Re: Digest Number 2463

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In a message dated 11/12/00 8:29:04 PM Eastern Standard Time,

MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes:

> She said she will not support me and that I should use willpower. I tried to

> explain myself and she said I was taking the " EASY way out. " Of course I

> told

> her this is definitely NOT the easy way out. She is sooooooo stubborn and

> opinionated. I finally said " let's not discuss it then. We can agree to

> disagree and remain friends. " She said " I guess so. bye " and hug up.

> Both my hubby and daughter are excited about it and very supportive. Should

> I

>

Hi Joni,

For the most part I had a lot of support. But, there were a couple of people

who were not supportive. I did not speak to them about this anymore than I

had to. I am very STUBBORN and will not tolerate anyone who tries to change

my opinion about something I feel will better my life. It took a little

persuading to get my parents to understand, but they eventually came around

and when they did ... they supported me 100%. My Mom even wrote my support

letter. There are many different reasons why someone wouldn't support you ...

maybe they don't understand obesity, or maybe they are jealous...etc.I had my

best friend's brother tell me that my decision to have surgery was an

irresponsible one and that I was taking the easy way out. I just looked at

him and said -- " Easy for you to say-you have kids- I can't because of

obesity. You have never had a weight problem- I have had one my whole life.

You lead a normal life- I get sneered at daily because of my weight problem.

I have an expected short life span because of morbid obesity. What else is

there to do? I have tried it all. " Dr. Rutledge spends his life saving many

other's lives. He can cure so many diseases and prevent so many diseases...

Diabetes, sleep apnea, incontinence, arthritis, and many more. You know them-

I assume you have read the manual. In my opinion, you should sit and explain

everything to her, bring the manual and show it to her. If she is so stubborn

that she won't take the time to listen, then you need to find other friends.

I am sorry this is so long, but it " pisses " me off when " skinny " people don't

want MO people to do what they need to do to save their own lives. Surgery is

not the easy way out- it is a tool. God gave Dr. R the knowledge and ability

to save our lives. We are not fools for using this tool- we are fools if we

don't. I am glad that you can find support from your family... please know

you have support here. We all go through the same issues... everyday of our

lives. If you can't talk amongst your peers here... who else knows what you

have to deal with better?

I can't wait to hear about you being on " the other side " !

Good luck,

Terri K :^)

MGB 10-12-00

340/306/1??

[Guest guest]

Jon, stop please! Too much information!!!!!!!!!!!! LWhite

[Guest guest]

Well, guess what. My doctor said that he doesn't know why I am making a big

deal about a " number " and will not agree to follow me after surgery because

he said NC is so far away and he doesn't know that much about gastric

surgery. He said if he had to refer me to a surgeon around here that they

wouldn't touch me and would say send her back to the surgeon that did the

surgery.

I see why he would be hesitant. I just had my heart set on Dr. R doing the

surgery so that I could get back on my feet quick. I'm a little hurt right

now...

Robin from Ohio

Re: Digest Number 2463

>In a message dated 11/12/00 8:29:04 PM Eastern Standard Time,

>MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes:

>

>

>> She said she will not support me and that I should use willpower. I tried

to

>> explain myself and she said I was taking the " EASY way out. " Of course I

>> told

>> her this is definitely NOT the easy way out. She is sooooooo stubborn and

>> opinionated. I finally said " let's not discuss it then. We can agree to

>> disagree and remain friends. " She said " I guess so. bye " and hug up.

>> Both my hubby and daughter are excited about it and very supportive.

Should

>> I

>>

>

>Hi Joni,

>

>For the most part I had a lot of support. But, there were a couple of

people

>who were not supportive. I did not speak to them about this anymore than I

>had to. I am very STUBBORN and will not tolerate anyone who tries to change

>my opinion about something I feel will better my life. It took a little

>persuading to get my parents to understand, but they eventually came around

>and when they did ... they supported me 100%. My Mom even wrote my support

>letter. There are many different reasons why someone wouldn't support you

....

>maybe they don't understand obesity, or maybe they are jealous...etc.I had

my

>best friend's brother tell me that my decision to have surgery was an

>irresponsible one and that I was taking the easy way out. I just looked at

>him and said -- " Easy for you to say-you have kids- I can't because of

>obesity. You have never had a weight problem- I have had one my whole life.

>You lead a normal life- I get sneered at daily because of my weight

problem.

