Need advice - new job/ 2nd interview / what to say - or not???

[Guest guest]

Hi,

I had a promising interview today and was supposed to hear in 2

weeks when I was coming back for a second...well I left the

interview at 12 and by 5 had a email asking me to call tomorrow and

set up followup interviews. I can't believe it! I've been lookign

for a while and haven't had much luck finding close to home (I don't

want to commute back to Boston 1+ hrs a day). And my current job is

just getting worse after the layoff of 63% of the company in May so

I just applied to a posting they had for sales/marketing because I

saw they were so close to home even though I wasn't qualified (I was

hoping they would have something else avial = and they did!!

Apparently they liked my resume and was the only one with client

service experience - go figure - they asked for sales and mkting so

I am the only candidate and they haven't posted to monster either!)

Anyway, it is a small company - about 20 employees and privately

owned (husband and wife). They create customer relationship

management software for asset management firms (I am currently in

client services in a financial company). I know if Emerence goes on

GH she'll see her endo every 3 months. PLus she might get sick. I

tend to be an honest person and my thought is to get to the point

where they offer the job and then say I will be taking probably " x "

number of 1/2 or full days for dr appts. Or is that just a bad

idea and killing my chance at the job?

Has anyone out there changed jobs with an SGA/RSS child???

THANKS

, mom to 5 and Emerence

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I have changed jobs a number of times. I would not bring it up.

On the other hand, if they ask, tell them about your daughter and

that you need to take sometime off for Drs. appointments. Don't

try to name a specific number because you never know how

many days you will need.

However, if you feel you must mention your daughter without

being asked, tell them she has a growth disorder and that you

may need sometime off for doctors etc. Again, don't try and be

specific.

Don't try and hide anything, but on the other hand don't be

volunteering a lot of personal information. Just keep focused

what the job is and how you can use your vast skills and

experience to solve their problems. Try and relate what you have

done to their needs.

I hope this helps.

Ken M

> Hi,

>

> I had a promising interview today and was supposed to hear in

2

> weeks when I was coming back for a second...well I left the

> interview at 12 and by 5 had a email asking me to call

tomorrow and

> set up followup interviews. I can't believe it! I've been lookign

> for a while and haven't had much luck finding close to home (I

don't

> want to commute back to Boston 1+ hrs a day). And my current

job is

> just getting worse after the layoff of 63% of the company in May

so

> I just applied to a posting they had for sales/marketing

because I

> saw they were so close to home even though I wasn't qualified

(I was

> hoping they would have something else avial = and they did!!

> Apparently they liked my resume and was the only one with

client

> service experience - go figure - they asked for sales and

mkting so

> I am the only candidate and they haven't posted to monster

either!)

>

> Anyway, it is a small company - about 20 employees and

privately

> owned (husband and wife). They create customer relationship

> management software for asset management firms (I am

currently in

> client services in a financial company). I know if Emerence

goes on

> GH she'll see her endo every 3 months. PLus she might get

sick. I

> tend to be an honest person and my thought is to get to the

point

> where they offer the job and then say I will be taking probably

" x "

> number of 1/2 or full days for dr appts. Or is that just a bad

> idea and killing my chance at the job?

>

> Has anyone out there changed jobs with an SGA/RSS child???

>

> THANKS

> , mom to 5 and Emerence

[Guest guest]

Does the company give regular allotments of annual or sick leave? You

might not take off much more of those kinds of leave than their employees

with large families. Perhaps it isn't something you'd need to say unless

specifically asked.

Inga

At 03:32 AM 9/7/2005 +0000, you wrote:

>Hi,

>

>I had a promising interview today and was supposed to hear in 2

>weeks when I was coming back for a second...well I left the

>interview at 12 and by 5 had a email asking me to call tomorrow and

>set up followup interviews. I can't believe it! I've been lookign

>for a while and haven't had much luck finding close to home (I don't

>want to commute back to Boston 1+ hrs a day). And my current job is

>just getting worse after the layoff of 63% of the company in May so

>I just applied to a posting they had for sales/marketing because I

>saw they were so close to home even though I wasn't qualified (I was

>hoping they would have something else avial = and they did!!

