RE: Bad times!!! WE ARE HERE!!!!!

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Deb

I know where you are at so well. Mine is over but lingering like the day

after a fire. The kids know - all of them have made comments about " him " being

here and not helping!

We are " existing " . I am afraid to throw him out or move for 2 reasons (1)

MONEY and (2) childcare - when those emergency Dr. visits occur or absences who

else can stay with the kids? I have no family to help me - I am it! I have

to eat alot so there is more of me........LOL

IT SUCKS!!!!!!!! I dread the day when the kids realize the failure of our

marriage was CF - he couldn't handle the diagnosis and totally retreated into

" DENIAL LAND " ........

I know he won't leave the house but I am prepared to take my kids and leave

--- I am just scared to death......I know my children will be happier. It

kills me that I am so on top of their school, drs, etc. to make sure they are

happy yet I allow this piece of crap they call Dad to stay here! What is wrong

with me? I am like the Lion in the Wizard of OZ...I mean COURAGE.........any

ideas.......

Deb -- you are like me - STRONG - too strong..........I guess men don't like

strong women.....CF makes us strong -

Hang in there .........you are NOT alone!!!!!!!!!!

Rosemary in NY with 3 children (13, 11 and 7)

with CF. I have a dog named TOBI and have

coined the phrase " BREATHE DAMMIT "

my new favorite quote is

Any idiot can face a crisis -

it's day to day living that wears you out.

Anton Chekhov

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 2/18/2004 9:06:58 AM Central Standard Time,

woosley@... writes:

Tina W.

Thanks Tina!!! Talking to everyone here keeps me strong too!!! Thanks again!!

Deb A

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In a message dated 2/18/2004 9:30:57 AM Central Standard Time, bevd@...

writes:

grandmomBEV

Thanks GrandmaBEV!!!!!!!!!! Deb A

[Guest guest]

Deb,

Every day is different. The stressors are different. It doesn't take guts!

You will know if and when the time is right.

Hang in there, we are thinking about you. I have heard said that what

doesn't kill us makes us stronger. I believe that! You can thank your

husband for that too.

Tina W.

Re: Bad times!!! WE ARE HERE!!!!!

In a message dated 2/17/2004 11:20:56 PM Central Standard Time,

ROSEMARY3FOR3wCF@... writes:

Rosemary

Thanks Rosemary!!!!! I feel so lucky to have everyone here!!! I don't know

what I would do without everyone!! THANKS!!!! I know what you mean about

courage I didn't have the guts to tell him we need a break today! I wanted

to but I

just keep thinking about the kids and with losing the dog they have all

ready

had a bad week I guess I will just go day to day for now and hope that

things

will get better know matter what I decide to do. I guess I always need to

hang

on until my middle daughters birthday is over with too. Thanks again

Rosemary!!! Deb A