>I have an expected short life span because of morbid obesity. What else is

>there to do? I have tried it all. " Dr. Rutledge spends his life saving many

>other's lives. He can cure so many diseases and prevent so many diseases...

>Diabetes, sleep apnea, incontinence, arthritis, and many more. You know

them-

>I assume you have read the manual. In my opinion, you should sit and

explain

>everything to her, bring the manual and show it to her. If she is so

stubborn

>that she won't take the time to listen, then you need to find other

friends.

>I am sorry this is so long, but it " pisses " me off when " skinny " people

don't

>want MO people to do what they need to do to save their own lives. Surgery

is

>not the easy way out- it is a tool. God gave Dr. R the knowledge and

ability

>to save our lives. We are not fools for using this tool- we are fools if we

>don't. I am glad that you can find support from your family... please know

>you have support here. We all go through the same issues... everyday of our

>lives. If you can't talk amongst your peers here... who else knows what you

>have to deal with better?

>

>I can't wait to hear about you being on " the other side " !

>Good luck,

>

>Terri K :^)

>MGB 10-12-00

>340/306/1??

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hey Robin,

Find another doctor Sweetie!!

and good luck to you!

Trudy

Re: Digest Number 2463

>In a message dated 11/12/00 8:29:04 PM Eastern Standard Time,

>MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes:

>

>

>> She said she will not support me and that I should use willpower. I tried

to

>> explain myself and she said I was taking the " EASY way out. " Of course I

>> told

>> her this is definitely NOT the easy way out. She is sooooooo stubborn and

>> opinionated. I finally said " let's not discuss it then. We can agree to

>> disagree and remain friends. " She said " I guess so. bye " and hug up.

>> Both my hubby and daughter are excited about it and very supportive.

Should

>> I

>>

>

>Hi Joni,

>

>For the most part I had a lot of support. But, there were a couple of

people

>who were not supportive. I did not speak to them about this anymore than I

>had to. I am very STUBBORN and will not tolerate anyone who tries to change

>my opinion about something I feel will better my life. It took a little

>persuading to get my parents to understand, but they eventually came around

>and when they did ... they supported me 100%. My Mom even wrote my support

>letter. There are many different reasons why someone wouldn't support you

...

>maybe they don't understand obesity, or maybe they are jealous...etc.I had

my

>best friend's brother tell me that my decision to have surgery was an

>irresponsible one and that I was taking the easy way out. I just looked at

>him and said -- " Easy for you to say-you have kids- I can't because of

>obesity. You have never had a weight problem- I have had one my whole life.

>You lead a normal life- I get sneered at daily because of my weight

problem.

>I have an expected short life span because of morbid obesity. What else is

>there to do? I have tried it all. " Dr. Rutledge spends his life saving many

>other's lives. He can cure so many diseases and prevent so many diseases...

>Diabetes, sleep apnea, incontinence, arthritis, and many more. You know

them-

>I assume you have read the manual. In my opinion, you should sit and

explain

>everything to her, bring the manual and show it to her. If she is so

stubborn

>that she won't take the time to listen, then you need to find other

friends.

>I am sorry this is so long, but it " pisses " me off when " skinny " people

don't

>want MO people to do what they need to do to save their own lives. Surgery

is

>not the easy way out- it is a tool. God gave Dr. R the knowledge and

ability

>to save our lives. We are not fools for using this tool- we are fools if we

>don't. I am glad that you can find support from your family... please know

>you have support here. We all go through the same issues... everyday of our

>lives. If you can't talk amongst your peers here... who else knows what you

>have to deal with better?

>

>I can't wait to hear about you being on " the other side " !

>Good luck,

>

>Terri K :^)

>MGB 10-12-00

>340/306/1??

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Maybe it would help if one of our pcp that appreciate the surgery and what it

has done for us would be willing to speak or mail or email your pcp something

about what they are doing for us.. think?

Trudy

Re: Digest Number 2463

>

>

> >In a message dated 11/12/00 8:29:04 PM Eastern Standard Time,

> >MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes:

> >

> >

> >> She said she will not support me and that I should use willpower. I

tried

> to

> >> explain myself and she said I was taking the " EASY way out. " Of course

I

> >> told

> >> her this is definitely NOT the easy way out. She is sooooooo stubborn

and

> >> opinionated. I finally said " let's not discuss it then. We can agree

to

> >> disagree and remain friends. " She said " I guess so. bye " and hug up.

