RE: another janice ponder

January 15, 2004

Yes, I think I have. If I spend a lot of time with a hairdo, make-up

and new clothes and no one notices, I feel disappointed.

Vicki

> ok so here is another one of my musings..

>

> have any of you become vain? i mean down right vain? did you ever

think you

> would?

>

> now i am not using that term in a good or bad judgmental way, no

negative

> connotation like we use it in society

> just pain ole vain

>

> janice

>

> ONLY 100 pounds

>

> >

> > -----Original Message-----

> >

January 15, 2004

I am definitely vain, or I feel like I am. I have to check myself out in

almost every mirror I pass. I also always turn sideways to admire my

flat stomach. I don't know if that's really vanity or not, but whatever.

I had enough years of avoiding mirrors and feeling like I looked like

shit that I think maybe they cancel out.

Z

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RE: another janice ponder

ok so here is another one of my musings..

have any of you become vain? i mean down right vain? did you ever think

you would?

now i am not using that term in a good or bad judgmental way, no

negative connotation like we use it in society just pain ole vain

janice

January 15, 2004

Ya know, I think that the farther out I get, the less I do this. I

got to my current weight about 2 yrs ago and did the

window/mirror " check out " for over a year, give or take a month. Now

I don't do it so often. Maybe I am finally beginning to adjust?

Reba

> I am definitely vain, or I feel like I am. I have to check myself

out in

> almost every mirror I pass. I also always turn sideways to admire my

> flat stomach. I don't know if that's really vanity or not, but

whatever.

> I had enough years of avoiding mirrors and feeling like I looked

like

> shit that I think maybe they cancel out.

>

> Z

> Open RNY 09/17/01

> http://www.ziobro.us

January 15, 2004

I wouldn't say vain, but when all dressed up, I do admire what I see

in the mirror! And I pout if hubby does not " say " something nice!

After all those years of avoiding the mirror and vainly searching for

an outfit that makes me look less fat, its now a pleasure to wear

fitted clothes and admire me in them...now without clothes, another

story!!

Cindy in Va

lap RNY 2/8/02

> ok so here is another one of my musings..

>

> have any of you become vain? i mean down right vain? did you ever

think you

> would?

>

> now i am not using that term in a good or bad judgmental way, no

negative

> connotation like we use it in society

> just pain ole vain

>

> janice

>

January 18, 2004

In a message dated 1/18/2004 9:32:19 AM Eastern Standard Time,

shrinkin2000@... writes:

We

live in a college town and I noticed that the " students " were

looking and me kinda funny. Maybe I was dressing a little young

========================================

When I was 25,my MIL's friend was wearing her size 8 bells. My SIL said that

she couldn't understand why someone her age would wear them. I didn't

understand what she meant then and I don't understand now at 61. How can a pair

of

slacks have anything to do with an age. But then I never see the rules that

others go by.

Coping with the emotional aspects of craving food, one day at a time.

Fay Bayuk

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January 18, 2004

In a message dated 1/18/04 9:32:10 AM Eastern Standard Time,

shrinkin2000@... writes:

> . We

> live in a college town and I noticed that the " students " were

> looking and me kinda funny. Maybe I was dressing a little young for

> my 48 yrs, but, dang it, I can wear them now! How about the rest of

> you?

>

> Reba

>

you go girl...and did you consider that you

just looked so great....why wouldn't they look? enjoy...o, yeah, 48 is young!!!

warmly,

laura

January 18, 2004

Along this same line of thought, has anyone else noticed that they

are wearing clothes that are a little " young " for them? Maybe I

should address this to those of us who have been obese our whole

life.

I am thrilled that the bell bottoms are back. When I was young (way

back when) I was to big to wear these. I was stuck in strech slacks

with the sewn in creases, LOL! I recently found some really big

bell bell-bottom pants that I just couldn't resist! Got them and

wore them last night to a BBQ/Baby Shower.

On the way to the shower, dh & I stopped to grab a bite to eat. We

live in a college town and I noticed that the " students " were

looking and me kinda funny. Maybe I was dressing a little young for

my 48 yrs, but, dang it, I can wear them now! How about the rest of

you?

Reba

> Hi all,

>

> Yes. I'm vain now. Because I want to look good now that I feel

good and feel like I look good. I look in the mirror.....the window

reflections....etc. I wear make-up...I spend lots of money on

clothes and shoes and skin care products.... But like you said, I

don't see that as a negative. For the first time in my life I've

wanted to take care of me and make the best " outside " me as I can.

