Re: Lora and

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This will probably make things worse, seems to be my style right now,

but I want to say it, and it is NOT intended to make things worse.

> Lora,

>

> Please dont stop writing just because one person responded harshly.

I agree with this. Just because I disagree with what your therapist

told you, and even with you yourself, does not mean you should stop

writing. Most people probably agree with you and not me, so your

opinion is valuable to others. And I did not intend to respond

harshly, and I always try not to respond to anything harshly, but I

will still do so because I am socially clueless, but that does not

stop me from writing either, altho I do try to be careful, when I

think I have something that might be helpful to say. But I will

apologize for the apparent tone, because it apparently did sound

harsh. And if you really do want to stop writing, then please do

that, because I don't want you to feel compelled to write if you

really don't want to. But I would like you to keep writing.

>> there are probably atleast 1000 of us out here and one person said

what they said--that means 999 accepted what you said for what it was,

your opinion that I am sure was not intended to offend--goodness knows

we cant please everyone!! .

Seems I can't please ANYONE, so you are actually doing much better

than I am.

>>We each need to watch how we phrase

things and be kind to one another. We are all going thru so much and

are under such incredible stress as we all love our children dearly or

we wouldnt be here. You are one of many and equally imporrtant, keep

talking,

I always watch how I phrase things and still I mess up, but that

definitely does not mean my opinion is better than yours.

I had received an email yesterday before I wrote my reply here, from a

parent whose AS child was suicidal and asking my advice, so my mental

state was marginal, which does NOT excuse me to sound harsh, altho I

still do not see how I sounded harsh, and I still would like to know a

better way to phrase my opinion.

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>>Dana,

I just wanted to say how much I appreciate your posts.

I think it is very important for us to have an

autistic member in this group to tell us what is going

on in our children's minds. Who knows better than an

autistic herself?

Please do not think that my opinion is representative of what ALL

autistic children may be thinking or whatever. It is only my

experiences and thoughts. You can watch your child and talk to him

[if verbal] to determine if my ideas might apply to him. But all AS

are different, so I hope you don't assume that my ideas are always

correct for your own child.

>>You give us a wealth of insight

that we would otherwise be lacking.

Sampson

I do try to help, but my opinion does not apply to everyone, so if

anyone disagrees with it, I do hope you disregard it. And I never

want people to think they have to stop writing just because I

disagree, but I guess it happens. Sorry about that.

Dana