> >> Both my hubby and daughter are excited about it and very supportive.

> Should

> >> I

> >>

> >

> >Hi Joni,

> >

> >For the most part I had a lot of support. But, there were a couple of

> people

> >who were not supportive. I did not speak to them about this anymore than

I

> >had to. I am very STUBBORN and will not tolerate anyone who tries to

change

> >my opinion about something I feel will better my life. It took a little

> >persuading to get my parents to understand, but they eventually came

around

> >and when they did ... they supported me 100%. My Mom even wrote my

support

> >letter. There are many different reasons why someone wouldn't support

you

> ...

> >maybe they don't understand obesity, or maybe they are jealous...etc.I

had

> my

> >best friend's brother tell me that my decision to have surgery was an

> >irresponsible one and that I was taking the easy way out. I just looked

at

> >him and said -- " Easy for you to say-you have kids- I can't because of

> >obesity. You have never had a weight problem- I have had one my whole

life.

> >You lead a normal life- I get sneered at daily because of my weight

> problem.

> >I have an expected short life span because of morbid obesity. What else

is

> >there to do? I have tried it all. " Dr. Rutledge spends his life saving

many

> >other's lives. He can cure so many diseases and prevent so many

diseases...

> >Diabetes, sleep apnea, incontinence, arthritis, and many more. You know

> them-

> >I assume you have read the manual. In my opinion, you should sit and

> explain

> >everything to her, bring the manual and show it to her. If she is so

> stubborn

> >that she won't take the time to listen, then you need to find other

> friends.

> >I am sorry this is so long, but it " pisses " me off when " skinny " people

> don't

> >want MO people to do what they need to do to save their own lives.

Surgery

> is

> >not the easy way out- it is a tool. God gave Dr. R the knowledge and

> ability

> >to save our lives. We are not fools for using this tool- we are fools if

we

> >don't. I am glad that you can find support from your family... please

know

> >you have support here. We all go through the same issues... everyday of

our

> >lives. If you can't talk amongst your peers here... who else knows what

you

> >have to deal with better?

> >

> >I can't wait to hear about you being on " the other side " !

> >Good luck,

> >

> >Terri K :^)

> >MGB 10-12-00

> >340/306/1??

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Thanks for responding Trudy. I've been watching you from afar every since I

linked into this sight...you're a real " plus " to this group. I decided

today not to give up. Until God tells me to stop, I'll get back up and keep

on trying.

Thanks again. Robin from Ohio, possible Pre Op

Re: Digest Number 2463

>Hey Robin,

>Find another doctor Sweetie!!

>and good luck to you!

>Trudy

> Re: Digest Number 2463

>

>

> >In a message dated 11/12/00 8:29:04 PM Eastern Standard Time,

> >MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes:

> >

> >

> >> She said she will not support me and that I should use willpower. I

tried

> to

> >> explain myself and she said I was taking the " EASY way out. " Of course

I

> >> told

> >> her this is definitely NOT the easy way out. She is sooooooo stubborn

and

> >> opinionated. I finally said " let's not discuss it then. We can agree

to

> >> disagree and remain friends. " She said " I guess so. bye " and hug up.

> >> Both my hubby and daughter are excited about it and very supportive.

> Should

> >> I

> >>

> >

> >Hi Joni,

> >

> >For the most part I had a lot of support. But, there were a couple of

> people

> >who were not supportive. I did not speak to them about this anymore than

I

> >had to. I am very STUBBORN and will not tolerate anyone who tries to

change

> >my opinion about something I feel will better my life. It took a little

> >persuading to get my parents to understand, but they eventually came

around

> >and when they did ... they supported me 100%. My Mom even wrote my

support

> >letter. There are many different reasons why someone wouldn't support

you

> ...

> >maybe they don't understand obesity, or maybe they are jealous...etc.I

had

> my

> >best friend's brother tell me that my decision to have surgery was an

> >irresponsible one and that I was taking the easy way out. I just looked

at

> >him and said -- " Easy for you to say-you have kids- I can't because of

> >obesity. You have never had a weight problem- I have had one my whole

life.

> >You lead a normal life- I get sneered at daily because of my weight

> problem.

> >I have an expected short life span because of morbid obesity. What else

is

> >there to do? I have tried it all. " Dr. Rutledge spends his life saving

many

> >other's lives. He can cure so many diseases and prevent so many

diseases...

