Re: new wrinkle in my logistics

[Guest guest]

alyssa, Does the hospital have nice/comfortable family waiting area?

I don't know the age of your kids, but how about them going in their

jammies (or let them sleep in a comfy " jogging suit " ) and taking a

sleeping bag. They can pretend they are " camping " . If they take their

baths before bed, they'll just need their faces washed and can play

in the waiting room. (Pack a case of toys, make it an adventure for

them) Your husband will have an easier wait with the kids to keep

him company. They usually have tv in waiting rooms, maybe the kids

could watch cartoons. My grandson is great in waiting rooms, bless

his heart. Do they have game boys or such?

It will be easier for you to have them with you. Be selfish for a

change and request what you need. (I know that Moms are rarely

selfish...)

As the day gets a little later, maybe there is a " drop in " day care

close to the hospital. We have a couple of good ones here in

Nashville that stay open til 10pm week days midnight weekend.

I don't know, just thinking as I type LOL I wouldn't reschedule

either, if I ever get approved and get a date, bar the door LOL

Hugs, Wanda

[Guest guest]

Alyssa

Hey Sunshine

When I was in hospital (I had my son who was 9 weeks early and hanging on by

a thread and in a Humidity Crib on the other side of our hospital (and its

huge), my husband had his final exam for Uni and couldnt get out of it, but

I hadn't seen my new son and also was in major pain and anguish after having

a c-section and other realted problems as well as being fairly hysterical.

Anyway, (as usual making a short story long) one of my nurses, who was

absolutely fantastic, called up the volunteers (who were apart of the

hospital but usually only dealt with children and the eldery) and she came

and met me, helped me into a wheel chair and spent the whole morning with my

son and I, held my hand while the Neo-natal specialist otld us the odds of

my son surviving and then wheeled me back to my ward and stayed with me,

just to chat and let me cry on her shoulder until hubby got back there.

Maybe it is worth asking your hospital about a volunteer or in Asutralia we

also have Social Workers attached to the hospital and they were of great

help to us as well. Sorry about babbling on.... PS also another thought, I

don't know if you are apart of a church or anything but maybe they could

help with someone to support you as well??????????

Tracey

[Guest guest]

Alyssa,

Talk to Dee because there maybe some alternatives. Also, once you walk around

5:30 am and get your blood pressure done and change into your gown, etc..it's

already time for your 1st happy shot, so you're very calm by then..but the time

you have the 2nd one before surgery, you'll be completely relaxed! I was busy

checking out the surgical suite while they were getting me ready, etc and

remember I hadn't had surgery before either! After all this, I agree with no

rescheduling, but you may just have to do some rearranging. Gil and her

DH brought their children and they were perfectly happy running up and down the

halls and escorting their Mom for walks. *grins* It also helped take away that

hospital feel. You just need to let your hubby know that you need to do this now

while you know your general health is good because once your MO, your health can

suddenly deteriorate rapidly and it's better to go into surgery as healthy as

possible. There are several Dr K's patients that work at the hospital and also

one or two that live in Delano, so you maybe able to get a babysitter that Dee

or someone else knows, etc.

You just need to explore your options!

*hugs*

Anita

> Sigh...nothing can ever be simple in my life, can it?

>

> Surgery is all set for the 20th, but my in-laws have had to back out of taking

care of my children for the 19th-22nd because my father-in-law is very sick and

probably won't be well by then. My husband seems to think that I should cancel

the surgery, but I just CAN'T go another 6 months obsessing, so I'm trying to

come up with other childcare arrangements. My worst case scenario is that all 4

of us will go to Delano on the 19th (for preop), and then on the morning of the

21st, Dan will leave for LA (and Disneyland) with the boys while I'm still in

the hospital. That plan, though,has me taking a taxi to surgery at 5:30am on

the 20th and basically going into the waiting room and surgery alone, which I

really don't want to do. A hospital is no place for 2 healthy youngsters, and

Dan said he doesn't want to get them up at 5:30am to take me to surgery. Anyone

have any suggestions...or a good babysitter in Delano??

