Re: Something strange about

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Jodi R,

I agree that my kids went through the terrible 2's then the HORRIBLE 3's

and calmed down around 4

hope this helps

Chrissy

[Guest guest]

Whew, I'm not sure. One think I noticed with our son, though, is that his

'terrible two's' seemed to get much worse at 3. Things got better at 4.

It sounds like might have a big-time gift of empathy, though!

Inga

At 08:58 PM 6/21/2005 +0000, you wrote:

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> Hey all. I have been noticing some strange behavior about

> lately. I guess it really isn't strange, per say. Anyway, whenever

> gets hurt flips out. I mean, he will start screaming

> and yelling like is dying. It is so weird. And also, if

> gets his bottom spanked will tell us to stop it. And,

> he yells and cries too. I don't really know what is going on or why

> he does it. Does anyone else have problems like this. I keep

> telling to calm down and not to yell and scream like that.

> But, he keeps doing it. So, will be crying because he got

> hurt, and will be screaming his head off. He is VERY

> protective of his brother, I guess. Maybe it is from all has

> been through, he doesn't want his big brother to feel the pain and

> hurt like he has????? I am stumped, and this is all I can come up

> with. had to get his kindergarten shots recently and

> just about had a break down. He was so mad and was mad at the

> nurse. Man, I just couldn't believe it. That is when it all

> started. Just within the last two months or so. About the time he

> turned 3. Anyone have any ideas or thoughts on this?

>

> Jodi R.

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[Guest guest]

--that is weird, my stepdaughter used to do that, but she was 1 and

kyla was just born, hers was just attention because it went to all

her and then her and the new baby, but she got over it, hopefully

andrew is just going through a phase and will get over it, ask the

next doctor you go see about it though, and invest in some ear plugs!

good luck, steph kyla 4 rss

- In RSS-Support , " Jodi " <rssboy2002@y...> wrote:

> Hey all. I have been noticing some strange behavior about

> lately. I guess it really isn't strange, per say. Anyway,

whenever

> gets hurt flips out. I mean, he will start

screaming

> and yelling like is dying. It is so weird. And also, if

> gets his bottom spanked will tell us to stop it.

And,

> he yells and cries too. I don't really know what is going on or

why

> he does it. Does anyone else have problems like this. I keep

> telling to calm down and not to yell and scream like that.

> But, he keeps doing it. So, will be crying because he got

> hurt, and will be screaming his head off. He is VERY

> protective of his brother, I guess. Maybe it is from all

has

> been through, he doesn't want his big brother to feel the pain and

> hurt like he has????? I am stumped, and this is all I can come up

> with. had to get his kindergarten shots recently and

> just about had a break down. He was so mad and was mad at the

> nurse. Man, I just couldn't believe it. That is when it all

> started. Just within the last two months or so. About the time he

> turned 3. Anyone have any ideas or thoughts on this?

>

> Jodi R.

[Guest guest]

Hi Jodi

We often add our adult experiences/thoughts to situations with our

kids. Empathy is a heavy duty emotion that usually develops much

later in kids. I have a feeling is reacting BECAUSE he wants

attention as well. In all of these situations, you are occupied with

his brother (or any other adult around) and he feels like getting in

on the action. It appears to us that he is being protective, when in

actual fact he's doing this all subconsciously and acting in the only

way he knows how to guarentee he gets attention. Not to say he's

being mean spirited or anything, he's only 3. But for 3, they are

very egotistical still.

So what to do? One thing you might try is anticipating when this will

occur(now injuries are not anticipated, but needles at the doctor's

is) and before hand you might try engaging in a job of

responsibility with his brother (maybe hold his hand, or hold his

shoes, or try to make him laugh......something) and then he will feel

he has " something to do " besides watch his brother get all the adult

attention.

Likewise, when his brother is hurt could be recruited to do

something to help his brother.

Just some thoughts.

Debby

[Guest guest]

HI Jodi,

Debby took the words right out of my mouth. I too was thinking this

was more attention getting behavior than protection behavior.

Ken M

> Hi Jodi

> We often add our adult experiences/thoughts to situations with our

> kids. Empathy is a heavy duty emotion that usually develops much

> later in kids. I have a feeling is reacting BECAUSE he wants

> attention as well. In all of these situations, you are occupied

with

> his brother (or any other adult around) and he feels like getting

in

> on the action. It appears to us that he is being protective, when

in

> actual fact he's doing this all subconsciously and acting in the

only

> way he knows how to guarentee he gets attention. Not to say he's

> being mean spirited or anything, he's only 3. But for 3, they are

> very egotistical still.

