Re: Lost cf brother

[Guest guest]

you might try contacting the foster care agency who placed the child and explain

that his half brother would like to keep in touch with him and they may make

arragements for you to meet the adoptive parents and the child to establish

visits

Maureen

Patty H wrote:

Hi yall!!!

I am very troubled by sommething that i hope one of you can help me

with.My exhusband went on to have another child with a woman sometime

after we divorced.They had a child named Cody.He just turned 4 in

dec.Cody also has cf.His mother and my ex are irresponsible(idiots,

for lack of a better term), and had their son taken away.Neither

coukld stay away from drinking long eneough to get himback and now i

believe he has been adopted by the foster parents(thank god).The

problem?Cody was very sick when we knew him as a baby, and i think

between that and the fact that he has a lost brother somewhere my cf

son, Tyler is yearning to find out about him.

Does Tyler still have a right to communicate with this boy as his 1/2

blood brother?Codys only 4 as i said, but tyler's been speaking of

him since Cody left and that was shortly after he was born, so i'm

asuming he wont let up.I'm not saying i want to track him down now,

but i would like to reassure ty that in the future he could talk with

him.

Tyler wants nothing to do w/any other cfer except this one, and i

understand his feelings.

So what do you think?Is he allowed to, and if so whats a tactful way

of doing this?All i know about him is he goes to the same cf dr in MI

that Ty did when we lived there.

Thanks,

Patty, mom to ty,8wcf and 2 wocf

Sorry for the lengthiness of this post, heehee

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[Guest guest]

Get in touch with the cps office that did the removal/adoption. They will have

info on how to contact the adoptive parents. They won't give this info. out to

you unless the adoptive parents signed a release to let them do so. But they

could forward a letter to them for your son. If it were me I would have Tyler

write a letter to them himself. Include a picture of himself and a phone card,

along with your phone number, so that they can call you with out it being

long-distance. I hope you're successful and that they are open to

communication... If they're not, wait a few years, Cody will begin to ask

questions himself and that may lead them to contact you. At least you will have

furnished them with the information.

Dawn mom of 4, 8 and under, the youngest wcf

[Guest guest]

I wouldn't even try the doctor because it would be a breach of

ethics for the doctors to reveal anything about his sibling. I am

assuming the child was removed from his home? If so, DSS had to be

involved. I would write to the DSS office you suspect handled the

removal, explain that the half sibling wants to keep in touch and ask

that they forward the your letter to the adoptive parents. Include in

the letter how they can get in touch with you and why you want to

communicate with the family. DSS can't reveal the name of the

adoptive parents but there is no reason why they can't forward the

letter or give you a reason why they won't forward.

My adoptive son w/CF is in contact with his half siblings and it

means a great deall to him.

jan

> Does Tyler still have a right to communicate with this boy as his

1/2

> blood brother?Codys only 4 as i said, but tyler's been speaking of

> him since Cody left and that was shortly after he was born, so i'm

> asuming he wont let up.I'm not saying i want to track him down now,

> but i would like to reassure ty that in the future he could talk

with

> him.

> Tyler wants nothing to do w/any other cfer except this one, and i

> understand his feelings.

> So what do you think?Is he allowed to, and if so whats a tactful

way

> of doing this?All i know about him is he goes to the same cf dr in

MI

> that Ty did when we lived there.

>

> Sorry for the lengthiness of this post, heehee