Re: Can anyone relate to this?

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In a message dated 12/11/01 8:04:00 PM, duodenalswitch writes:

<< For to many reasons, and because I would never do it justice, Thank you

for the post below!

>>

Lisbeth: Thanks! I'm glad it spoke to you in some way. I'm still trying

to work out the mental and emotional reasons for my obesity. And, in

admitting such, I am in NO way saying that it was my 'fault' or that there

isn't a genetic component (I know there is--- morbid obesity runs in my

family as well as the severe co-morbidities that accompany it). I just know

that I have a tendancy to eat emotionally (especially when I'm stressed out

-- and this is becoming clearer to me now that I just CAN'T eat as much

anymore). I know that there are emotional reasons why I got to the point I

did and I have to address these now that I'm getting thinner.

Actually, some of my most hurtful moments (especially romantically) were when

I was thinner. I'm still trying to deal with the feelings that are coming up

now that I'm thinner and people are noticing me. Thank God, no one has

really hit on me (yet? LOL still hopin', right) but I've seen men look more

at me or take notice of me.. It feels good but it's also quite threatening at

the same time....

So I look at this rebirth with a mix of positive and negative feelings...

It's frustrating yet freeing; it provides me with more confidence but also

makes me feel more insecure; There are days when I just want to feel STUNNING

and other days when I just want to go out without makeup and slouch in a

chair in the corner....

Quite a journey, eh?

all the best,

lap ds with gallbladder removal

January 25, 2001

Dr. Gagner/Mt. Sinai/NYC

10 months post-op and still feelin' fabu

preop: 307 lbs/bmi 45

now: 198 lbs/bmi 28/size sweet 16 but squeezin' into a size 14! LOL

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--- teresa.. my term was up last may. i was on for 3 years. i had a

blast and learned a lot. i ran for state rep, but lost .. this

time! my weight is coming off and i am feeling so much better.

because i took control of the situation! there are more issues that

i am faced with daily, but i get through them.

thanks for your reply. i share your sentiments!

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,

One of the best parts of this surgery besides the weight loss, and feeling

better physically for me is finally feeling better on the inside I dont know how

but as the weight comes off I am making peace with myself....And not beacuse the

weight is coming off but because regardless of the weight life will go on...Its

the choices we make that make it a good or a bad life....Having the DS was a

good choice and everything that followed afterwards whether good, bad or

indifferent is a by-product of saying " I want a better life for myself " or at

least that is how I look at my desicion to date....

LOL I am a coward so I am always thankfull for the older post-ops who still post

it gives me a voyeuristic glimpse at what I can expect down the line! Keep your

posts coming I enjoy them immensenly and you have to post a picture of

your daughter I want to know what she looks like she sounds as cute as a button!

Lisbeth

ruisha@... wrote:

In a message dated 12/11/01 8:04:00 PM, duodenalswitch writes:

<< For to many reasons, and because I would never do it justice, Thank you

for the post below!

>>

Lisbeth: Thanks! I'm glad it spoke to you in some way. I'm still trying

to work out the mental and emotional reasons for my obesity. And, in

admitting such, I am in NO way saying that it was my 'fault' or that there

isn't a genetic component (I know there is--- morbid obesity runs in my

family as well as the severe co-morbidities that accompany it). I just know

that I have a tendancy to eat emotionally (especially when I'm stressed out

-- and this is becoming clearer to me now that I just CAN'T eat as much

anymore). I know that there are emotional reasons why I got to the point I

did and I have to address these now that I'm getting thinner.

Actually, some of my most hurtful moments (especially romantically) were when

I was thinner. I'm still trying to deal with the feelings that are coming up

now that I'm thinner and people are noticing me. Thank God, no one has

really hit on me (yet? LOL still hopin', right) but I've seen men look more

at me or take notice of me.. It feels good but it's also quite threatening at

the same time....

So I look at this rebirth with a mix of positive and negative feelings...

It's frustrating yet freeing; it provides me with more confidence but also

makes me feel more insecure; There are days when I just want to feel STUNNING

and other days when I just want to go out without makeup and slouch in a

chair in the corner....

Quite a journey, eh?

all the best,

lap ds with gallbladder removal

January 25, 2001

Dr. Gagner/Mt. Sinai/NYC

10 months post-op and still feelin' fabu

preop: 307 lbs/bmi 45

now: 198 lbs/bmi 28/size sweet 16 but squeezin' into a size 14! LOL

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I've been dealing with the same thing. it really irritates the hell

out of me that people who deemed me unworthy of attention now want to

stop and speak with me. Then there's the " you're so different! " I've

started telling them, " No, I'm not. I'm still the same person I've

always been. The packaging has just changed. " This is one issue I

knew I'd have problems with.

Last year, when I first started researching WLS I told a dear friend

what I was planning. She said, " What will you do when the first man

asks you out post-op? " My reply was that I'd probably smack him

upside the head. Obviously, I had a lot of anger to deal with. I've

been getting some counselling since about 6 months pre-op. My

therapist is great! She's used to dealing with WLS patients (all RNY,

of course.) It still gets to me, but I'm learning to deal with it

better.

Good luck,

P

post-op 05-30-01

down 98 lbs!

> Why is it that I am getting so sick and tired of people

complimenting

> me on my weight loss. I feel so bad when someone asks me how I did

> it and I reply that I eat less. I don't want to discuss surgery

> openly at work (at least for now). I especially don't feel like

> explaining the whole thing to normal weight people that don't

> understand what it is like to be MO. I feel guilty when people

> compliment me as if I cheated. I know that this wasn't easy and I

> still struggle with it, but I feel as if people would judge me

poorly

> if they knew the truth. I am also getting so tired of people I

don't

> even know at work coming up to me and saying something about my

> loss. I work in a big place with thousands of people in the

> facility. Every day someone makes mention of my weight loss.

Today

> it started with one of the cooks in our cafeteria and there were

> about 5 others since then. Why do people think it is OK to talk to

> me now that I am *normal* and they never did when I was obese? Why

> don't I feel so different? People keep saying that I must feel

> great, but I still feel like the same person. Sure I can do more

> things with less or no pain, but inside I am still the same. Well,

I

> guess since I had my guts rearranged I am not the same inside

> either. I think this kind of reminds me of when I was at the end

of

> my pregnancies and I was constantly being asked about the baby.

> Perfect strangers in stores asking me all kinds of personal

> questions. I know people were only trying to be nice, as they are

> now, but I sure get tired of having the same conversation all day,

> every day. Especially with people that have never been MO.

>

> Kathy M. - happy with my results, but sick of talking about it to

> everyone

> DS 7/19/01

> 213 pre-op

> 135 today