and family Sorry to have to post some bad news about Stirling

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Dear ,

I am deeply sorry. I have been wondering what to write to you because

I haven't been very active at all on the list serve in the past year. I

have been learning to live without my child Janelle. It will be two

years ago on July 5th that she too passed away. People tell you it will

get easier in time. The only thing I have found is it may get a little

easier to shelve the grief for a period of time until you are in a safe

place to express it. Make sure you find a place that is safe for you

and it does not have to be the same place as other family members.

As you grieve Stirling's death those around you go about their lives

and once the bills start to pile up you realize you too must go on. It

sometimes feel's like you may be betraying Sterling's memory - his

life. After all, he was here and present with us all and no one will

forget. His life has meaning.

How do you live with a heart ache this deep and large? One minute at a

time, one hour at a time and soon, to your astonishment you will make

it through a day and then back to an hour at a time..... I do not have

an answer for how to go on after a loss this great I am still on that

journey and if you look there are more of us than we realize and

hopefully you will find support from these other parents who have and

continue to move through the journey of grief of their child. A journey

that none of us really wants to take but must.

speaks of books for children. I am finally finding a little

support for my son. There is a video with a book called Tear Soup. He

finally watched it the other day and it lead to some conversation. This

book may also be helpful for adults too. I thought it was appropriate.

If you ever need an ear Salem has my phone number.

Many hugs to your and your family and my deepest sympathy.

Jovanovich

> Dear and family,

>

> I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine what you guys must be

> going through right now. Sterling was a beautiful little guy.

>

> I read that Sterling has a sibling. I have some sibling " grief " books

> I can send you if that is something that you think may be helpful.

> You can email me at vhowland@... or nightnuse4babies if you

> would like the books.

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> I've lived in the USA for 15 years but lived my first 26 yrs in

> England. I have read your posts about your precious boy and looked

> forward to hearing about his progress.

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> Even though Sterling now lives only in your heart, please use us as a

> place to chat about how wonderful he was and how he changed your

> lives for the better.

>

> I will be praying for you all.

>

> (Ethan 6, non RSS and Jillian 3, RSS)

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>> I don't really know how to post this, but sadly on Monday 6 June

>> Stirling passed away at borough District Hospital (GB)

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>> He had been at the hospital in the afternoon for the UPD(7) blood

>> test to be taken, as the previous sample hadn't been tested. he

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>> fine until around 5.30pm when he stopped breathing and went floppy

>> in my arms, we called the ambulance and I did cpr on him until they

>> arrived. They took him to the hospital, but they couldn't save him

>> and he passed away at approx 6.45pm

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>> We have heard a first report from the post mortem (autopsy) and

>> although they haven't yet found a cause of death, they have found

> an

>> abnormality in the heart. We are awaiting further tests to

>> confirm/rule out whether this is the cause of death. hopefully it

>> will be proved and we can have him back and can plan our goodbyes

>> properly.

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>> We hadn't long been members of this community but we appreciated

> the

>> support on this group.

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>> Stirling was a great kid who was always smiley and happy as his

>> photos show. He will be missed terribly by everyone especially us.

>>

>> T:(

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