Guest guest Posted December 14, 2006 Report Share Posted December 14, 2006 > > How do you all handle social outings & anything where there is food > (everywhere unfortunately). My kids, almost 3m into the diet, are > still extremely sensitive to other foods & still get upset in a > supermarket about all the foods they " cannot have " . I've opted not to > go anywhere at this point. We're spending the holidays alone & I don't > even go to church anymore becz they have tons of junk food laid out > afterward that all the kids eat which would upset mine! (Bringing our > own stuff doesn't seem to cut it). > > Michele > Outings can be handled as if any other doctor's instructions or diet had been prescribed. You can say what positive and hopeful effect the diet is having, and that justifies being careful and accepting some substitutions or limitations. You can also add how pleased you are to find many good food options using what is available on SCD and you can tell a short success story. Carol F. SCD 6 years, celiac Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2006 Report Share Posted December 14, 2006 Have you ever considered asking your head pastor to eliminate the snacks after worship? Sure, it's a nice thing to provide, but I think that any church leadership would be more concerned with the health of others than providing yummy treats after worship. Explain that you certainly don't expect them to eliminate all social events involving foods(potlucks, Christmas parties, ect.). At least you could feel safe bringing your children to regular worship services, and the either not participate or bring your own food to the occassional potluck. I would seriously considered asking to meet with your church leadership regarding this. If they refuse, then I'd look for a church who cares enough about the state of your soul that they are willing to give up their weekly coffee hour in order to allow your family to safely attend worship. Meleah Re: Outings etc > > How do you all handle social outings & anything where there is food > (everywhere unfortunately). My kids, almost 3m into the diet, are > still extremely sensitive to other foods & still get upset in a > supermarket about all the foods they " cannot have " . I've opted not to > go anywhere at this point. We're spending the holidays alone & I don't > even go to church anymore becz they have tons of junk food laid out > afterward that all the kids eat which would upset mine! (Bringing our > own stuff doesn't seem to cut it). > > Michele > Outings can be handled as if any other doctor's instructions or diet had been prescribed. You can say what positive and hopeful effect the diet is having, and that justifies being careful and accepting some substitutions or limitations. You can also add how pleased you are to find many good food options using what is available on SCD and you can tell a short success story. Carol F. SCD 6 years, celiac Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2006 Report Share Posted December 14, 2006 Michele, can you bargain? Tell them they can't go these places because they get mad, only if they are okay with eating their food can they go. Sort of a reinforcer. HTH, Debi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2006 Report Share Posted December 14, 2006 Michele, I'm going through the same thing with my family. We stayed away from many social outings for years because my huband and children are celiac and they have a ton of food intolerances too. It is even harder now because the kids are early on in the scd and now they can't even have a raw fruit/vege tray...and I'm sure there will be one everywhere just because of us...Food at social things really upsets me because I can eat everything...but I never do eat because they can't. But we are going whether there is food there or not...we are eating at home first...bringing snacks...and if anyones asks why we are not eating..I just say we have allergies and maybe next year we can eat more as a special diet is fixing are digestive problems. I now feel that I do not need to justify why they can not eat...I am a good mom who has the courage to take on this big challenge. I will not talk about the diet or foods issues at parties anymore as it is too hard on my kids...if someone has questions I tell them we can talk about this at a better time. I always remind my children that we are there to have fun, to enjoy the company of our friends and family...that next year we can eat more. I am lucky that I am holding 2 family christmas dinners at my house this year, so I don't have to cart around lots of food...but there will be potatoes, and other foods they can not eat...they may get upset but at least they can go play if they are too upset to be at the table... I am very picky about what parties etc. we go to...but I will no longer stay away from everything...I have waited 9 long years to find a way(SCD) to help my family...and I feel that they have missed out on too much socially. I am sure a year or two from now, when they can eat more, they will forget about the food they could not eat in the past, but they will remember the time they spent with friends and family. This is how I am handling it. I hope my kids are not too upset...maybe they will surprise me. Good luck Michele....You have to do what you feel is best...whatever you choose...You still are a GOOD MOM. Happy Holidays, Cathy 9, 6 -- In pecanbread , " hugs_may99 " wrote: > > How do you all handle social outings & anything where there is food > (everywhere unfortunately). My kids, almost 3m into the diet, are > still extremely sensitive to other foods & still get upset in a > supermarket about all the foods they " cannot have " . I've opted not to > go anywhere at this point. We're spending the holidays alone & I don't > even go to church anymore becz they have tons of junk food laid out > afterward that all the kids eat which would upset mine! (Bringing our > own stuff doesn't seem to cut it). > > Michele > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2006 Report Share Posted December 14, 2006 They tend to say yes, we'll be fine, then it's a whole different story once there. I had discussed it with them prior to a birthday invite a month ago, & I got the sense it would be bad when we got there, so I told them we weren't going. There was disappointment but they didn't say anything to me. Michele > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2006 Report Share Posted December 14, 2006 We were very new there even beforehand (haven't been there in a couple of months) so I wouldn't feel comfortable doing that just for us, especially becz we attended infrequently before depending on my autistic son's behavior; he was getting more & more difficult there & he'snot any better now so that's part of why we don't go still. The food is the other part. I honestly doubt that would go over in any church though. I visited several before we attended that one for a while & there wasn't a one that didn't offer the " junk food hour " . I hear what you're saying & I know you are right, but unfortunately most people aren't going to be willing to do that, even for another brother or sister with issues (even though we are not to cause others to stumble!). Thanks, Michele > > > > How do you all handle social outings & anything where there is food > > (everywhere unfortunately). My kids, almost 3m into the diet, are > > still extremely sensitive to other foods & still get upset in a > > supermarket about all the foods they " cannot have " . I've opted not to > > go anywhere at this point. We're spending the holidays alone & I don't > > even go to church anymore becz they have tons of junk food laid out > > afterward that all the kids eat which would upset mine! (Bringing our > > own stuff doesn't seem to cut it). > > > > Michele > > > Outings can be handled as if any other doctor's instructions or diet had been prescribed. > You can say what positive and hopeful effect the diet is having, and that justifies being > careful and accepting some substitutions or limitations. You can also add how pleased you > are to find many good food options using what is available on SCD and you can tell a > short success story. > > Carol F. > SCD 6 years, celiac > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2006 Report Share Posted December 14, 2006 What an interesting topic! Thanks for bringing it up, Michele, We just tend to not go most places where there will be food she can't eat. It's not worth it in terms of her emotional upheaval. This diet is hard enough on a kid without reinforcing that, imo. Ellen 9 y/o dd scd since 5/06 for crohn's Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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