Guest guest Posted October 9, 2005 Report Share Posted October 9, 2005 How exactly is Tori having problems at school? Deb Tori is a mess > Tori has 7 boils on the inside of her legs so we took her to the DR on > friady she gave her a strong antibiotic and wants her to see an > infectious disease Dr. and she is also going to have an ultrasound > done on her neck on the left side she has a mass that pops out when > she laughs and it is getting larger so oh boy another thing to worry > about. we still have not heard from the 2 Dr's for the MRI's they have > till monday to call me or I will be back on the phone hounding them. > But the urine test did come back negitive for cancer so we are releved > for that Thank God! but he still wants to do the MRI. > Tori is still haveing a hard time in school I thought about takeing > her out and home schooling her but she loves going so IAm not sure. > There just seems to be no break. > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 9, 2005 Report Share Posted October 9, 2005 hey jamie!! i am so sorry to hear about everything that is going on with tori!! hang in there!! and let us know when you find out more!! i will keep her in my thopughts and prayers!! ((HUGS)) jodie c Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 9, 2005 Report Share Posted October 9, 2005 , I am praying for you and Tori. B 5 3/4 and Kelli 3 jamtorrss wrote: Tori has 7 boils on the inside of her legs so we took her to the DR on friady she gave her a strong antibiotic and wants her to see an infectious disease Dr. and she is also going to have an ultrasound done on her neck on the left side she has a mass that pops out when she laughs and it is getting larger so oh boy another thing to worry about. we still have not heard from the 2 Dr's for the MRI's they have till monday to call me or I will be back on the phone hounding them. But the urine test did come back negitive for cancer so we are releved for that Thank God! but he still wants to do the MRI. Tori is still haveing a hard time in school I thought about takeing her out and home schooling her but she loves going so IAm not sure. There just seems to be no break. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2005 Report Share Posted October 11, 2005 She just wants to be boss and when she does not get her way she throws a fit example- on Friday she did not want to hear the book so her teacher asked her to come sit by her cause she screamed and then said no threw herself on the floor and would not get up when told too so this took away from the reading time and she had to be put in time out. There are other things like waiting in line she will get impatient and push or pinch the person in front of her. She has a one on one aid most of the day. but still can not adjust. She is going to start seeing the counselor so hopefully that will help. Tori is a mess > Tori has 7 boils on the inside of her legs so we took her to the DR on > friady she gave her a strong antibiotic and wants her to see an > infectious disease Dr. and she is also going to have an ultrasound > done on her neck on the left side she has a mass that pops out when > she laughs and it is getting larger so oh boy another thing to worry > about. we still have not heard from the 2 Dr's for the MRI's they have > till monday to call me or I will be back on the phone hounding them. > But the urine test did come back negitive for cancer so we are releved > for that Thank God! but he still wants to do the MRI. > Tori is still haveing a hard time in school I thought about takeing > her out and home schooling her but she loves going so IAm not sure. > There just seems to be no break. > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2005 Report Share Posted October 11, 2005 With a one to one aide present you might be able to get a reward system going. It's a pretty taunting task for the regular teacher, but the aide could do it. Maybe start with the aide having a clip board with her at all times. Every one minute that Tori is on task (in other words following the classroom rules) she would get a tick or a sticker or whatever works for Tori. When she has 10 stickers/ticks; she can earn 10 minutes (?? less time???) doing something she loves (computer? playing in the house centre? puzzles??). Just make sure, if you did this, that Tori understands what is expected of her.If she is anything like Adam at that age (and believe me he was NOT going to do anything he didn't want to do....he's still like that to a certain extent!!) but Tori is probably smart enough to be completely aware of the rules, she is just choosing not to obey them because she doesn't want to!! If you can get the aide and teacher on board with this, it might help. Adam only seems to respond to that type of system. Time outs??/ They meant nothing to him, he'd sing and play with his fingers. No big deal to him and then when he got " out " he'd be right back at it again. Also something to ask the teacher. What are the other kids doing when she acts like this?? Adam hates being " looked at " and hates kids making fun of him but he will act so STUPID sometimes and he gets a big kick out of the kids paying attention to his stupidity. It's like he knows he is different and if they are going to " rib " him about being different or laugh at him, he's going to be in control of the laughing by being the one who DOES something to start it. Does that make any sense?? So if the other kids are laughing or saying things like " Tori is not listening again!! " or some such stuff, ask the teacher to please help you out, that you suspect she is enjoying the negative attention and that you would like for the teacher to PRACTICE (not just tell but practice ) with the other students how " we need to ignore Tori when she acts silly, no laughing, no pointing, no telling on her " . The teacher should only talk to the class when Tori is absent. If you don't have a doctor's day coming up soon, I would have the aide take Tori on a " walk " for awhile and the teacher can talk to them at that time. It will never be perfect, someone is going to react, but if at least half