Re: Debby - question

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, I give the kids the choice and if they continue with " nuffin " I then

let them know that if they don't decide I decide and if they don't like it too

bad. who is 5 1/2 understands, Kelli is 3 so it's still a battle. We

are trying a new night time routine. Most of it is working well. But I'm

trying to have Kelli go to the potty and brush her teeth like does but

Kelli doesn't want to go on the potty. I dont' fight that and we just brush her

teeth. She wears diapers to bed so that's why I don't fight it. 's

choices are getting to be bigger decisions such as what do you want do you want

this toy or whatever or this one? Later in the day she always says how she

wanted the other and that's when I tell her you made a decision. Next time you

should think about it more. She's never thrilled with the answer but she's

getting used to it and the argument and crying about it is getting less.

Hang in there and stand strong is my only advice. That's about the only thing I

stand strong on. I'm a sucker at night because my husband and I still lay with

one of the kids to get them to fall asleep. I lay with Kelli by her bed and

when she's asleep I go to my room where is either waiting or fell asleep

and then I move here. She and Kelli share a room so I know they can not fall

asleep in the room alone together (if that makes sense). I think I " m a sucker

at that because by the end of the day I want to go to sleep too.

B

advocate22003 wrote:

Remember when you mentioned giving options for our 3 1/2 yr olds so

they were able to make decisions about things - thus, the end result

would be getting what you wanted but not having to argue about it??

Well, I started doing that and my sly has decided when I

give him a choice, i.e., brushing teeth or pajamas first - his

response is: " nuffin " (nothing). Of course, I repeat it a couple

of more times - hoping maybe he just didn't get it the first two

times and his continued response is " nuffin " . LOL So, did this

happen to you and what did you do then??

I've told him that " nuffin " is not one of his choices and if he

can't make a decision, I would make the decision for him. He

doesn't like that and usually decides (after a couple of minutes).

Part of me feels like I'm still reverting back to where we were with

arguments about everything.

I met a woman at the park today and she said she had a terrible time

between the ages of 3 to 4 1/2. Again, it's always comforting to

hear from another mother.

Just curious if this ever happened to you.

Thanks - H

[Guest guest]

- I can totally relate to the night time arrangement.

Thanks for the thoughts and suggestions. always wants me

to lay with him for a couple of minutes to review his day - Ian has

to be rocked and he won't let me lay him down until he sais " I'm

ready " . Luckily, Ian is still in a crib so if he screams - he can't

get out. But, thinking about it - I must be consistent enough

because both my children know - when it's bed time - it's bed time

and they usually won't try to get out. I don't know about you -

but, both my children will only let me put them to bed. They won't

let my husband (screaming, crying, fighting) - so, that's an

occassional drawback since they go to bed at the same time.

Thanks for chatting. I look forward to more. Have to go - we are

going to the YMCA and the park this morning.

- H

> Remember when you mentioned giving options for our 3 1/2 yr olds

so

> they were able to make decisions about things - thus, the end

result

> would be getting what you wanted but not having to argue about it??

>

> Well, I started doing that and my sly has decided when I

> give him a choice, i.e., brushing teeth or pajamas first - his

> response is: " nuffin " (nothing). Of course, I repeat it a couple

> of more times - hoping maybe he just didn't get it the first two

> times and his continued response is " nuffin " . LOL So, did this

> happen to you and what did you do then??

>

> I've told him that " nuffin " is not one of his choices and if he

> can't make a decision, I would make the decision for him. He

> doesn't like that and usually decides (after a couple of

minutes).

> Part of me feels like I'm still reverting back to where we were

with

> arguments about everything.

>

> I met a woman at the park today and she said she had a terrible

time

> between the ages of 3 to 4 1/2. Again, it's always comforting to

> hear from another mother.

>

> Just curious if this ever happened to you.

>

> Thanks - H

>

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[Guest guest]

- by the way - noticed your post was at 4:57 am. Are you

up that early in the morning? ICK! If I'm up before 7:30 am I'm

toast!

Have a great day!

- H

> Remember when you mentioned giving options for our 3 1/2 yr olds

so

> they were able to make decisions about things - thus, the end

result

> would be getting what you wanted but not having to argue about it??

>

> Well, I started doing that and my sly has decided when I

> give him a choice, i.e., brushing teeth or pajamas first - his

> response is: " nuffin " (nothing). Of course, I repeat it a couple

> of more times - hoping maybe he just didn't get it the first two

> times and his continued response is " nuffin " . LOL So, did this

> happen to you and what did you do then??

>

> I've told him that " nuffin " is not one of his choices and if he

> can't make a decision, I would make the decision for him. He

> doesn't like that and usually decides (after a couple of

minutes).

> Part of me feels like I'm still reverting back to where we were

with

> arguments about everything.

>

> I met a woman at the park today and she said she had a terrible

time

> between the ages of 3 to 4 1/2. Again, it's always comforting to

> hear from another mother.

>

> Just curious if this ever happened to you.

>

> Thanks - H

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