>

> ~alyssa

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

The pool is outside, but it is heated.

Tia

Dr. Keshishian

10-18-01

Lap gastroplasty

<< My wife told me that Shilo has a pool, too. I don't know if it is inside,

though.

Best-

Nick >>

[Guest guest]

Hi Alyssa:

it was a rude awakening, but there are no taxi's in Delano. The

hospital has a ride service that can pick up and drop you off, but

I'm not sure if they're up that early. If you're staying in one of

the motels, they will usually give you a ride. There's nothing to do

in Delano = NOTHING....Tell Dee about your situation, she may be able

to help. My mother stayed in the motel with me, and since she no

longer drives I couldn't find a way to get to my post-op appt. Dee

drove me! She's the best.

My husband and kids stayed at the Best Western where they have an

indoor pool. They suck, but the kids loved being able to use the

pool.

Hope everything works out!

Gil

> Sigh...nothing can ever be simple in my life, can it?

>

> Surgery is all set for the 20th, but my in-laws have had to back

out of taking care of my children for the 19th-22nd because my father-

in-law is very sick and probably won't be well by then. My husband

seems to think that I should cancel the surgery, but I just CAN'T go

another 6 months obsessing, so I'm trying to come up with other

childcare arrangements. My worst case scenario is that all 4 of us

will go to Delano on the 19th (for preop), and then on the morning of

the 21st, Dan will leave for LA (and Disneyland) with the boys while

I'm still in the hospital. That plan, though,has me taking a taxi to

surgery at 5:30am on the 20th and basically going into the waiting

room and surgery alone, which I really don't want to do. A hospital

is no place for 2 healthy youngsters, and Dan said he doesn't want to

get them up at 5:30am to take me to surgery. Anyone have any

suggestions...or a good babysitter in Delano??

>

> ~alyssa

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hey Alyssa - me again! I think the hospital allows the family to

wait in the patient's room, where there's a tv and pull out bed. The

prep takes about 1/2 hour, then they could wait there...

> alyssa, Does the hospital have nice/comfortable family waiting

area?

> I don't know the age of your kids, but how about them going in

their

> jammies (or let them sleep in a comfy " jogging suit " ) and taking a

> sleeping bag. They can pretend they are " camping " . If they take

their

> baths before bed, they'll just need their faces washed and can play

> in the waiting room. (Pack a case of toys, make it an adventure

for

> them) Your husband will have an easier wait with the kids to keep

> him company. They usually have tv in waiting rooms, maybe the kids

> could watch cartoons. My grandson is great in waiting rooms,

bless

> his heart. Do they have game boys or such?

>

> It will be easier for you to have them with you. Be selfish for a

> change and request what you need. (I know that Moms are rarely

> selfish...)

>

> As the day gets a little later, maybe there is a " drop in " day care

> close to the hospital. We have a couple of good ones here in

> Nashville that stay open til 10pm week days midnight weekend.

>

> I don't know, just thinking as I type LOL I wouldn't reschedule

> either, if I ever get approved and get a date, bar the door

LOL

> Hugs, Wanda

[Guest guest]

My wife told me that Shilo has a pool, too. I don't know if it is inside,

though.

Best-

Nick

Re: new wrinkle in my logistics

> Hi Alyssa:

> it was a rude awakening, but there are no taxi's in Delano. The

> hospital has a ride service that can pick up and drop you off, but

> I'm not sure if they're up that early. If you're staying in one of

> the motels, they will usually give you a ride. There's nothing to do

> in Delano = NOTHING....Tell Dee about your situation, she may be able

> to help. My mother stayed in the motel with me, and since she no

> longer drives I couldn't find a way to get to my post-op appt. Dee

> drove me! She's the best.

>

> My husband and kids stayed at the Best Western where they have an

> indoor pool. They suck, but the kids loved being able to use the

> pool.

>

> Hope everything works out!

>

> Gil

>

>

>

>

> > Sigh...nothing can ever be simple in my life, can it?