>Apparently they liked my resume and was the only one with client

>service experience - go figure - they asked for sales and mkting so

>I am the only candidate and they haven't posted to monster either!)

>

>Anyway, it is a small company - about 20 employees and privately

>owned (husband and wife). They create customer relationship

>management software for asset management firms (I am currently in

>client services in a financial company). I know if Emerence goes on

>GH she'll see her endo every 3 months. PLus she might get sick. I

>tend to be an honest person and my thought is to get to the point

>where they offer the job and then say I will be taking probably " x "

>number of 1/2 or full days for dr appts. Or is that just a bad

>idea and killing my chance at the job?

>

>Has anyone out there changed jobs with an SGA/RSS child???

>

>THANKS

>, mom to 5 and Emerence

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I just switched jobs about two years ago. In my interview I took

the stance that I was interviewing them as much as they were

interviewing me and I think it really helped. I did tell them that

I am a hard worker and always make my deadlines - but I told them

that if I get a call that one of my kids is sick, I pick up my purse

and leave because that is my priority. I don't want to be in fear

of losing a job because I have to leave. I did tell them that I had

several medical emergencies with Zoe when she was a baby. I told

them that I get my work done even if it means working from home or

coming in at midnight.

They told me later that was what sold them on me. I was honest and

they could tell I was making sure they were the right fit for me and

my family. I really think that helps. This company is self insured

and still hired me knowing the Zoe had a growth disorder.

(mom to Zoe and lurking late at nightto catch up)

> Hi,

>

> I had a promising interview today and was supposed to hear in 2

> weeks when I was coming back for a second...well I left the

> interview at 12 and by 5 had a email asking me to call tomorrow

and

> set up followup interviews. I can't believe it! I've been

lookign

> for a while and haven't had much luck finding close to home (I

don't

> want to commute back to Boston 1+ hrs a day). And my current job

is

> just getting worse after the layoff of 63% of the company in May

so

> I just applied to a posting they had for sales/marketing because I

> saw they were so close to home even though I wasn't qualified (I

was

> hoping they would have something else avial = and they did!!

> Apparently they liked my resume and was the only one with client

> service experience - go figure - they asked for sales and mkting

so

> I am the only candidate and they haven't posted to monster either!)

>

> Anyway, it is a small company - about 20 employees and privately

> owned (husband and wife). They create customer relationship

> management software for asset management firms (I am currently in

> client services in a financial company). I know if Emerence goes

on

> GH she'll see her endo every 3 months. PLus she might get sick.

I

> tend to be an honest person and my thought is to get to the point

> where they offer the job and then say I will be taking

probably " x "

> number of 1/2 or full days for dr appts. Or is that just a bad

> idea and killing my chance at the job?

>

> Has anyone out there changed jobs with an SGA/RSS child???

>

> THANKS

> , mom to 5 and Emerence

[Guest guest]

To all those working moms.......

My husband and I comment all the time how much we admire all of you

mom's who work - and - hold second jobs with not just our children -

but also with our special needs children. My husband usually gets

me to " shape up " when I'm feeling sorry for myself by mentioning -

" hey, think of those mom's who work too! " . I just want you all to

know that you are ALL doing a fantastic job - and to be honest, I

probably couldn't do what you do - work and deal with the children.

Kudos to all of you. You are greatly admired.

Okay - my boys are playing in the laundry room sink making a huge

mess, yesterday I flooded the kitchen, my custom drapes that were

installed yesterday are the wrong color, and the well we drilled 640

feet into the ground is DRY. LOL LOL Can you believe I'm actually

in a good mood today ??

- H

> > Hi,

> >

> > I had a promising interview today and was supposed to hear in 2

> > weeks when I was coming back for a second...well I left the

> > interview at 12 and by 5 had a email asking me to call tomorrow

> and

> > set up followup interviews. I can't believe it! I've been

> lookign

> > for a while and haven't had much luck finding close to home (I

> don't

> > want to commute back to Boston 1+ hrs a day). And my current

job

> is

> > just getting worse after the layoff of 63% of the company in May

> so

> > I just applied to a posting they had for sales/marketing because

I

> > saw they were so close to home even though I wasn't qualified (I

> was

> > hoping they would have something else avial = and they did!!

