Re: Re: mom's and dad's - Heater

[Guest guest]

,

You know what's funny is that he is the biggest over

protected parent imagineable. I'm bad but he is

worse. The snack thing at school, it upset him and

thinking now I can see why, the first day I guess the

teacher thought was hesitant because the rest

of the class wasn't eating and she was sitting in a

different spot and then said something like if you're

uncomfortable you can go to the nurse. Well, I think

that upset him thinking that - that would single her

out which I don't want either. I also think he thinks

I make a bigger deal about 's weight and height

than what he makes it so . . .

He likes to listen when I talk to him about the

listserve and he feels horrible for what most of the

parents and children go through. Maybe he thinks I'm

comparing but I'm not - I'm just learning and

taking the advice of the others her so that hopefully

I can avoid any potential problem.

The funny thing is is when his mother tries to

constantly say that she herself is small and maybe

will catch up and blah blah blah and defend

for not eating - he gets really pissed off at

her.

Thanks

B

--- advocate22003 wrote:

> - sorry you are having some difficulties

> communicating the

> needs of your children with your dh. Sometimes I

> think men are at a

> loss - they like to " fix' the problem - not, help it

> along. And, if

> there isn't a way to " fix " the problem - they don't

> know what to

> do. My husband can be - no - he is a very " clear

> cut " individual.

> It's either A or B - nothing in between. If I tell

> him someone

> upset me - he'd tell me - fine just don't talk to

> them anymore (like

> my neighbor) - but, that's not what I'm looking for

> - I'm looking

> for him to agree with me, kiss me, make me feel

> special and tell me

> I " M RIGHT! Let's be honest with ourselves - that's

> what alot of us

> want I think - for our men to just go along with

> what we want.

> Well, maybe not anyone else - but, I'm kind a like

> that. My dh and

> I have learned to communicate with each other with

> the understanding

> of who we are - he'll tell it like it is - I'll tell

> him it's going

> to be my way! LOL However, when I'm open to

> listening to him

> (which is more than it used to be <smile>) my

> husband is an

> inspiration to me - he usually has some very valid

> opinions and

> thoughts. As far as the healthcare is concerned -

> although I need

> him to be at the doctors fighting with me tooth and

> nail - I also

> respect that he has confidence in me to take care of

> it myself - and

> I kinda like that. Don't get me wrong - it can be

> frustrating and

> incredibly overwhelming - but, my personality is

> strong and I like

> to be in charge - so, better me than him. LOL

> Just remember too - your dh may be dealing with a

> little grief

> himself - and he may not realize it. He wants his

> child to

> be " normal " and it's confusing for him to worry

> about so many

> things.

> I'm not sure I've helped you - but, I'm sorry for

> your

> frustrations. I wish I could be there to give you a

> hug. I've been

> there - and I know it's hard. My best to you

> always.

>

> - H

>

>

> > > Hi:

> > >

> > > Reading this lines that some one put in a

> message:

> > > " I've noticed a very interesting thing about

> these

> > > moms - there is

> > > such a connection here " I noticed something

> > > interesting, maybe it was commented

> before…...yes

> > > there is a connection, but also, almost all the

> people

> > > that writes here are woman, I remember perfectly

> Ken

> > > the moderator that is a man, but..why are not

> more

> > > dad's here? Are they so busy? Or Is this a

> mom's

> > > stuff?

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > __________________________________

> > > Yahoo! Mail - PC Magazine Editors' Choice 2005

> > > http://mail.yahoo.com

> >

>

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[Guest guest]

Your man will actually disagree with his own MOTHER??

You have a 1 in a million guy there!! I didn't think they existed (mommy is

always right!).....he's a keeper!!

Deb

Re: Re: mom's and dad's - Heater

> ,

> You know what's funny is that he is the biggest over

> protected parent imagineable. I'm bad but he is

> worse. The snack thing at school, it upset him and

> thinking now I can see why, the first day I guess the

> teacher thought was hesitant because the rest

> of the class wasn't eating and she was sitting in a

> different spot and then said something like if you're

> uncomfortable you can go to the nurse. Well, I think

> that upset him thinking that - that would single her

> out which I don't want either. I also think he thinks

> I make a bigger deal about 's weight and height

> than what he makes it so . . .

>

> He likes to listen when I talk to him about the

> listserve and he feels horrible for what most of the

> parents and children go through. Maybe he thinks I'm

> comparing but I'm not - I'm just learning and

> taking the advice of the others her so that hopefully

> I can avoid any potential problem.

>

> The funny thing is is when his mother tries to

> constantly say that she herself is small and maybe

> will catch up and blah blah blah and defend

> for not eating - he gets really pissed off at

> her.

>

> Thanks

>

> B

>

>

> --- advocate22003 wrote:

>

> > - sorry you are having some difficulties

> > communicating the

> > needs of your children with your dh. Sometimes I

> > think men are at a

> > loss - they like to " fix' the problem - not, help it

> > along. And, if

> > there isn't a way to " fix " the problem - they don't

> > know what to

> > do. My husband can be - no - he is a very " clear

> > cut " individual.

> > It's either A or B - nothing in between. If I tell

> > him someone

> > upset me - he'd tell me - fine just don't talk to

> > them anymore (like

> > my neighbor) - but, that's not what I'm looking for

> > - I'm looking

> > for him to agree with me, kiss me, make me feel

> > special and tell me

> > I " M RIGHT! Let's be honest with ourselves - that's

> > what alot of us

> > want I think - for our men to just go along with

> > what we want.

> > Well, maybe not anyone else - but, I'm kind a like

> > that. My dh and

> > I have learned to communicate with each other with

> > the understanding

> > of who we are - he'll tell it like it is - I'll tell

> > him it's going

> > to be my way! LOL However, when I'm open to

> > listening to him

> > (which is more than it used to be <smile>) my

> > husband is an

> > inspiration to me - he usually has some very valid

> > opinions and

> > thoughts. As far as the healthcare is concerned -

> > although I need

> > him to be at the doctors fighting with me tooth and

> > nail - I also

> > respect that he has confidence in me to take care of

> > it myself - and

> > I kinda like that. Don't get me wrong - it can be

> > frustrating and

> > incredibly overwhelming - but, my personality is

> > strong and I like

> > to be in charge - so, better me than him. LOL

> > Just remember too - your dh may be dealing with a

> > little grief

> > himself - and he may not realize it. He wants his

> > child to

> > be " normal " and it's confusing for him to worry

> > about so many

> > things.

> > I'm not sure I've helped you - but, I'm sorry for

> > your

> > frustrations. I wish I could be there to give you a

> > hug. I've been

> > there - and I know it's hard. My best to you

> > always.

> >

> > - H

> >

> >

> > > > Hi:

> > > >

> > > > Reading this lines that some one put in a

> > message:

> > > > " I've noticed a very interesting thing about

> > these

> > > > moms - there is

> > > > such a connection here " I noticed something

> > > > interesting, maybe it was commented

> > before....yes

> > > > there is a connection, but also, almost all the

> > people

> > > > that writes here are woman, I remember perfectly

> > Ken

> > > > the moderator that is a man, but..why are not

> > more

> > > > dad's here? Are they so busy? Or Is this a

> > mom's

> > > > stuff?

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > __________________________________

> > > > Yahoo! Mail - PC Magazine Editors' Choice 2005

> > > > http://mail.yahoo.com

> > >

> >

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