Concern for anothers child

November 16, 2010

I was hoping that someone could give me some ideas on how to bring up the subject or tort and plagio to a mother/teacher at my son's daycare. She is a Teacher but she also has a son in my son's room, that clearly has tort and plagio. This little boys is always sitting in an exasaucer in the mornings when I drop my boys off and his head is always tilted to the left side with clear flatening on the side of his head too, he just looks so sad and miserable. My 3 year old was treated with a helmet because of brachy when he was 6 mo old and my 9 month old had tort and the start of flatening when he was 1-2 mo old but I caught it quick enough and fix it with chiropractic and repositioning. So I am very aware of the conditions, but do not want to upset this mother by pointing it out, but I left in tears today because I feel so

bad and do not know how to approach this mother/teacher. Any suggestions would be helpful.*** Amy Fiore ***

November 16, 2010

Some things are trickier to point out even if you know the red flags. Like

autism, for instance, is something people have a hard time mentioning to others

because it may not be that, and it is a lifelong disorder. But this seems to

clearly be a physical problem that you recognize well and, therefore, I think

you should say something to her about it. If she gets mad, oh well. At least you

tried for the child.

I would say, " You know, both of my kids had torticollis where they only look one

direction like your child, and we decided to treat the older one for the

flattening on his skull that occurred as a result of it. Has the pediatrician

mentioned anything to you about it? " If she says no, then say " OK I just wanted

to see because a lot of pediatricians miss this or falsely think the head will

round out on its own. But there are things you can do like physical therapy or

repositioning or a helmet like my kid had " . If she says her pediatrician has

mentioned it, then say " Good, I just wanted to make sure. If you have any

questions let me know because no one ever told me about this before I had my

baby " , and leave it at that. They may know that the skull is flattening and

about the torticollis but have decided not to do anything about it for various

reasons.

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> I was hoping that someone could give me some ideas on how to bring up the

subject or tort and plagio to a mother/teacher at my son's daycare. She is a

Teacher but she also has a son in my son's room, that clearly has tort and

plagio. This little boys is always sitting in an exasaucer in the mornings when

I drop my boys off and his head is always tilted to the left side with clear

flatening on the side of his head too, he just looks so sad and miserable. My 3

year old was treated with a helmet because of brachy when he was 6 mo old and my

9 month old had tort and the start of flatening when he was 1-2 mo old but I

caught it quick enough and fix it with chiropractic and repositioning. So I am

very aware of the conditions, but do not want to upset this mother by pointing

it out, but I left in tears today because I feel so bad and do not know how to

approach this mother/teacher. Any suggestions would be helpful.

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> *** Amy Fiore ***

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November 16, 2010

That is a great response and i wholeheartedly agree! well said! Kelsie

From: danaiconnie <danaiconnie@...>Plagiocephaly Sent: Tue, November 16, 2010 12:16:11 PMSubject: Re: Concern for anothers child

Some things are trickier to point out even if you know the red flags. Like autism, for instance, is something people have a hard time mentioning to others because it may not be that, and it is a lifelong disorder. But this seems to clearly be a physical problem that you recognize well and, therefore, I think you should say something to her about it. If she gets mad, oh well. At least you tried for the child. I would say, "You know, both of my kids had torticollis where they only look one direction like your child, and we decided to treat the older one for the flattening on his skull that occurred as a result of it. Has the pediatrician mentioned anything to you about it?" If she says no, then say "OK I just wanted to see because a lot of pediatricians miss this or falsely think the head will round out on its own. But there are things you can do like physical therapy or repositioning or a helmet like my kid had". If she says her pediatrician

has mentioned it, then say "Good, I just wanted to make sure. If you have any questions let me know because no one ever told me about this before I had my baby", and leave it at that. They may know that the skull is flattening and about the torticollis but have decided not to do anything about it for various reasons.>> I was hoping that someone could give me some ideas on how to bring up the subject or tort and plagio to a mother/teacher at my son's daycare. She is a Teacher but she also has a son in my son's room, that clearly has tort and plagio. This little boys is always sitting in an exasaucer in the mornings when I drop my boys off and his head is always tilted to the left side with clear flatening

on the side of his head too, he just looks so sad and miserable. My 3 year old was treated with a helmet because of brachy when he was 6 mo old and my 9 month old had tort and the start of flatening when he was 1-2 mo old but I caught it quick enough and fix it with chiropractic and repositioning. So I am very aware of the conditions, but do not want to upset this mother by pointing it out, but I left in tears today because I feel so bad and do not know how to approach this mother/teacher. Any suggestions would be helpful.> > *** Amy Fiore ***>

November 17, 2010

The baby is young enough for a band right? I would just tell her that you

noticed he has some flatness and tell him your kids did too. Then if she is

responsive share more of your story. I would definitely try. I remember when my

daughter was banded I saw another baby who needed a band at a company picnic. I

tried to use our story to encourage her, but she wasn't very open to it, and i

hardly knew her. She told me it was " rounding out on its own now " . I saw her

baby 6 mo later and it was still quite bad.

-christine

sydney, 4.5 yrs, starband grad