RE: Digest Number 5157

[Guest guest]

my period showed up the day after my surgery. My boyfriend not only

wiped my ass for the first week after surgery but he also helped me

with putting the pad in place and helping me clean myself there. He

wasnt real thrilled with it but knew I couldnt do it myself at the time.

I do love the man.

Carol

> Message: 4

> Date: Thu, 13 Dec 2001 14:09:27 EST

> From: andem4@...

> Subject: Re: Toileting hygeine and other embarassing questions

>

> WARNING: GROSS DETAILS AHEAD............

>

> I had to pipe in here and tell about my embarrassing situation in the

hospital. My period started the day before surgery. When I went into the

operating room, I had a pad in place. When I came out, I assummed the pad was

still there. The next day I asked about having the pad changed and they just

brought me some new ones. There was no way I could reach down there to put a

pad in place after having an open surgery. To top things off, I had a male

nurse and a male aide that day. When they got me up to walk me around, I

realized the pad wasn't where I had left it and I left a large pool of blood on

the floor. Not 2 minutes later my aide walked in the room and stepped in the

mess. Not only did he have to clean up the floor, but the bedding was a mess

and so was I. The poor man didn't speak much English and didn't understand when

I told him I needed something to keep the pad in place such as underwear. Since

I couldn't bend to clean myself, he had to do it. I was so

> embarrassed. I don't feel like I w

> as able to keep myself very clean in that area until I got home and was able

to use my hand-held shower attachment. All I have to say is that I would have

felt much better if I had only needed help wiping my butt.

>

> Kathy M.

>

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 12/13/01 4:23:28 PM, duodenalswitch writes:

<< This may sound like a really dumb questioning here, but lately my life has

just been one big disappointment after another and sometimes I wonder why I

even try. While I know that not *every* problem will be solved by having the

surgery, I know that *some* things in my life will get better. I guess I am

just having to tell myself that I am worth having this done, even tho I wish

I could have had it 20 yrs ago and I hope I will be as " good " at doing what I

need to do for maximum weight loss as you guys are.

>>

Carole: You DEFINATELY ARE WORTH IT! :) I'm sure you will experience

fabulous weight loss like other post-ops in the list, too! We all have

our different rates but, in the end, we do get to pretty much the same place

at 12-18 months post-op! :)

And, we all have our insecurities and doubts. I was so confident before the

surgery but I also had some moments of doubt -- More like I wished I didn't

have to rearrange my intestines in order to have permanant weight loss. I

had a bmi of 45, so others had told me 'just try again'. I wasn't a diet

person --- I mainly ate nutritiously and exercised. So, I knew that didn't

work for me. Diets definately didn't work long term whenever I did them. I

saw the genetic reality in my family.... I just wished I

[Guest guest]

Kathy,

After reading your post, all I can say is'Thank G-d for hysterectomies! "

I've read that for some strange reason a lot of women get socked with their

period just before or after surgery. I'm glad that that's all behind me

(LOL)!.

Marcia

>

> WARNING: GROSS DETAILS AHEAD............

>

> I had to pipe in here and tell about my embarrassing situation in the

hospital. My period started the day before surgery. When I went into the

operating room, I had a pad in place. When I came out, I assummed the pad

was still there. The next day I asked about having the pad changed and they

just brought me some new ones. There was no way I could reach down there to

put a pad in place after having an open surgery. To top things off, I had a

male nurse and a male aide that day. When they got me up to walk me around,

I realized the pad wasn't where I had left it and I left a large pool of

blood on the floor. Not 2 minutes later my aide walked in the room and

stepped in the mess. Not only did he have to clean up the floor, but the

bedding was a mess and so was I. The poor man didn't speak much English and

didn't understand when I told him I needed something to keep the pad in

place such as underwear. Since I couldn't bend to clean myself, he had to

do it. I was so

> embarrassed. I don't feel like I w

> as able to keep myself very clean in that area until I got home and was

able to use my hand-held shower attachment. All I have to say is that I

would have felt much better if I had only needed help wiping my butt.

>

> Kathy M.

>

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