I'm excited everytime I look in the mirror. Though I don't think

i'm the most beautiful woman out there, I do have a certain

something and think it's the confidence of knowing what I've done

for myself. To others....it probably does look like vanity.

>

> Peace,

> G in Sacramento

>

January 18, 2004

Fay,

I guess it kinda takes me back to my MO days when I felt like the

world was looking at me and turning up their collective noses. Ya

know? Of course it's not gonna stop me from dressing nice even if

it is bell bottoms, LOL!

Reba

> In a message dated 1/18/2004 9:32:19 AM Eastern Standard Time,

> shrinkin2000@y... writes:

> We

> live in a college town and I noticed that the " students " were

> looking and me kinda funny. Maybe I was dressing a little young

> ========================================

> When I was 25,my MIL's friend was wearing her size 8 bells. My

SIL said that

> she couldn't understand why someone her age would wear them. I

didn't

> understand what she meant then and I don't understand now at 61.

How can a pair of

> slacks have anything to do with an age. But then I never see the

rules that

> others go by.

>

> Coping with the emotional aspects of craving food, one day at a

time.

>

> Fay Bayuk

> **300/171

> 10/23/01

> Dr.

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> Click for My Profile

> http://obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/profile.phtml?

N=Bayuk951061008

>

January 18, 2004

My opinion is wear what makes you feel good. Bell bottoms, mini skirts,

granny sweaters. If it makes you feel good, go for it. The only person I

listen to about what looks good on me is my hubby. And he'll tell me I look

best in nothing. LOL. I'll be 48 next month. My mother just turned 66 last

October, and I'd raid her closet any day. Except she is 5'6, and wears a

size 2. Darn. (She's also 20 years post WLS)

Jac

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Re: another janice ponder

Along this same line of thought, has anyone else noticed that they

are wearing clothes that are a little " young " for them? Maybe I

should address this to those of us who have been obese our whole

life.

I am thrilled that the bell bottoms are back. When I was young (way

back when) I was to big to wear these. I was stuck in strech slacks

with the sewn in creases, LOL! I recently found some really big

bell bell-bottom pants that I just couldn't resist! Got them and

wore them last night to a BBQ/Baby Shower.

On the way to the shower, dh & I stopped to grab a bite to eat. We

live in a college town and I noticed that the " students " were

looking and me kinda funny. Maybe I was dressing a little young for

my 48 yrs, but, dang it, I can wear them now! How about the rest of

you?

Reba

> Hi all,

>

> Yes. I'm vain now. Because I want to look good now that I feel

good and feel like I look good. I look in the mirror.....the window

reflections....etc. I wear make-up...I spend lots of money on

clothes and shoes and skin care products.... But like you said, I

don't see that as a negative. For the first time in my life I've

wanted to take care of me and make the best " outside " me as I can.

I'm excited everytime I look in the mirror. Though I don't think

i'm the most beautiful woman out there, I do have a certain

something and think it's the confidence of knowing what I've done

for myself. To others....it probably does look like vanity.

>

> Peace,

> G in Sacramento

>

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January 18, 2004

oh heck ya

i have a suede minskirt

i have thigh high boots

i have a peekaboo sheer trendy blouse

and i dont care!!!

if i wanna wear it cuz i can becuz it fits then i will

i am 43

LOL

janice

Re: another janice ponder

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are wearing clothes that are a little " young " for them?

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January 18, 2004

EXACTLY!

Re: Re: another janice ponder

In a message dated 1/18/2004 9:32:19 AM Eastern Standard Time,

shrinkin2000@... writes:

We

live in a college town and I noticed that the " students " were

looking and me kinda funny. Maybe I was dressing a little young

========================================

When I was 25,my MIL's friend was wearing her size 8 bells. My SIL said

that

she couldn't understand why someone her age would wear them. I didn't

understand what she meant then and I don't understand now at 61. How can a

pair of

slacks have anything to do with an age. But then I never see the rules that

others go by.

Coping with the emotional aspects of craving food, one day at a time.

Fay Bayuk

**300/171

10/23/01

Dr.

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January 18, 2004

Hi Reba,

Although I haven't bought anything terribly young for me (except maybe my denim

jacket) I walk through the mall drooling at the following stores - Charlotte

Russe, Forever 21, New York Incorporated...all full of belly shirts, red leather

halter tops and hip huggers. As I have discovered butt be back BIG TIME I

cannot wear any low cut pants - they don't go over my butt.

I am not dressing old either - I am 40. I find I do best at the department

stores (Macy's, Strawbridges - clearance rack only) and perhaps TJ's and

Marshalls...