the kids stop reacting, she might stop as well.And really?? The teacher sets the tone. IF the teacher chooses to completely ignore Tori and (for Tori's safety) the aide handles it off from the group, the kids will follow the teacher's lead and ignore it as well. On the other hand if she is getting into power struggles with Tori by forcing her to listen to a story, she is giving the other kids a great show. She should know better than to get into a power struggle like that anyway. I hope some of this might help as well as the other things (counsellor) you are putting into action. Debby Tori is a mess > > > > Tori has 7 boils on the inside of her legs so we took her to the DR on > > friady she gave her a strong antibiotic and wants her to see an > > infectious disease Dr. and she is also going to have an ultrasound > > done on her neck on the left side she has a mass that pops out when > > she laughs and it is getting larger so oh boy another thing to worry > > about. we still have not heard from the 2 Dr's for the MRI's they have > > till monday to call me or I will be back on the phone hounding them. > > But the urine test did come back negitive for cancer so we are releved > > for that Thank God! but he still wants to do the MRI. > > Tori is still haveing a hard time in school I thought about takeing > > her out and home schooling her but she loves going so IAm not sure. > > There just seems to be no break. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2005 Report Share Posted October 11, 2005 - just read your post. Sorry to hear of your difficulties with Tori at school. Every child can be challenging at times - to varying degrees. I've seen my spin his head around a few times - and I've wondered who he was at the time - not the usual!! But, if it helps, I notice that sometimes my child is worse when I'm having bad days - and the culmination of my bad days seems to make him have even more bad days - it's definately a continuous circle sometimes. When I calm down - he calms down. Children are VERY perceptive. I'm not saying its you - that's not it at all - but, maybe it would help to view the world around Tori and see if something externally is bothering her. Just a thought. As far as Tori's health. My heart poors out to you. We will continue to pray for her and know that you and your family are thought of often. Please keep us posted. Sorry I missed your initial post. - H > > She just wants to be boss and when she does not get her way she throws a fit > example- on Friday she did not want to hear the book so her teacher asked her to come sit by her cause she screamed and then said no threw herself on the floor and would not get up when told too so this took away from the reading time and she had to be put in time out. > There are other things like waiting in line she will get impatient and push or pinch the person in front of her. > She has a one on one aid most of the day. but still can not adjust. She is going to start seeing the counselor so hopefully that will help. > > Tori is a mess > > > > Tori has 7 boils on the inside of her legs so we took her to the DR on > > friady she gave her a strong antibiotic and wants her to see an > > infectious disease Dr. and she is also going to have an ultrasound > > done on her neck on the left side she has a mass that pops out when > > she laughs and it is getting larger so oh boy another thing to worry > > about. we still have not heard from the 2 Dr's for the MRI's they have > > till monday to call me or I will be back on the phone hounding them. > > But the urine test did come back negitive for cancer so we are releved > > for that Thank God! but he still wants to do the MRI. > > Tori is still haveing a hard time in school I thought about takeing > > her out and home schooling her but she loves going so IAm not sure. > > There just seems to be no break. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2005 Report Share Posted October 12, 2005 Thanks for your help we are going to get a behavioral plan together that we can use at home and at school to help tori. Tori is a mess > > > > Tori has 7 boils on the inside of her legs so we took her to the DR on > > friady she gave her a strong antibiotic and wants her to see an > > infectious disease Dr. and she is also going to have an ultrasound > > done on her neck on the left side she has a mass that pops out when > > she laughs and it is getting larger so oh boy another thing to worry > > about. we still have not heard from the 2 Dr's for the MRI's they have > > till monday to call me or I will be back on the phone hounding them. > > But the urine test did come back negitive for cancer so we are releved > > for that Thank God! but he still wants to do the MRI. > > Tori is still haveing a hard time in school I thought about takeing > > her out and home schooling her but she loves going so IAm not sure. > > There just seems to be no break. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2005 Report Share Posted October 12, 2005 Thank you every little bit of Information helps and all the suggestions does give us something to work with and I spoke with the school counselor and she is going to meet with tori. Tori is a mess > > > > Tori has 7 boils on the inside of her legs so we took her to the DR on > > friady she gave her a strong antibiotic and wants her to see an > > infectious disease Dr. and she is also going to have an ultrasound > > done on her neck on the left side she has a mass that pops out when > > she laughs and it is getting larger so oh boy another thing to worry > > about. we still have not heard from the 2 Dr's for the MRI's they have > > till monday to call me or I will be back on the phone hounding them. > > But the urine test did come back negitive for cancer so we are releved > > for that Thank God! but he still wants to do the MRI. > > Tori is still haveing a hard time in school I thought about takeing > > her out and home schooling her but she loves going so IAm not sure. > > There just seems to be no break. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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