> >Diabetes, sleep apnea, incontinence, arthritis, and many more. You know

> them-

> >I assume you have read the manual. In my opinion, you should sit and

> explain

> >everything to her, bring the manual and show it to her. If she is so

> stubborn

> >that she won't take the time to listen, then you need to find other

> friends.

> >I am sorry this is so long, but it " pisses " me off when " skinny " people

> don't

> >want MO people to do what they need to do to save their own lives.

Surgery

> is

> >not the easy way out- it is a tool. God gave Dr. R the knowledge and

> ability

> >to save our lives. We are not fools for using this tool- we are fools if

we

> >don't. I am glad that you can find support from your family... please

know

> >you have support here. We all go through the same issues... everyday of

our

> >lives. If you can't talk amongst your peers here... who else knows what

you

> >have to deal with better?

> >

> >I can't wait to hear about you being on " the other side " !

> >Good luck,

> >

> >Terri K :^)

> >MGB 10-12-00

> >340/306/1??

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

I don't know, let me think about it. I'd hate to put you through so much

trouble. But, thanks for staying on top of it and keeping me in mind. I

really hope that I get to meet you someday!!

Robin

Re: Digest Number 2463

>Maybe it would help if one of our pcp that appreciate the surgery and what

it has done for us would be willing to speak or mail or email your pcp

something about what they are doing for us.. think?

>Trudy

> Re: Digest Number 2463

> >

> >

> > >In a message dated 11/12/00 8:29:04 PM Eastern Standard Time,

> > >MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes:

> > >

> > >

> > >> She said she will not support me and that I should use willpower. I

> tried

> > to

> > >> explain myself and she said I was taking the " EASY way out. " Of

course

> I

> > >> told

> > >> her this is definitely NOT the easy way out. She is sooooooo

stubborn

> and

> > >> opinionated. I finally said " let's not discuss it then. We can

agree

> to

> > >> disagree and remain friends. " She said " I guess so. bye " and hug

up.

> > >> Both my hubby and daughter are excited about it and very

supportive.

> > Should

> > >> I

> > >>

> > >

> > >Hi Joni,

> > >

> > >For the most part I had a lot of support. But, there were a couple of

> > people

> > >who were not supportive. I did not speak to them about this anymore

than

> I

> > >had to. I am very STUBBORN and will not tolerate anyone who tries to

> change

> > >my opinion about something I feel will better my life. It took a

little

> > >persuading to get my parents to understand, but they eventually came

> around

> > >and when they did ... they supported me 100%. My Mom even wrote my

> support

> > >letter. There are many different reasons why someone wouldn't support

> you

> > ...

> > >maybe they don't understand obesity, or maybe they are

jealous...etc.I

> had

> > my

> > >best friend's brother tell me that my decision to have surgery was an

> > >irresponsible one and that I was taking the easy way out. I just

looked

> at

> > >him and said -- " Easy for you to say-you have kids- I can't because

of

> > >obesity. You have never had a weight problem- I have had one my whole

> life.

> > >You lead a normal life- I get sneered at daily because of my weight

> > problem.

> > >I have an expected short life span because of morbid obesity. What

else

> is

> > >there to do? I have tried it all. " Dr. Rutledge spends his life

saving

> many

> > >other's lives. He can cure so many diseases and prevent so many

> diseases...

> > >Diabetes, sleep apnea, incontinence, arthritis, and many more. You

know

> > them-

> > >I assume you have read the manual. In my opinion, you should sit and

> > explain

> > >everything to her, bring the manual and show it to her. If she is so

> > stubborn

> > >that she won't take the time to listen, then you need to find other

> > friends.

> > >I am sorry this is so long, but it " pisses " me off when " skinny "

people

> > don't

> > >want MO people to do what they need to do to save their own lives.

> Surgery

> > is

> > >not the easy way out- it is a tool. God gave Dr. R the knowledge and

> > ability

> > >to save our lives. We are not fools for using this tool- we are fools

if

> we

> > >don't. I am glad that you can find support from your family... please

> know

> > >you have support here. We all go through the same issues... everyday

of

> our

> > >lives. If you can't talk amongst your peers here... who else knows

what

> you

> > >have to deal with better?

> > >

> > >I can't wait to hear about you being on " the other side " !

> > >Good luck,

> > >

> > >Terri K :^)

> > >MGB 10-12-00

> > >340/306/1??

> > >

> > >

> > >