> >

> > Surgery is all set for the 20th, but my in-laws have had to back

> out of taking care of my children for the 19th-22nd because my father-

> in-law is very sick and probably won't be well by then. My husband

> seems to think that I should cancel the surgery, but I just CAN'T go

> another 6 months obsessing, so I'm trying to come up with other

> childcare arrangements. My worst case scenario is that all 4 of us

> will go to Delano on the 19th (for preop), and then on the morning of

> the 21st, Dan will leave for LA (and Disneyland) with the boys while

> I'm still in the hospital. That plan, though,has me taking a taxi to

> surgery at 5:30am on the 20th and basically going into the waiting

> room and surgery alone, which I really don't want to do. A hospital

> is no place for 2 healthy youngsters, and Dan said he doesn't want to

> get them up at 5:30am to take me to surgery. Anyone have any

> suggestions...or a good babysitter in Delano??

> >

> > ~alyssa

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

If the Shilo is where I stayed, it was an outdoor pool. Brisk but

heated!

Hugs,

T.

> > > Sigh...nothing can ever be simple in my life, can it?

> > >

> > > Surgery is all set for the 20th, but my in-laws have had to back

> > out of taking care of my children for the 19th-22nd because my

father-

> > in-law is very sick and probably won't be well by then. My

husband

> > seems to think that I should cancel the surgery, but I just CAN'T

go

> > another 6 months obsessing, so I'm trying to come up with other

> > childcare arrangements. My worst case scenario is that all 4 of

us

> > will go to Delano on the 19th (for preop), and then on the

morning of

> > the 21st, Dan will leave for LA (and Disneyland) with the boys

while

> > I'm still in the hospital. That plan, though,has me taking a

taxi to

> > surgery at 5:30am on the 20th and basically going into the waiting

> > room and surgery alone, which I really don't want to do. A

hospital

> > is no place for 2 healthy youngsters, and Dan said he doesn't

want to

> > get them up at 5:30am to take me to surgery. Anyone have any

> > suggestions...or a good babysitter in Delano??

> > >

> > > ~alyssa

> > >

> > >

> > >

[Guest guest]

Hi Alyssa

The nurses at Delano RMC are quite attentive, they will take care of you. I

don't think you have anything to worry about, the nurses were always in and

out of my room.

Take care and God Bless

Tia

Dr. Keshishian

10-18-01

lap gastroplasty

<< It means that I'll have a couple of days alone in the hospital

(Dec 21st and 22nd), but my mom is due in on the 23rd. If I need her

sooner, I bet I can ask. Do you guys t hink I need someone t >>

[Guest guest]

Dear Alyssa:

I spent two of my 5 days with my partner away. You will be well cared for in

Delano and don't need to worry about anything, as far as the hospital stay is

concerned. The nurses will do everything you need them to do, and I do mean

everything. You will also have company with the other people having surgery.

I hope this all works out for you.

Sheryle

Dr K. 10-10-01

down 50lbs

[Guest guest]

and Alyssa,

Dee Tinkle said the manager of the Best Western will not give rides

to the hospital for the patients. So, you may want to consider Shilo

or Comfort Inn. They both have pools.

Tracey in Santee (San Diego)

Dr. Keshishian 11/12/01

> > Sigh...nothing can ever be simple in my life, can it?

> >

> > Surgery is all set for the 20th, but my in-laws have had to back

> out of taking care of my children for the 19th-22nd because my

father-

> in-law is very sick and probably won't be well by then. My husband

> seems to think that I should cancel the surgery, but I just CAN'T

go

> another 6 months obsessing, so I'm trying to come up with other

> childcare arrangements. My worst case scenario is that all 4 of us

> will go to Delano on the 19th (for preop), and then on the morning

of

> the 21st, Dan will leave for LA (and Disneyland) with the boys

while

> I'm still in the hospital. That plan, though,has me taking a taxi

to

> surgery at 5:30am on the 20th and basically going into the waiting

> room and surgery alone, which I really don't want to do. A

hospital

> is no place for 2 healthy youngsters, and Dan said he doesn't want

to

> get them up at 5:30am to take me to surgery. Anyone have any

> suggestions...or a good babysitter in Delano??

