MILs are so frustrating! - vent

[Guest guest]

I wrote my MIL/FIL an email discussing all the issues that came up

with Colin's health this week. It was quite detailed and expressed all

the concerns with what lies ahead and she writes me back saying she is

sorry that the weather is so cold here and doesn't even mention

ANYTHING in her email about what I wrote. This is typical with her,

but very frustrating. Fortunately her visit here next week will be

short (only 3 days). Does anyone else have a MIL/FIL in total denial

that offers no support?

Colin (RSS, g-tube, possibly starting Growth Hormone, and also ADHD

diagnosis)

[Guest guest]

LOL. Funny you should mention that.

I was just thinking about the fact that we haven't even told Mikes parents

yet. We've known for months! Mike doesn't want to tell them. I think we

should. I don't think he thinks they'll be very supportive either. I just

think they'll brush it under the rug......much like your situation. I don't

know what's worse. Not telling them at all or knowing how they'll react if we

do. It is frustrating.

Jeanie

colinandhaydensmom wrote:

I wrote my MIL/FIL an email discussing all the issues that came up

with Colin's health this week. It was quite detailed and expressed all

the concerns with what lies ahead and she writes me back saying she is

sorry that the weather is so cold here and doesn't even mention

ANYTHING in her email about what I wrote. This is typical with her,

but very frustrating. Fortunately her visit here next week will be

short (only 3 days). Does anyone else have a MIL/FIL in total denial

that offers no support?

Colin (RSS, g-tube, possibly starting Growth Hormone, and also ADHD

diagnosis)

[Guest guest]

<<Does anyone else have a MIL/FIL in total denial

that offers no support?>>

Isn't that the definition of Mother in Law???

Mine is coming on Wednesday till the 27th... I am NOT looking forward to it

at ALL.

R

Mom to Jed (12) Asthma, tics, CAPD

Liam (5) Asthma, Epilepsy, Hearing impaired,

SGA, Food Allergies.

Orlando Fl

[Guest guest]

My mother-in-law, may she rest in peace, was not in denial. In fact,

she interfered with everything and understood nothing. She used

to " mourn " Max all the time and grossly underestimated his

abilities. My husband used to get so frustrated with her. She

would say she wanted to be involved and then only make things more

complicated. She treated Max like a china doll most of the time -

until she got sick with MS and slowly went downhill. Then some

dementia set in and that led to a whole bunch of other problems.

But now that I think about it, I do remember the time Max was in

Columbia-Presbyterian Hospital in NYC. He had been there for about

2 weeks and she and her husband came to visit. She said she had to

use the bathroom and went into the one in Max's room. I should

mention that the baby in the other bed was on 24 hour oxygen. And

my MIL did not go in there to use the facilities. She went in there

to SMOKE!!! Oh, we were so angry.

On the other hand, my father-in-law is a doll. I love him. He is

the nicest man.

Jodi Z

[Guest guest]

my inlaws could care less about christopher and my other children for

that matter!! they showed no concern what so ever after he was born

and we were trying to figure out what was going on!! he just turned

five and in thouse 5 yrs they have come to see him about 8x and only

live 5 min up the road!! they have no idea and dont care about what he

has gone through or will go through in the future!!

jodie c