Re: The man's voice.....

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Let me tell ya Jodi your not alone!!!

When Lou comes home form work and says to me so what did you do all day I

want to kick him in his shins.

I just recently stopped working but I picked up alot more work at home and

when he pulls his crap about stress or being tired I wanna lose it. If only

they had a clue.

Chrissy

[Guest guest]

I am with ya! Rod is very supportive and always says my job is harder

than his and always comments on how much I do, but sometimes when he is

sitting in his Lazy Boy and I am running around like a crazy woman, I

want to say " Hey, get off your butt and help me out, would ya!? " I get

stressed when the boys are fighting with each other and when I am

trying to do somehting with and he is running around laughing

and being a dork. Ugh, help here please. ) But, a lot of it is my

fault because I rarely ask for his help.

Jodi R.

> Let me tell ya Jodi your not alone!!!

> When Lou comes home form work and says to me so what did you do all

day I

> want to kick him in his shins.

> I just recently stopped working but I picked up alot more work at

home and

> when he pulls his crap about stress or being tired I wanna lose it.

If only

> they had a clue.

> Chrissy

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Jodi R,

I do ask for help, but when gets overwhelmed, I might as

well be talking to the wall.

Oh - and I just went to the doctor to be checked for h pylori. I

forgot I had it 2 years ago. Now the doctor did a bloodtest to see

if I have antibodies from it. If so, then I will have to have an

endoscopy myself. Oh, it's much more complicated than that, but

that's the basic stuff. He said that it's not likely that the h

pylori infection will ever go away, though. There are just flare-

ups. 40% of the population tests positive for this and antibiotics

only treat a small percentage of that.

More stress for me now.

And my husband just decided he can't handle it, so he took off and

went to his father's to go to synagogue. Meanwhile, I'm home

cooking, cleaning up, paying bills, going to the doctor, setting the

table.... I even bought my own flowers for the table 'cause I know

he won't even thing of doing that. I feel underappreciated and used

up.

The doctor told me I look too tired and to go home and take a nap.

I think I'll follow his orders. Thanks for letting me vent.

Jodi Z

[Guest guest]

hey jodi!!

that just sucks!! that is one thing i am glad about terry is not like

that in any way!! ((HUGS)) feel better and take the nap you deserve

it!! so i guess the h polyri is like the epstein barr (mono) that you

always have it and it can flare up from time to time?! that sucks!! i

get the mono flare ups!!

jodie c

[Guest guest]

Jodi - I apologize for barging in - sorry to hear about the man.

You know, if you came back as a man - all you would end up having is

us women telling you what to do! I say, ask him for help - I've

found writing down your exact requirements of him (maybe it's just

cleaning the toilets that day would help you) and maybe that would

ease your feeling of " doing everything yourself " . It works for me -

sometimes, not always.

Hugs - sorry you are dealing with so much lately.

- H

> ,

>

> I'm not too happy with that man's voice this morning. I'm

referring

> to my husband. Whenever things around here get a bit stressed,

and

> I'd say that the stress level in the Zwain household is a bit

high,

> he just retreats into his shell and little gets done on his part.

> He plays solitaire and poker on his laptop and just spaces out.

> Even my kids notice it and last night were telling him to stop

with

> the computer and pay attention to them and a show they were

watching

> together.

>

> I guess my stress level is so high, I'm working fulltime, I'm the

> one calling the doctors and taking Max to the appts., I'm trying

to

> hold onto my Orton Gillingham scholarship (they agreed to defer it

> for a couple of weeks until we get Max straightened out) and I've

> been cooking like crazy for Rosh Hashanah today. Meanwhile,

> just eats what I cook, plays on the computer and goes to bed.

>

> I did not even mention the laundry I have done, the kitchen I just

> cleaned up (I got rid of a lot of clutter in there - it's too

small

> for clutter).... I'm at wit's end and all he did was say he's had

> it and then he left a bit earlier to pick up his dad to go to

> services with him.

>

> UGH! In my next life, I want to be a man.

>

> Jodi Z

[Guest guest]

You know what I love? I love the fact that our working

men get to leave their work in another place.. while

we live in our 24/7! Where is our physical break from

our work? Where did my soap box go? Now I do have to

say that over the past few months my hubby has gotten

alot better. NOt only do I stay home.. but I

homeschool our 5 year old also. I let my hubby know up

fron the house will not be cleaned everday if he

wanted me to homeschool. It drives me nuts when

everything isn't done.. but at least doesn't

comment about it when he's home. He catches me up on

the laundry every weekend. I wish I could leave my

work after 7 or 9 hours and not live in it!

Ok... I feel better...

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- I envy you - I could never homeschool - not smart enough

<grin>.

