Christee-a late response

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Christee,

I haven't been keeping up with posts but I just switched to daily

digest and when I saw your post I just had to respond. I think

sometimes we are expected by others to " be over it " after a while.

As a mother of three boys and finally a girl, I understand a little

bit what you must be feeling. As you know, was born with

bilateral clubfeet. Then if that wasn't enough, she had delays in

motor skill development. Then she started losing enamel on her

teeth. Now she might need tubes in her ears. I can totally relate to

what you said about wanting things to be perfect for your daughter.

I was talking to a friend about her ears today and I expressed that

even though tubes in the ears isn't really a big deal, after all

that she has been through already, it just doesn't seem fair. She is

so traumatized by doctors that she screams from the second we walk

into the doctors offices (any doctor) until the moment we leave.

That tells me that her first doctor must have been causing pain when

he casted her. I, too, wish I had switched docs sooner.

I know that you already received a lot of feedback, but I just

wanted you to know that you are not alone in what you are feeling. I

think I understand your feelings, based on my own feelings about

what has happened to my only daughter.

My consolation is that since she has bilateral clubfeet, I am hoping

that any discrepancy in the size of her calf muscles will be slight.

Her feet are symmetrical, so I think she won't look different.

Except of course for her teeth that will probably be black by the

time she enters school. Actually, to me that is worse than the feet

at this point. I dread the day that she stops smiling her big

beautiful smile because someone thoughtlessly makes a comment about

her teeth.

I think of you and Lilee often. I will pray that you get through

this quickly.

Donna