Re: The Dreaded E-Mail - GWEN

[Guest guest]

No reaction is an overreaction Gwen. We don't get to plan feelings. They just

happen and they're valid and they're not right or wrong..they're just feelings.

This is serious stuff. I was concerned too when started posting studies,

etc. Anyone in their right mind would be. But then my Dr. called it BS and told

me that the information was taken out of the context of the reason we were

having wls and that the studies were done on unhealthy people who had surgery to

solve major medical problems... and told me that I'd done the right thing and I

was able to relax.

If you haven't had surgery yet and you are unsure, you might want to do some

more research. This is something you need to go into sure and convinced. A few

days ago someone posted some ways in which to do some more research...do that,

read lots, talk to your doctor, ask questions and then decide. I lurk on

several other WLS sites and you wouldn't believe the complications and problems

some folks have from other types of surgeries. Makes me grateful that I went

MGB.

For me there was no question as to whether or not to have surgery. I'd run out

of options. It was a question of which surgery. So I concentrated my reading on

the different types of surgery...lap only...which narrowed the reading and

research I had to do. MGB won for me hands down.

I have no regrets..nodda...I'd do it again tomorrow...today...right now. But I

was sure. And you need to be. Do what you need to do to be sure or do what you

need to do to eliminate the feelings of unrest you are experiencing. There's no

shame in having a different surgery and there's no shame in not having any

surgery. Any way you go, we're with you!

Flo in land

> ** Original Subject: RE: The Dreaded E-Mail

> **

> ** Original Date: Thu, 02 Nov 2000 21:05:21 -0700

> ** Original Message follows...

>

> Well I got the same email yesterday and to tell you the truth, It shook me

> up. I had been sooooo excited about having this surgery and now I have some

> doubts. Ya know, I got this email just after receiving word from my health

> insuance company that they approved and would pay for the surgery. I was

> sooooo thrilled. Then to read the email from caused me go go hmmmm.

>

> Am I over reacting?

>

> Gwen in Durham

>

> In a message dated 11/1/2000 4:11:24 PM Eastern Standard Time, sms@...

> writes:

>

> << I got the Dreaded LT e-mail today. I probably should have just discarded

> it without reading it, but you know human nature. I wonder how she got my

> address....... In any event it was uncomfortable reading and stated

> intellectually enough to cause doubts. But I think, for me, I have to remind

> myself that her disappointment has given her an agenda or motive to want to

> disrupt this whole happy family. >>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Flo,

You always know just the right thing to say. I am over that now. I am very

sure. I spoke with a friend today who had an open RNY and she is regretting

it. Ruqayya and I just went and visited Trudy, Judy, JoAnn and all the

others, today's dancers and everyone was well. Everyone was so enthusiastic

about their new outlooks. I wanted to be right were they were.

thank you Flo, your posts add so much to the list.

Im voting Flo for president!

Gwen in Durham

In a message dated 11/3/2000 2:55:34 PM Eastern Standard Time,

florence@... writes:

<< No reaction is an overreaction Gwen. We don't get to plan feelings. They

just happen and they're valid and they're not right or wrong..they're just

feelings. This is serious stuff. I was concerned too when started

posting studies, etc. Anyone in their right mind would be. But then my Dr.

called it BS and told me that the information was taken out of the context of

the reason we were having wls and that the studies were done on unhealthy

people who had surgery to solve major medical problems... and told me that

I'd done the right thing and I was able to relax.

If you haven't had surgery yet and you are unsure, you might want to do some

more research. This is something you need to go into sure and convinced. A

few days ago someone posted some ways in which to do some more research...do

that, read lots, talk to your doctor, ask questions and then decide. I lurk

on several other WLS sites and you wouldn't believe the complications and

problems some folks have from other types of surgeries. Makes me grateful

that I went MGB.

For me there was no question as to whether or not to have surgery. I'd run

out of options. It was a question of which surgery. So I concentrated my

reading on the different types of surgery...lap only...which narrowed the

reading and research I had to do. MGB won for me hands down.

I have no regrets..nodda...I'd do it again tomorrow...today...right now. But

I was sure. And you need to be. Do what you need to do to be sure or do what

you need to do to eliminate the feelings of unrest you are experiencing.

There's no shame in having a different surgery and there's no shame in not

having any surgery. Any way you go, we're with you!

Flo in land

>>

[Guest guest]

Flo: There you go again with just the right words. Phyllis

florence@... wrote:

> No reaction is an overreaction Gwen. We don't get to plan feelings. They just

happen and they're valid and they're not right or wrong..they're just feelings.

This is serious stuff. I was concerned too when started posting studies,

etc. Anyone in their right mind would be. But then my Dr. called it BS and told

me that the information was taken out of the context of the reason we were

having wls and that the studies were done on unhealthy people who had surgery to

solve major medical problems... and told me that I'd done the right thing and I

was able to relax.

>

> If you haven't had surgery yet and you are unsure, you might want to do some

more research. This is something you need to go into sure and convinced. A few

days ago someone posted some ways in which to do some more research...do that,

read lots, talk to your doctor, ask questions and then decide. I lurk on

several other WLS sites and you wouldn't believe the complications and problems

some folks have from other types of surgeries. Makes me grateful that I went

MGB.

>

> For me there was no question as to whether or not to have surgery. I'd run out

of options. It was a question of which surgery. So I concentrated my reading on

the different types of surgery...lap only...which narrowed the reading and

research I had to do. MGB won for me hands down.

>

> I have no regrets..nodda...I'd do it again tomorrow...today...right now. But I

was sure. And you need to be. Do what you need to do to be sure or do what you

need to do to eliminate the feelings of unrest you are experiencing. There's no

shame in having a different surgery and there's no shame in not having any

surgery. Any way you go, we're with you!

>

> Flo in land

>

> > ** Original Subject: RE: The Dreaded E-Mail

> > **

> > ** Original Date: Thu, 02 Nov 2000 21:05:21 -0700

>

> > ** Original Message follows...

>

> >

> > Well I got the same email yesterday and to tell you the truth, It shook me

> > up. I had been sooooo excited about having this surgery and now I have some

> > doubts. Ya know, I got this email just after receiving word from my health

> > insuance company that they approved and would pay for the surgery. I was

> > sooooo thrilled. Then to read the email from caused me go go hmmmm.

> >

> > Am I over reacting?

> >

> > Gwen in Durham

> >

> > In a message dated 11/1/2000 4:11:24 PM Eastern Standard Time, sms@...

> > writes:

> >

> > << I got the Dreaded LT e-mail today. I probably should have just discarded

> > it without reading it, but you know human nature. I wonder how she got my

> > address....... In any event it was uncomfortable reading and stated

> > intellectually enough to cause doubts. But I think, for me, I have to

remind

> > myself that her disappointment has given her an agenda or motive to want to

> > disrupt this whole happy family. >>

> >

> >

> >