= H

> You know what I love? I love the fact that our working

> men get to leave their work in another place.. while

> we live in our 24/7! Where is our physical break from

> our work? Where did my soap box go? Now I do have to

> say that over the past few months my hubby has gotten

> alot better. NOt only do I stay home.. but I

> homeschool our 5 year old also. I let my hubby know up

> fron the house will not be cleaned everday if he

> wanted me to homeschool. It drives me nuts when

> everything isn't done.. but at least doesn't

> comment about it when he's home. He catches me up on

> the laundry every weekend. I wish I could leave my

> work after 7 or 9 hours and not live in it!

>

> Ok... I feel better...

>

>

>

>

>

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> http://mail.yahoo.com

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Ok all you ladies out there. I am almost afraid to write on here. But just stop

and take a deep breath for a minute. I am a Man and i just had to respond.

Please do not take it out on all Men. There are alot of good one's to. Maybe you

all should get divorced move to ND and find a good German or Norwegian Man. We

know how to take good care of our ladies. Now i suppose i will get bombarded by

all the men. If thats the case i just moved to Ohio. No seriously for those of

you that have no help from your spouses i feel sorry for you. This is alot of

work and for one person to do it on her own i just can't imagine. I see what my

Daughter goes thru and man my heart goes out to each and everyone of

you. I won't say nothing else because i don't want to get into trouble with

either gender. But just work together.

Love to you all

Sheldon(G-Pa to my angel Laikyn RSS from North dakota)

Home of the Largest Walleye

The man's voice.....

,

I'm not too happy with that man's voice this morning. I'm referring

to my husband. Whenever things around here get a bit stressed, and

I'd say that the stress level in the Zwain household is a bit high,

he just retreats into his shell and little gets done on his part.

He plays solitaire and poker on his laptop and just spaces out.

Even my kids notice it and last night were telling him to stop with

the computer and pay attention to them and a show they were watching

together.

I guess my stress level is so high, I'm working fulltime, I'm the

one calling the doctors and taking Max to the appts., I'm trying to

hold onto my Orton Gillingham scholarship (they agreed to defer it

for a couple of weeks until we get Max straightened out) and I've

been cooking like crazy for Rosh Hashanah today. Meanwhile,

just eats what I cook, plays on the computer and goes to bed.

I did not even mention the laundry I have done, the kitchen I just

cleaned up (I got rid of a lot of clutter in there - it's too small

for clutter).... I'm at wit's end and all he did was say he's had

it and then he left a bit earlier to pick up his dad to go to

services with him.

UGH! In my next life, I want to be a man.

Jodi Z

[Guest guest]

Jodi you are amazing. You did all that and you still did the best as always for

your children and made them happy. Believe me I understand. I have my moments

complaining about Randy but to be honest (without bragging), he is a great help.

My complaints with him are when I feel that he second guesses me. Of course

there is the occasional why didnt' you pick up while I was out but then I think

there are just some days we both have of feeling I don't feel like doing it. I

told you I rent him (my per diem husband - lol) so you might want to rent him

yourself. He does all the laundry and usually gets home before me so he does

dinner and usually the clean up. I give the kids their baths and wash their

hair. The best is the winter since he's home all winter. I really don't do

anything.

Sounds like doesn't know what to do for Max or anyone and instead of

saying that he hides out maybe? From what I know of he really cares.

Hang in there and try to just tell him that you have to work together to get

through it. The best is that he heard from the kids himself and not you

speaking on their behalf. I bet that hit hard.

B

Jodi Zwain wrote:

,

I'm not too happy with that man's voice this morning. I'm referring

to my husband. Whenever things around here get a bit stressed, and

I'd say that the stress level in the Zwain household is a bit high,

he just retreats into his shell and little gets done on his part.

He plays solitaire and poker on his laptop and just spaces out.

Even my kids notice it and last night were telling him to stop with

the computer and pay attention to them and a show they were watching

together.

I guess my stress level is so high, I'm working fulltime, I'm the

one calling the doctors and taking Max to the appts., I'm trying to

hold onto my Orton Gillingham scholarship (they agreed to defer it

for a couple of weeks until we get Max straightened out) and I've

been cooking like crazy for Rosh Hashanah today. Meanwhile,

just eats what I cook, plays on the computer and goes to bed.

I did not even mention the laundry I have done, the kitchen I just

cleaned up (I got rid of a lot of clutter in there - it's too small

for clutter).... I'm at wit's end and all he did was say he's had

it and then he left a bit earlier to pick up his dad to go to

services with him.

UGH! In my next life, I want to be a man.

Jodi Z

[Guest guest]

Sheldon,

You moved to Ohio?? Where?? ) Kidding. But, your post was

great. You are right not to put ALL men in this category. Thanks

for understanding how hard this really is. Sometimes I even tell my

husband I feel like I am not doing enough. He looks at me like I

have gone mad! ) But like I have mentioned before, maybe I thrive

on stress. Sounds crazy because I hate being stresed, but I have

always been a procrastinator so maybe there is something to that.