However a girl can dream...

Marjie

Along this same line of thought, has anyone else noticed that they

are wearing clothes that are a little " young " for them? Maybe I

should address this to those of us who have been obese our whole

life.

January 18, 2004

Dear Reba,

Back in the day (around 1968-69), I was way too fat for girl's

bellbottoms. My mom worked for the Navy, so I was able to get men's low

rise bell bottoms (size 42 waist) to fit. They had these ENORMOUS bells

on them and I loved 'em and wore 'em to death. The best part was they

only cost $5 a piece at the PX back then. I was 14 or 15 at the time.

Now, I'm 2 months shy of 50 and, for the first time in almost 35 years,

wearing bell bottoms again. They are my jeans of choice. Always have

been. It may, or may not, look age appropriate, but I don't feel my

age, and I know I don't look my age. As for dressing how you would

think I should dress at my age, well, hell, I did that for the past 35

in-between years. I'm reclaiming my lost clothing youth in this new

millennium and enjoying every moment of it. I'm glad to see you're

doing the same...

And Fay, I LOVE your attitude.

live each day like it's your last... love like you've never been hurt...

Deb in Hazlet, NJ

" Debbie Dancer "

distal rny

September 3, 2002

386/212/165

BMI 60/31/24

-174

-100 "

Angel to Bill, Debbie, Ilene, Roy, and Ro

January 18, 2004

Do ya' remember the old Ditto jeans? Well, I was way too fat to ever

even consider wearing 'em when they were first out many, many years

ago. Found a pair of Tommy Hilfiger pants on the clearance rack at

Macy's that were made just like the old Ditto's- I bought 'em! And

not only that but they were a light beige to boot! I proudly wear

those darn size 10 pants now.

Alice

The Loon

RNY 12/28/00

Along this same line of thought, has anyone else noticed that they

are wearing clothes that are a little " young " for them? Maybe I

should address this to those of us who have been obese our whole

life.

I am thrilled that the bell bottoms are back. When I was young (way

> back when) I was to big to wear these. I was stuck in strech

slacks with the sewn in creases, LOL! I recently found some really

big bell bell-bottom pants that I just couldn't resist! Got them

and wore them last night to a BBQ/Baby Shower.

January 18, 2004

I wear whatever I think looks good on me and makes me feel good. It also

has to be comfortable. Now that I can wear a much smaller size, I have more

choices than I used to and I can wait for exactly the right outfit. I have

to be totally crazy about it before I buy it.

I do most of my shopping at second hand-stores. I prefer this, as I have

more style choices. Some seasons, most of the new clothes are in colors

that I cannot wear. At second hand stores, there is always a color just

right for me, if I look long and hard enough. Of course I also enjoy the

hunt.

And, it could be that the college students are looking at you because they

admire you style. I think we are in a very good time now fashion-wise, in

that we can wear anything we want. You can pick your own style.

Barbara Jean

Re: another janice ponder

> On the way to the shower, dh & I stopped to grab a bite to eat. We

> live in a college town and I noticed that the " students " were

> looking and me kinda funny. Maybe I was dressing a little young for

> my 48 yrs, but, dang it, I can wear them now! How about the rest of

> you?

>

> Reba

>

January 18, 2004

I forgot to mention that I am 53 years olf.

Barbara Jean

Re: another janice ponder

>

> > On the way to the shower, dh & I stopped to grab a bite to eat. We

> > live in a college town and I noticed that the " students " were

> > looking and me kinda funny. Maybe I was dressing a little young for

> > my 48 yrs, but, dang it, I can wear them now! How about the rest of

> > you?

> >

> > Reba

> >

>

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January 19, 2004

guys another first for me

JEANS

i have never ever in my entire 43 years of life ever owned a pair of jeans

when they did fit, i did not think they looked good on a fat girl

later, they simply did not fit

now that i can wear them, i refused out of spite/protest/fear to buy jeans

today for the first time i decided that i was being silly

i can and should wear whatever the heck i want

so i did it!!

and they were size 8 extremely low rise, slight flare express jeans

the cutest trendiest smallist jeans i could get

in fact i went to the saleslady and explained quite embarrasingly my dilemna

i told her i thought i was a 12

she measured me, combed the entire store and every style until we found the

perfect most flattering pair!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

and they were size 8

did i say they were size 8??????

ok i know i am way too excited about a pair of jeans

but this is a first for me

LOL

now wait til i wear them in public

gotta buy some low rise panties first LOL

oh lordy, trendy hussy here i come

my dh will faint!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LOL janice

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