> >

> > ~alyssa

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Thanks to everyone who has helped in this decision. My new plan is that my

oldest son will go visit my father and step-mother, and my youngest son will

go to Delano with us and then to Disneyland with Dada after I clear my first

24 hours. It means that I'll have a couple of days alone in the hospital

(Dec 21st and 22nd), but my mom is due in on the 23rd. If I need her

sooner, I bet I can ask. Do you guys t hink I need someone those days? My

surgery is the first one on 12/20.

I've been under a lot of pressure to postpone until June because of my

father-in-law's severe illness and my husband's stress levels, but after

talkign w ith my husband today, I've decided to push forward. I desperately

want to get this part of my life overwith, and nothing will happen until Dr.

K works his magic!!

Wish me luck..and prayers for my father-in-law, if you can. He's in the

fight of his life.

~alyssa

Re: Re: new wrinkle in my logistics

> You can't get the magic recliners at either the Comfort or the Best

Western,

> either. You will want one! It is your best friend - next to your

personal

> hygiene aide.

>

[Guest guest]

Alyssa,

Do they have a Kindercare, La Petite Academy, etc. in Delano or near

there? If I were to go out of town to have surgery, that's what I

was planning on doing. I hope it helps! Carol

> > > Sigh...nothing can ever be simple in my life, can it?

> > >

> > > Surgery is all set for the 20th, but my in-laws have had to

back

> > out of taking care of my children for the 19th-22nd because my

> father-

> > in-law is very sick and probably won't be well by then. My

husband

> > seems to think that I should cancel the surgery, but I just CAN'T

> go

> > another 6 months obsessing, so I'm trying to come up with other

> > childcare arrangements. My worst case scenario is that all 4 of

us

> > will go to Delano on the 19th (for preop), and then on the

morning

> of

> > the 21st, Dan will leave for LA (and Disneyland) with the boys

> while

> > I'm still in the hospital. That plan, though,has me taking a

taxi

> to

> > surgery at 5:30am on the 20th and basically going into the

waiting

> > room and surgery alone, which I really don't want to do. A

> hospital

> > is no place for 2 healthy youngsters, and Dan said he doesn't

want

> to

> > get them up at 5:30am to take me to surgery. Anyone have any

> > suggestions...or a good babysitter in Delano??

> > >

> > > ~alyssa

> > >

> > >

> > >

[Guest guest]

Alyssa,

sounds like you have everything under control and are on your way to

a new you! I am sure you will be fine for those two days and then

all you have to do is get well and let the surgery do its work!

Congratulations and lots of prayers for the family and step dad.

Hugs,

Theresa

Surgery date: DS Nov. 19, 2001

Highest weight: 293

Surgery weight: 251

Current weight: 235

Height: 5' 7.5 "

> Thanks to everyone who has helped in this decision. My new plan is

that my

> oldest son will go visit my father and step-mother, and my youngest

son will

> go to Delano with us and then to Disneyland with Dada after I clear

my first

> 24 hours. It means that I'll have a couple of days alone in the

hospital

> (Dec 21st and 22nd), but my mom is due in on the 23rd. If I need

her

> sooner, I bet I can ask. Do you guys t hink I need someone those

days? My

> surgery is the first one on 12/20.

>

> I've been under a lot of pressure to postpone until June because of

my

> father-in-law's severe illness and my husband's stress levels, but

after

> talkign w ith my husband today, I've decided to push forward. I

desperately

> want to get this part of my life overwith, and nothing will happen

until Dr.

> K works his magic!!

>

> Wish me luck..and prayers for my father-in-law, if you can. He's

in the

> fight of his life.

>

> ~alyssa

>

> Re: Re: new wrinkle in my logistics

>

>

> > You can't get the magic recliners at either the Comfort or the

Best

> Western,

> > either. You will want one! It is your best friend - next to your

> personal

> > hygiene aide.

