Re: Digest Number 3745

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> I think the saddest part is that we spend so much time qualifying these

> children based on their outward behaviors when what would probably help

them

> the most is to deal with what is going on inside of them that makes them

> this way. Our children may outwardly present so differently but if you

> tested them in biological ways , we see that they have a host of

> similarities in regards to imbalances within the immune sys, metabolic

sys,

> gastro intestinal tract etc. My child has a chronic illness and at this

> time, that is how I see him. I am attempting to first make him as healthy

> as possible and concurrently give him the therapies he needs to catch up

> etc. There is a reason for what we see outwardly. And making the

> assumption that they are mild does nothing to heal them. My son presents

> mildly....his biological tests show that he is CLASSIC! We need knew

> understanding and new labels. My take on this,

Oh thank you for your post. This is what I have thought, but since

I'm so new to all of this, I just didn't know if I was seeing it " right " or

not. I keep telling friends (who are going through this too with their

kids) that I'm trying to find out WHY my son is stimming, for example.

While therapy to help with stimming is GOOD, it's not getting to the ROOT of

the problem. I have one friend who seems to think that it's an either or

thing - she asked me " which approach I was going to take " - the

neurodevelopmental approach (which she is doing), diet, " traditional

therapy, " or what. I said, well, I want first and foremost to fix whatever

is wrong in his BODY that is manifesting these SYMPTOMS (behavior for him

since he has zero physical symptoms). Treating the symptoms with therapy

without fixing the problem CAUSING the symptoms is like putting a bandaid on

a gun shot wound, IMO. My friend (who is into " one " approach) is kind of

like this anyway.....she goes whole hog with one thing only and totally

disregards everything else, no matter what the situation (parenting

theories, this issue, schooling philosophies, whatever). So this isn't TOO

different for her, but it's kind of annoying LOL!

Anyway, it helps to know that I'm not the only one who feels this way. LOL

another soapbox for me to get on! (I have lots ;-) )

Love,

Kirstin <><

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