> I also had my surgery with Dr. Keshishian. I brought my 9 yr. old son and

he

> was with me everyday. He did, however, stay with my sister in a hotel at

> night.

[Guest guest]

That's exactly how he and his family see it -- this is elective (I believe

my MIL called it " cosmetic " ) surgery, so why can't I just " elect " to have it

in June? Sigh.

You're absolutely right, though -- I can't wait for the planets to be in

perfect alignment -- it'll never happen or I'll die waiting...

~alyssa

new wrinkle in my logistics

> I think my family thinks this is *elective* surgery and since I am

choosing

> to have it (so I can lose weight) instead of going on another diet, then

it

> isn't like some other *major* surgery. Maybe your husband feels the same

and

> thinks this can easily be put off and arranged later. (Maybe he doesn't

feel

> that way, but I know my family does).

[Guest guest]

Alyssa,

#1 Big hug, woman.

#2 If they aren't going to be supportive now, they're not going to be

supportive in June.

#3 If you wait for the planets to align, maybe the aliens will come

and eat all the skinny people. >:0

Take care,

At 10:45 PM -0800 12/2/01, Alyssa wrote:

>

>That's exactly how he and his family see it -- this is elective (I believe

>my MIL called it " cosmetic " ) surgery, so why can't I just " elect " to have it

>in June? Sigh.

>

>You're absolutely right, though -- I can't wait for the planets to be in

>perfect alignment -- it'll never happen or I'll die waiting...

>

>~alyssa

>