> >

[Guest guest]

Alyssa,

The 1st day or two your routine is sleeping, being woken up for shots, fluids,

BP, etc, walking and then sleeping again. You won't really notice that your

hubby's not there, you'll just wish people would let you sleep! *grins* Also,

the nurses there are extremely attentive and just a button push away! Besides,

between all that, we'll probably be calling you, so you're not going to feel

lonely! Plus, you'll have a catheter in and your bowels won't be rumbling

probably until the 4 or 5th day, so it's not like you'll need help in the

bathroom. You don't get the joy of a shower until the 3rd day and the nurses

help you, so even if your Mom wasn't there it would be fine. I thought I would

be bothered by having someone help me shower, because I don't like people

touching me and plus I'm very private, but the nurses did not make me feel

uncomfortable at all and I was so glad to have a shower! I think your family's

objections definitely go under the 'you're not that fat!' argument/opinion that

skinny people have because they don't know the everyday struggles that we deal

with that are caused by weight. I am sending positive vibes for your family and

your father-in-law! I hope he continues to fight and starts to get better soon!

*hugs8

Anita

> Thanks to everyone who has helped in this decision. My new plan is that my

oldest son will go visit my father and step-mother, and my youngest son will go

to Delano with us and then to Disneyland with Dada after I clear my first 24

hours. It means that I'll have a couple of days alone in the hospital (Dec 21st

and 22nd), but my mom is due in on the 23rd. If I need her sooner, I bet I can

ask. Do you guys think I need someone those days? My surgery is the first one

on 12/20.

>

> I've been under a lot of pressure to postpone until June because of my

father-in-law's severe illness and my husband's stress levels, but after talking

with my husband today, I've decided to push forward. I desperately want to get

this part of my life overwith, and nothing will happen until Dr. K works his

magic!!

>

> Wish me luck..and prayers for my father-in-law, if you can. He's in the fight

of his life.

>

> ~alyssa

>

> Re: Re: new wrinkle in my logistics

>

>

> > You can't get the magic recliners at either the Comfort or the Best

> Western,

> > either. You will want one! It is your best friend - next to your

> personal

> > hygiene aide.

> >

[Guest guest]

Hon, as far as I can tell, they don't have ANYTHING in Delano...they have so

little there that they barely have Delano in Delano!

Mostly teasing...

~alyssa

Re: new wrinkle in my logistics

> Alyssa,

> Do they have a Kindercare, La Petite Academy, etc. in Delano or near

> there? If I were to go out of town to have surgery, that's what I

> was planning on doing. I hope it helps! Carol

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Anita, and everyone else who has responded so kindly -- you really

are a wealth of information and support, and I am so thankful!!

My FIL had surgery this morning, and all went according to plan. The good

news is that he doesn't have tumors anywhere other than his brain. The bad

news is that they couldn't get all of one of the brain tumors, so it's

radiation therapy next. I have no idea what side effects and joys radiation

therapy brings with it. Apparently, with brain tumors, there is no

chemotherapy, even if the tumors are malignant (we dont' know yet if they

are) -- just radiation. Pray for him because we need him around!!

Love to all,

alyssa

surgery date: still 12/20

Re: new wrinkle in my logistics

> Alyssa,

>

> The 1st day or two your routine is sleeping, being woken up for shots,

fluids, BP, etc, walking and then sleeping again. You won't really notice

that your hubby's not there, you'll just wish people would let you sleep!

*grins* Also, the nurses there are extremely attentive and just a button

push away!

[Guest guest]

Hi Alyssa!

That's great! I'm so glad you were able to work things out! My

thoughts are with your father in law.

Have a safe surgery!

Hugs!

Tracey in Santee (San Diego)

Dr. Keshishian 11/12/01

> Thanks to everyone who has helped in this decision. My new plan is

that my

> oldest son will go visit my father and step-mother, and my youngest

son will

> go to Delano with us and then to Disneyland with Dada after I clear

my first

> 24 hours. It means that I'll have a couple of days alone in the

hospital

> (Dec 21st and 22nd), but my mom is due in on the 23rd. If I need

her

> sooner, I bet I can ask. Do you guys t hink I need someone those

days? My

> surgery is the first one on 12/20.