> > Apparently they liked my resume and was the only one with client

> > service experience - go figure - they asked for sales and mkting

> so

> > I am the only candidate and they haven't posted to monster

either!)

> >

> > Anyway, it is a small company - about 20 employees and privately

> > owned (husband and wife). They create customer relationship

> > management software for asset management firms (I am currently

in

> > client services in a financial company). I know if Emerence

goes

> on

> > GH she'll see her endo every 3 months. PLus she might get

sick.

> I

> > tend to be an honest person and my thought is to get to the

point

> > where they offer the job and then say I will be taking

> probably " x "

> > number of 1/2 or full days for dr appts. Or is that just a bad

> > idea and killing my chance at the job?

> >

> > Has anyone out there changed jobs with an SGA/RSS child???

> >

> > THANKS

> > , mom to 5 and Emerence

[Guest guest]

Oh, this is a tough one. I have always said honesty is the best

policy. However, when you need a job! I was offered a job out of

the blue 14 years ago that wanted me to start two weeks before my

wedding (and planned two week honeymoon). Of course, I had to be

honest.

However, I am not sure you want to be honest in this situation.

Because there is more at stake than just how many days off -- it is

a health insurance situation too.

Does it have to be you everytime taking her to the endo checkups? I

guess I would recommend MINIMIZING it. You could say that your

daughter has a growth disorder which involves a doctor's checkup

every 3 months. The fact is that every parent with kids has kids

who get sick and have to go to the drs. But you can be honest up

front about the 4 1/2 days -- be willing to take the time off

without pay (just say that, but you will probably have accrued time

by then anyway). But I would NOT go anywhere near mentioning the

growth hormone, I would NOT discuss how many times she has been in

the hospital, etc.

Just me.... Jenn

> > > Hi,

> > >

> > > I had a promising interview today and was supposed to hear in

2

> > > weeks when I was coming back for a second...well I left the

> > > interview at 12 and by 5 had a email asking me to call

tomorrow

> > and

> > > set up followup interviews. I can't believe it! I've been

> > lookign

> > > for a while and haven't had much luck finding close to home (I

> > don't

> > > want to commute back to Boston 1+ hrs a day). And my current

> job

> > is

> > > just getting worse after the layoff of 63% of the company in

May

> > so

> > > I just applied to a posting they had for sales/marketing

because

> I

> > > saw they were so close to home even though I wasn't qualified

(I

> > was

> > > hoping they would have something else avial = and they did!!

> > > Apparently they liked my resume and was the only one with

client

> > > service experience - go figure - they asked for sales and

mkting

> > so

> > > I am the only candidate and they haven't posted to monster

> either!)

> > >

> > > Anyway, it is a small company - about 20 employees and

privately

> > > owned (husband and wife). They create customer relationship

> > > management software for asset management firms (I am currently

> in

> > > client services in a financial company). I know if Emerence

> goes

> > on

> > > GH she'll see her endo every 3 months. PLus she might get

> sick.

> > I

> > > tend to be an honest person and my thought is to get to the

> point

> > > where they offer the job and then say I will be taking

> > probably " x "

> > > number of 1/2 or full days for dr appts. Or is that just a

bad

> > > idea and killing my chance at the job?

> > >

> > > Has anyone out there changed jobs with an SGA/RSS child???

> > >

> > > THANKS

> > > , mom to 5 and Emerence

[Guest guest]

Hello! I can't believe your area is that dry...there should be a

water table there somewhere! I don't remember it being t hat dry

anyway, but then again I escaped home to MA for summer breaks anyway!

Actually, I admire all the SAHMs...I just would not be able to do

it. I am not create enough to stay home and do wonderful projects

with my kids! I am so lucky that we love our daycare - lots of time

on the playground and a lot of educational stuff. And, my mom has

them 1 day a week so that really helps. Although, frankly where most

of us work I'm sure we feel like we are reasoning with a 2 year old

having a tantrum now and then!

