Re: worried about doc banding my 17 month old son

[Guest guest]

Has your wife seen websites about the helmets like the DOCBand site? That one

stresses the importance of having one but it also shows happy kids wearing

helmets and presents it in a more positive light. I don't know the severity of

your child so maybe your wife is reluctant because she doesn't think it's that

noticeable. If that is not the case and she just doesn't want the helmet because

of embarrassment to her, ask your wife to read some of the testimonials and see

how she would feel if her son is made fun of later or in adulthood when

something could have been done about it. I personally know 2 people who were

made fun of relentlessly for having a flat head and one with untreated

brachiocephaly. They dread the possibility of balding because their head shape

will be more noticeable. Many kids get made fun of in life but I felt bad not

eliminating one more potential reason for someone to make fun of my son. So even

though we did not want the helmet, we sucked it up and decided we had to try.

Hey, if guilting her into cooperating is what you have to resort to, go ahead.

P.S., My 4 month old would try to pull the helmet off sometimes but he got used

to it. Sometimes we have to struggle through things with kids even though they

don't like it. For example, you wouldn't not take your kid to the doctor to get

a dislocated shoulder popped back in just because it hurts when the doctor does

that. The same thing goes for if you give your kids vaccines or any other kid of

annoying medication they may need. Shots hurt but a baby's health is more

important.

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> I was wondering if anyone has had any experience with an older infant wearing

a doc band. My concern is that he will simply remove it. He's been evaluated

and the next step is the scan and then a band. Another problem is that I'm

kinda on my own. My wife has been against the idea from the first time I

suggested it over a year ago, so I don't have a ton of support. If the first

few days don't go well, she's gonna insist it comes off, and I will not win that

fight. She's all broken up about it. I'm not in love with the idea either. I

wish I had worked up the courage to just go there ages ago when he was tiny and

wouldn't have known better (instead of getting a useless 2nd opinion from

another pedi who said, " it'll round out " .) But I didn't, so this is really the

last chance I have. I just up and called in sick and took him yesterday because

the guilt was killing me.

> Please, any advice would be very helpful.

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[Guest guest]

My friend is in this group, and her son Jake wore two docbands starting

at 17 mo. He did very well. Of course like everyone she wishes she had started

sooner, but her doctor told her it would round out on its own. His photos are in

the Older Babies section of this group.

-christine

sydney, almost 5 yrs, starband grad

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> I was wondering if anyone has had any experience with an older infant wearing

a doc band. My concern is that he will simply remove it. He's been evaluated

and the next step is the scan and then a band. Another problem is that I'm

kinda on my own. My wife has been against the idea from the first time I

suggested it over a year ago, so I don't have a ton of support. If the first

few days don't go well, she's gonna insist it comes off, and I will not win that

fight. She's all broken up about it. I'm not in love with the idea either. I

wish I had worked up the courage to just go there ages ago when he was tiny and

wouldn't have known better (instead of getting a useless 2nd opinion from

another pedi who said, " it'll round out " .) But I didn't, so this is really the

last chance I have. I just up and called in sick and took him yesterday because

the guilt was killing me.

> Please, any advice would be very helpful.

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[Guest guest]

My son is 6 months old and just got his band, but I totally understand where you

are coming from with your wife not supporting the idea. My husband fought me the

whole way and now that my son is in his band, he is way more irritable and does

not sleep well. Still, as parents we have to look at the big picture. When I

start to second guess myself(which trust me...sometimes I do) I always think, if

I could have a conversation with my son as a teenager or as an adult and ask him

what he would have wanted...I am always sure of what the answer would be. Good

luck and best wishes!

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> Having just gotten back from a very long doctor appointment my child smacked

her

> head on the sarp corners of desks/ sinks etc like 3 times.. hard enough ppl

> gasped.. but she kept on trucking cuz she felt nothing thanks to her helmet

lol

> I'm starting to think all kids should have a helmet just cuz!

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> From: nereyda benitez <nerystars29@...>

> Plagiocephaly

> Sent: Tue, December 7, 2010 11:27:20 AM

> Subject: Re: worried about doc banding my 17 month old son

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> Hello,

> you can give a the positives on wearing the band to your wife . For example

it

> will be safe with not hurting babys head and their cranial growth is good.

> Find more positive things and inform her. My little girl only wore the band

for

> 4 months because we did not take it off . HOpefully this helps.

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> From: condorjay_73 <jasonkapell@...>

> Plagiocephaly

> Sent: Sat, December 4, 2010 3:32:39 PM

> Subject: worried about doc banding my 17 month old son

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> I was wondering if anyone has had any experience with an older infant wearing

a

> doc band. My concern is that he will simply remove it. He's been evaluated and

> the next step is the scan and then a band. Another problem is that I'm kinda

on

> my own. My wife has been against the idea from the first time I suggested it

> over a year ago, so I don't have a ton of support. If the first few days don't

> go well, she's gonna insist it comes off, and I will not win that fight. She's

> all broken up about it. I'm not in love with the idea either. I wish I had

> worked up the courage to just go there ages ago when he was tiny and wouldn't

> have known better (instead of getting a useless 2nd opinion from another pedi

> who said, " it'll round out " .) But I didn't, so this is really the last chance

I

> have. I just up and called in sick and took him yesterday because the guilt

was

> killing me.

> Please, any advice would be very helpful.

>