>

> I've been under a lot of pressure to postpone until June because of

my

> father-in-law's severe illness and my husband's stress levels, but

after

> talkign w ith my husband today, I've decided to push forward. I

desperately

> want to get this part of my life overwith, and nothing will happen

until Dr.

> K works his magic!!

>

> Wish me luck..and prayers for my father-in-law, if you can. He's

in the

> fight of his life.

>

> ~alyssa

>

> Re: Re: new wrinkle in my logistics

>

>

> > You can't get the magic recliners at either the Comfort or the

Best

> Western,

> > either. You will want one! It is your best friend - next to your

> personal

> > hygiene aide.

> >

[Guest guest]

Well, at least they have a hospital in Delano! LOL!

-maria

At 7:12 PM -0800 12/4/01, Alyssa wrote:

>Hon, as far as I can tell, they don't have ANYTHING in Delano...they have so

>little there that they barely have Delano in Delano!

[Guest guest]

Hi Tracey:

Yes, I found that out the hard way. The owner of the BW dislikes

having post op guests and will not go out of his way to help with

anything, also Dee will not put the recliners in any motel but the

Shilo.

I don't recommend staying at the Best Western post op, but my husband

and kids stayed there because of the pool. There is so very little

to do in Delano, that I thought that Alyssa's husband and kids might

be able to kill some time in the pool while she's in the hospital.

Take care,

Gil

Dr. Keshishian

11/8 - 264 lbs

11/26 - 240 lbs

> > > Sigh...nothing can ever be simple in my life, can it?

> > >

> > > Surgery is all set for the 20th, but my in-laws have had to

back

> > out of taking care of my children for the 19th-22nd because my

> father-

> > in-law is very sick and probably won't be well by then. My

husband

> > seems to think that I should cancel the surgery, but I just CAN'T

> go

> > another 6 months obsessing, so I'm trying to come up with other

> > childcare arrangements. My worst case scenario is that all 4 of

us

> > will go to Delano on the 19th (for preop), and then on the

morning

> of

> > the 21st, Dan will leave for LA (and Disneyland) with the boys

> while

> > I'm still in the hospital. That plan, though,has me taking a

taxi

> to

> > surgery at 5:30am on the 20th and basically going into the

waiting

> > room and surgery alone, which I really don't want to do. A

> hospital

> > is no place for 2 healthy youngsters, and Dan said he doesn't

want

> to

> > get them up at 5:30am to take me to surgery. Anyone have any

> > suggestions...or a good babysitter in Delano??

> > >

> > > ~alyssa

> > >

> > >

> > >

[Guest guest]

Hey Alyssa:

glad you were able to work out the logistics, I had the same sort of

scheduling nightmare! The nurses are really great, and between them

and the morphine drip, you'll be fine. And if Carmen is on duty,

you'll be in the best of hands - literally!

Gil

Dr. Keshishian

11/8 - 264 lbs

11/26 - 240 lbs

> Thanks to everyone who has helped in this decision. My new plan is

that my

> oldest son will go visit my father and step-mother, and my youngest

son will

> go to Delano with us and then to Disneyland with Dada after I clear

my first

> 24 hours. It means that I'll have a couple of days alone in the

hospital

> (Dec 21st and 22nd), but my mom is due in on the 23rd. If I need

her

> sooner, I bet I can ask. Do you guys t hink I need someone those

days? My

> surgery is the first one on 12/20.

>

> I've been under a lot of pressure to postpone until June because of

my

> father-in-law's severe illness and my husband's stress levels, but

after

> talkign w ith my husband today, I've decided to push forward. I

desperately

> want to get this part of my life overwith, and nothing will happen

until Dr.

> K works his magic!!

>

> Wish me luck..and prayers for my father-in-law, if you can. He's

in the

> fight of his life.

>

> ~alyssa

>

> Re: Re: new wrinkle in my logistics

>

>

> > You can't get the magic recliners at either the Comfort or the

Best

> Western,

> > either. You will want one! It is your best friend - next to your

> personal

> > hygiene aide.

> >