HOwever, I must say that all my SAHM friends have very organized

houses...should anyone ever visit me please be warned its clean but

not picked up...

, mom to , 5 starts K Monday and Emerence 2.5 22 lbs 32 "

> > > Hi,

> > >

> > > I had a promising interview today and was supposed to hear in

2

> > > weeks when I was coming back for a second...well I left the

> > > interview at 12 and by 5 had a email asking me to call

tomorrow

> > and

> > > set up followup interviews. I can't believe it! I've been

> > lookign

> > > for a while and haven't had much luck finding close to home (I

> > don't

> > > want to commute back to Boston 1+ hrs a day). And my current

> job

> > is

> > > just getting worse after the layoff of 63% of the company in

May

> > so

> > > I just applied to a posting they had for sales/marketing

because

> I

> > > saw they were so close to home even though I wasn't qualified

(I

> > was

> > > hoping they would have something else avial = and they did!!

> > > Apparently they liked my resume and was the only one with

client

> > > service experience - go figure - they asked for sales and

mkting

> > so

> > > I am the only candidate and they haven't posted to monster

> either!)

> > >

> > > Anyway, it is a small company - about 20 employees and

privately

> > > owned (husband and wife). They create customer relationship

> > > management software for asset management firms (I am currently

> in

> > > client services in a financial company). I know if Emerence

> goes

> > on

> > > GH she'll see her endo every 3 months. PLus she might get

> sick.

> > I

> > > tend to be an honest person and my thought is to get to the

> point

> > > where they offer the job and then say I will be taking

> > probably " x "

> > > number of 1/2 or full days for dr appts. Or is that just a

bad

> > > idea and killing my chance at the job?

> > >

> > > Has anyone out there changed jobs with an SGA/RSS child???

> > >

> > > THANKS

> > > , mom to 5 and Emerence

[Guest guest]

Thanks, it is a small company but we will probably stay with the

health ins at my husband's company...the weekly payments are very

cheap but the copays are not...however, we shall see if I even get

this far...after this past week at my job, I am done...toast, stick

a fork in me (or rather my vp please )

Well, we'll see what happens MOnday...

MEgan, mom to 5 and Emerence 2.5

> > > > Hi,

> > > >

> > > > I had a promising interview today and was supposed to hear

in

> 2

> > > > weeks when I was coming back for a second...well I left the

> > > > interview at 12 and by 5 had a email asking me to call

> tomorrow

> > > and

> > > > set up followup interviews. I can't believe it! I've been

> > > lookign

> > > > for a while and haven't had much luck finding close to home

(I

> > > don't

> > > > want to commute back to Boston 1+ hrs a day). And my

current

> > job

> > > is

> > > > just getting worse after the layoff of 63% of the company in

> May

> > > so

> > > > I just applied to a posting they had for sales/marketing

> because

> > I

> > > > saw they were so close to home even though I wasn't

qualified

> (I

> > > was

> > > > hoping they would have something else avial = and they

did!!

> > > > Apparently they liked my resume and was the only one with

> client

> > > > service experience - go figure - they asked for sales and

> mkting

> > > so

> > > > I am the only candidate and they haven't posted to monster

> > either!)

> > > >

> > > > Anyway, it is a small company - about 20 employees and

> privately

> > > > owned (husband and wife). They create customer relationship

> > > > management software for asset management firms (I am

currently

> > in

> > > > client services in a financial company). I know if Emerence

> > goes

> > > on

> > > > GH she'll see her endo every 3 months. PLus she might get

> > sick.

> > > I

> > > > tend to be an honest person and my thought is to get to the

> > point

> > > > where they offer the job and then say I will be taking

> > > probably " x "

> > > > number of 1/2 or full days for dr appts. Or is that just a

> bad

> > > > idea and killing my chance at the job?

> > > >

> > > > Has anyone out there changed jobs with an SGA/RSS child???

> > > >

> > > > THANKS

> > > > , mom to 5 and Emerence