Re: the reaction of friends

[Guest guest]

Margaret, think about this. You are becoming beautiful. You are raising the

standard she used to measure herself against. You were the sure thing. It

made her feel good to be around you because you were " bigger " . Now she will

have to dig up another standard she can beat every time... Tough! It is her

loss and a measure of her shallowness, and frankly she does not deserve your

friendship.

Lissa

[Guest guest]

Gulp, ouch!

Margaret it aint the easy way out, believe me. In some of our cases (mine) it

was the only way out!

You got one of those friends we all don't need Sweetie!

Trudy

(I'll be your real friend)

the reaction of friends

Speaking of friends' reactions....

My best friend has always struggled with her weight -

but she is only about 40 pounds overweight. She said

it isn't fair that people like her who haven't " let

themselves go " aren't able to have this surgery. I

can't believe she has watched me struggle and diet and

lose and gain for 32 years and she is acting like I

have " let myself go " and now have an " easy out " . It

really hurts.

Margaret in St. Louis

--- WadeAndShelley@... wrote:

> Hi Joni, Sleepless in Seattle. This is just my

> opinion, but your friend

> don't sound like much of a friend. In my opinion,

> if she really cared about

> you and your health, First she would want to know

> and understand about the

> surgery (even read the manual herself). Secondly,

> she sounds very close

> minded about the whole thing and I'm having a

> problem thinking that she's

> thinking about your best interest here. The first

> thing I thought is that

> she's jealous.

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[Guest guest]

Margaret, there's an old sa;ying " God protect me from my friends...my

enemies I know to watch out for. "

[Guest guest]

Thank you, dear Trudy!

It must be jealousy, I can't think of another reason.

She has watched me try every diet known to man, losing

and re-gaining. She watched me do the gastric bubble

thing (what a joke). She has even commented on the

fact that I don't eat that much. So it was a real

shock when she made the comment about being rewarded

for letting myself go. Boy, did that hurt!

We have been best friends since we were 12 yrs old. I

am going to have to sit down and have a heart to heart

talk with her. Her friendship is too valuable to just

let it go.

Margaret in St. Louis

waiting

--- Alan Strong wrote:

> Gulp, ouch!

> Margaret it aint the easy way out, believe me. In

> some of our cases (mine) it was the only way out!

> You got one of those friends we all don't need

> Sweetie!

> Trudy

> (I'll be your real friend)

> the reaction of

> friends

>

>

> Speaking of friends' reactions....

> My best friend has always struggled with her

> weight -

> but she is only about 40 pounds overweight. She

> said

> it isn't fair that people like her who haven't

> " let

> themselves go " aren't able to have this surgery.

> I

> can't believe she has watched me struggle and diet

> and

> lose and gain for 32 years and she is acting like

> I

> have " let myself go " and now have an " easy out " .

> It

> really hurts.

>

> Margaret in St. Louis

>

>

>

> --- WadeAndShelley@... wrote:

> > Hi Joni, Sleepless in Seattle. This is just my

> > opinion, but your friend

> > don't sound like much of a friend. In my

> opinion,

> > if she really cared about

> > you and your health, First she would want to

> know

> > and understand about the

> > surgery (even read the manual herself).

> Secondly,

> > she sounds very close

> > minded about the whole thing and I'm having a

> > problem thinking that she's

> > thinking about your best interest here. The

> first

> > thing I thought is that

> > she's jealous.

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Margaret,

What can a person say. They're our friends. We love them. But we don't

always agree with them. Sounds like jealousy to me. I think you should let

her know that you haven't " let yourself go, " and your offended by her even

suggesting that. Again, just my opinion.

Bells