devastated!!

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Hi, group...sorry to dump all over you guys, but I

don't know where else to turn.

Even though I haven't posted a lot here, I do lurk

every day, and feel as if I know some of you

personally. I have my first consult with Dr. Herron

on January 3rd...I've been researching D/S like hell

for the past three months, and have already had the

psych consult and I'm scheduled for the upper

endoscopy, the sleep apnea test, and others.

In the beginning, my d/h was 100% against surgery. He

was very much afraid, and felt that there had to be a

better/other way to lose the weight. I have spent

many hours educating him, pleading with him to do some

research on the D/S, crying, arguing, wheedling,

pleading, yadda-yadda...for the past coupld of weeks,

especially since I got the consult appointment, he's

calmed down a lot, and not said one word against the

surgery. Now, all of a sudden, this morning, I feel

as if we're back to square one!!! Again,, he's

talking about how against it he is, how there's got to

be another way to lose the weight, etc...I'm just

devastated!!!

I told him again how much I needed him to be in my

corner when I do this...he rejoined with: " how would

you feel if I insisted upon doing something that you

were 100% against? Would you be there for me 100%? "

I just don't know where to turn at this point! If

he's not going to be there, in a supportive role, for

me, can I do this? I don't know about mosr of you,

but I need to have my mate there for me...not only

physically, but to really BE there to support me, my

decision, and not to be the first one to say " I told

you so " for the first " magic 6 weeks " .

Have any of you had a similar situation two weeks

pre-consult? I need some guidance here.

Thanks for listening.

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