Subject: Re: Negative attitudes :-( about my weight loss

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In a message dated 12/4/01 5:53:51 AM Eastern Standard Time,

duodenalswitch writes:

<<

> There were several negative comments about my weight

> loss and WLS in general and one good friend (??)

> was

> very sarcastic because I was excited about wearing a

> much smaller size. I am really hurt! All these

> friends knew I

> was having WLS for health reasons primarily and that

> was a good reason...but now, that I am pleased at

> not only

> my improving health but at the way I look with 60

> lbs off, I got snippy remarks and sarcasm.

>

> OK - these are eating people..and many of them are

> over weight - several of the women wear sizes 22-24

> and rich >>

Elle - this is jealousy, pure and simple. These women know that they would

like to lose weight, but probably don't have the inclination or courage to do

wls, so they have to criticize. I think you should have told them that *yes*

you can have cake!

I also think they darn well knew better than to say remarks like the cake

remark, since I am sure all their lives they have heard about how they

" shouldn't " have this or that food......anyway, I wouldn't let it pass If I

hear from them again, I'd mention it to them, and if they still want to be

rude, then I'd forget about spending time with them.

Its not a fun part of life, but the older you get, the more " non-friends who

have shown their true colors " behind......so if thats what it comes to, I

know it will hurt, but it will not be your fault. We all eventually just

have too many other things to do than spend time with people who are not for

us, but against us.

Carole

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Thanks Carol,

I won't! I kind of like the ideal of being thinnner

than her. But time will tell what my body wants me to

do.

M.

--- MsMystic1@... wrote:

> In a message dated 12/4/01 5:53:51 AM Eastern

> Standard Time,

> duodenalswitch writes:

>

> << Also I have a sister who has been

> skinny all her life. She is one year older than

> me.

> When I told her I was having WLS, she said she was

> excited for me and said that it was my body and

> whatever I wanted to do she would support me. But

> than she said just don't get to where you weigh

> less

> than me. >>

>

> - I guess your sister will just have to " deal

> with it " if you get

> skinnier than her, since you will lose what your

> body is able to lose through

> this sugery and it just might make you thinner. I

> certainly don't think you

> are going to stop losing weight to please your

> sister! You have delt with

> her being thinner all your life. She might have to

> do it for the rest of

> your life, but thats the breaks! Don't let her get

> you down when you start

> getting thin(er).

> Carole

>

>

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