Negative attitudes :-( about my weight loss

December 2, 2001

I just returned from a party (about 3 hours earlier than wse usually come home)

of longtime old time good time

friends...people that DH and I have vacationed with, camped with and partied

with for many years.

There were several negative comments about my weight loss and WLS in general

and one good friend (??) was

very sarcastic because I was excited about wearing a much smaller size. I am

really hurt! All these friends knew I

was having WLS for health reasons primarily and that was a good reason...but

now, that I am pleased at not only

my improving health but at the way I look with 60 lbs off, I got snippy remarks

and sarcasm.

OK - these are eating people..and many of them are over weight - several of the

women wear sizes 22-24 and rich

fatty food is the order of the day. This group is one of the reasons I chose to

have the DS - so that I would be able

to continue to do dinners and parties with them and be able to eat normally.

Tonight I got " you shouldn't have that chocolate cake " and " don't you feel

deprived " and even worse absolutely no

mention of the very obvious difference in how I look since they saw me last. I

didn't want to go into difference

between the DS and the RnY AND WHY I COULD EAT CAKE oops sorry I didn't mean to

yell but damm it sort of

pisses me off!!!!

I know it's jealously....but damm - these are adults here not little kids! My

feelings are so hutr. I handed out

invitations for the party we are having in a few weeks and for the first time in

years, most of them " are too busy " .

Our Yule party for my DH birthday is a staple of this groups holiday season but

I guess most of them won't be

coming.

I didn't expect to lose friends when I lost weight. I went tonight thinking I

would be just a little bit celebrated and

congratulated...these folks are usually full of complements for each other, for

our taste in clothes etc. I bought a

great velvet dress to wear and DH said I looked wonderful but I got exactly one

comment on that from the

daughter of a girlfriend.

Poo - what bubble busters! I'm bummed out

elle in orygun who is old enough to get over jealously....eventually

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