Guest guest Posted November 9, 2000 Report Share Posted November 9, 2000 In a message dated 11/9/00 11:39:34 AM Eastern Standard Time, MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes: > I am so > upset. I was so hoping for a date in dec but that doesnt look like > Hi, Robin: I know how disappointed you must feel. Take a deep breath. It's okay to say some bad things about Dr. R. in the privacy of your own home - I know I did during the application process! Just don't say them to his face, or he'll double your Tums requirement or something equally bad like that. Look over your packet, if you kept a copy, especially at the separate categories he wants you to address. On another piece of paper, make headings that correspond to each of the sections of your patient letter, " Understanding the Risks of Surgery " , etc. Now, start listing in each of those categories all the things you can think of that pertain to YOU. How morbid obesity has impacted YOUR life. List the risks of surgery, and answer each risk for yourself. And so on and so forth. Same with the family letter - make sure your family member really writes about how they've seen morbid obesity has impacted the quality of YOUR life, and that they fully understand what you'll need after surgery: emotional support through all the changes, etc. etc. Is your patient letter still in your computer? Go back into your original document and add in these thoughts and changes. He doesn't expect us to be literary giants, but he does need to know that we and our families FULLY understand what we're getting ourselves into. We're essentially changing one chronic condition for another - morbid obesity and its complications for another chronic condition (rearranged innards) with its own potential for complications. I believe in you, and how much you want this surgery. Deal with your disappointment first, and then after you've done a lot of cursing and deep breathing (remember, I did a LOT of this during my application process). Then write that letter again, from the heart again, and I can almost guarantee that you'll be fine. Call me or write me if you need any extra support. Love, Blair Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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