>

> So what to do? One thing you might try is anticipating when this

will

> occur(now injuries are not anticipated, but needles at the doctor's

> is) and before hand you might try engaging in a job of

> responsibility with his brother (maybe hold his hand, or hold his

> shoes, or try to make him laugh......something) and then he will

feel

> he has " something to do " besides watch his brother get all the

adult

> attention.

> Likewise, when his brother is hurt could be recruited to do

> something to help his brother.

>

> Just some thoughts.

> Debby

[Guest guest]

and Emerence are the same way but Emerence (29 mos) much more

so....it is nice to know they care but when they wig out then it gets

alittle difficult.

, mom to MIchael 5 and Emerence 2, 29 mo 32 " 21 lbs.

> Hey all. I have been noticing some strange behavior about

> lately. I guess it really isn't strange, per say. Anyway,

whenever

> gets hurt flips out. I mean, he will start

screaming

> and yelling like is dying. It is so weird. And also, if

> gets his bottom spanked will tell us to stop it.

And,

> he yells and cries too. I don't really know what is going on or

why

> he does it. Does anyone else have problems like this. I keep

> telling to calm down and not to yell and scream like that.

> But, he keeps doing it. So, will be crying because he got

> hurt, and will be screaming his head off. He is VERY

> protective of his brother, I guess. Maybe it is from all

has

> been through, he doesn't want his big brother to feel the pain and

> hurt like he has????? I am stumped, and this is all I can come up

> with. had to get his kindergarten shots recently and

> just about had a break down. He was so mad and was mad at the

> nurse. Man, I just couldn't believe it. That is when it all

> started. Just within the last two months or so. About the time he

> turned 3. Anyone have any ideas or thoughts on this?

>

> Jodi R.

[Guest guest]

Hey Jodi

I know when Kelli was born and would obviously cry because she was hungry

would flip out. She would rush me to go pick her up. She out grew that after a

few weeks but I guess it was just the anxiety of maybe something being wrong.

Now if is crying Kelli looks at her and says what's wrong ash. It's so

cute.

B

5 1/2 and Kelli 2 3/4

Jodi wrote:

Hey all. I have been noticing some strange behavior about

lately. I guess it really isn't strange, per say. Anyway, whenever

gets hurt flips out. I mean, he will start screaming

and yelling like is dying. It is so weird. And also, if

gets his bottom spanked will tell us to stop it. And,

he yells and cries too. I don't really know what is going on or why

he does it. Does anyone else have problems like this. I keep

telling to calm down and not to yell and scream like that.

But, he keeps doing it. So, will be crying because he got

hurt, and will be screaming his head off. He is VERY

protective of his brother, I guess. Maybe it is from all has

been through, he doesn't want his big brother to feel the pain and

hurt like he has????? I am stumped, and this is all I can come up

with. had to get his kindergarten shots recently and

just about had a break down. He was so mad and was mad at the

nurse. Man, I just couldn't believe it. That is when it all

started. Just within the last two months or so. About the time he

turned 3. Anyone have any ideas or thoughts on this?

Jodi R.

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[Guest guest]

Awww. That is cute. does this all the time. I asked him why

he screams and cries like that and he sasy because he is scared

is hurt. And he sasy he doesn't like it when cries.

So, I think it is an extreme case of emapthy at this early age. I

know he isn't trying to get attention for it. That just isn't the

way he acts at all. I'll say to , " do you want me to spank

your bottom " and will say " No Mommy, no! " He is just avery

sensitive child. When I pretend to cry after he has said something

not very nice will quickly hug me and change his story. It is

kind of funny to see him act this way. I think it is incredible that

he has such sensitivity at this young of an age. I hope he continues

to care about people the way he does. Maybe it has something to do

with all he has been through, or maybe that is just his personality.

Anyway, thanks for your response.

Jodi R.

, aka Mr. Sensitive (won't all the girls love that???)

hee,hee.

> Hey all. I have been noticing some strange behavior about

> lately. I guess it really isn't strange, per say. Anyway,

whenever

> gets hurt flips out. I mean, he will start

screaming

> and yelling like is dying. It is so weird. And also, if

> gets his bottom spanked will tell us to stop it.

And,

> he yells and cries too. I don't really know what is going on or

why

> he does it. Does anyone else have problems like this. I keep

> telling to calm down and not to yell and scream like that.

> But, he keeps doing it. So, will be crying because he got

> hurt, and will be screaming his head off. He is VERY

> protective of his brother, I guess. Maybe it is from all

has

> been through, he doesn't want his big brother to feel the pain and

> hurt like he has????? I am stumped, and this is all I can come up

> with. had to get his kindergarten shots recently and

> just about had a break down. He was so mad and was mad at the

> nurse. Man, I just couldn't believe it. That is when it all

> started. Just within the last two months or so. About the time he

> turned 3. Anyone have any ideas or thoughts on this?

>

> Jodi R.

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