Ugh, I think I am crazy!

Thanks for understanding,

Jodi R.

's mommy

> Ok all you ladies out there. I am almost afraid to write on here.

But just stop and take a deep breath for a minute. I am a Man and i

just had to respond. Please do not take it out on all Men. There are

alot of good one's to. Maybe you all should get divorced move to ND

and find a good German or Norwegian Man. We know how to take good

care of our ladies. Now i suppose i will get bombarded by all the

men. If thats the case i just moved to Ohio. No seriously for those

of you that have no help from your spouses i feel sorry for you. This

is alot of work and for one person to do it on her own i just can't

imagine. I see what my Daughter goes thru and man my heart

goes out to each and everyone of you. I won't say nothing else

because i don't want to get into trouble with either gender. But just

work together.

> Love to you all

> Sheldon(G-Pa to my angel Laikyn RSS from North dakota)

> Home of the Largest Walleye

> The man's voice.....

>

>

> ,

>

> I'm not too happy with that man's voice this morning. I'm

referring

> to my husband. Whenever things around here get a bit stressed,

and

> I'd say that the stress level in the Zwain household is a bit

high,

> he just retreats into his shell and little gets done on his

part.

> He plays solitaire and poker on his laptop and just spaces out.

> Even my kids notice it and last night were telling him to stop

with

> the computer and pay attention to them and a show they were

watching

> together.

>

> I guess my stress level is so high, I'm working fulltime, I'm the

> one calling the doctors and taking Max to the appts., I'm trying

to

> hold onto my Orton Gillingham scholarship (they agreed to defer

it

> for a couple of weeks until we get Max straightened out) and I've

> been cooking like crazy for Rosh Hashanah today. Meanwhile,

> just eats what I cook, plays on the computer and goes to bed.

>

> I did not even mention the laundry I have done, the kitchen I

just

> cleaned up (I got rid of a lot of clutter in there - it's too

small

> for clutter).... I'm at wit's end and all he did was say he's

had

> it and then he left a bit earlier to pick up his dad to go to

> services with him.

>

> UGH! In my next life, I want to be a man.

>

> Jodi Z

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Sheldon - you should never be afraid to write here. We love you -

even if you are a man! LOL Just Kidding - no, seriously - your

input is always valued and we very much appreciate your comments and

insight. Please feel free to voice your opinion even more in the

future. It's always nice to have a different point of view. Oh -

and my dh is a Godsend. He's stuck with me, even with his

idiosyncrosies (sp?), his obnoxious habits and bossy ways - we

actually complement each other and I wouldn't want him to be any

other way.

I am a female though - and it's in my nature to complain about him

somtimes! LOL

- H

> Ok all you ladies out there. I am almost afraid to write on here.

But just stop and take a deep breath for a minute. I am a Man and i

just had to respond. Please do not take it out on all Men. There are

alot of good one's to. Maybe you all should get divorced move to ND

and find a good German or Norwegian Man. We know how to take good

care of our ladies. Now i suppose i will get bombarded by all the

men. If thats the case i just moved to Ohio. No seriously for those

of you that have no help from your spouses i feel sorry for you.

This is alot of work and for one person to do it on her own i just

can't imagine. I see what my Daughter goes thru and man my

heart goes out to each and everyone of you. I won't say nothing else

because i don't want to get into trouble with either gender. But

just work together.

> Love to you all

> Sheldon(G-Pa to my angel Laikyn RSS from North dakota)

> Home of the Largest Walleye

> The man's voice.....

>

>

> ,

>

> I'm not too happy with that man's voice this morning. I'm

referring

> to my husband. Whenever things around here get a bit stressed,

and

> I'd say that the stress level in the Zwain household is a bit

high,

> he just retreats into his shell and little gets done on his

part.

> He plays solitaire and poker on his laptop and just spaces out.

> Even my kids notice it and last night were telling him to stop

with

> the computer and pay attention to them and a show they were

watching

> together.

>

> I guess my stress level is so high, I'm working fulltime, I'm

the

> one calling the doctors and taking Max to the appts., I'm trying

to

> hold onto my Orton Gillingham scholarship (they agreed to defer

it

> for a couple of weeks until we get Max straightened out) and

I've

> been cooking like crazy for Rosh Hashanah today. Meanwhile,

> just eats what I cook, plays on the computer and goes to bed.

>

> I did not even mention the laundry I have done, the kitchen I

just

> cleaned up (I got rid of a lot of clutter in there - it's too

small

> for clutter).... I'm at wit's end and all he did was say he's

had

> it and then he left a bit earlier to pick up his dad to go to

> services with him.

>

> UGH! In my next life, I want to be a man.

>

> Jodi Z

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Sheldon,

There is always a diamond to be found - and you sound like you are it!

Jodi Z