Guest guest Posted December 25, 2003 Report Share Posted December 25, 2003 , you are able to express your feelings so well. You received some good info, please open your mind and heart. Don't make big decisions in a depressed state of mind, heal yourself and then the decisions will be easier. Fay Bayuk **300/168 10/23/01 Dr. Open RNY 150 cm Click for My Profile http://obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/profile.phtml?N=Bayuk951061008 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 25, 2003 Report Share Posted December 25, 2003 , I can certainly hear your pain. I have been in a similar boat on and off for some 20 years. Their are a few things that have always helped me. One of the things that I realized was that if I can help others, I don't have as much time to worry about me or my problems. I have volunteered with a mental health/mental retardation agency as a mentor. I have volunteered to deliver Meals on Wheels on Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years. I have baked brownies and cookies for a local fire department. I volunteered one afternoon a week at a children's hospital. It is amazing the transition in my mood. I discovered that I wasn't as lonely or depressed. I realized that everyone has their own burden to carry. I realized I had some value and ability to help others. It doesn't have to cost a whole lot and it is something that you maybe able to include your kids. The other thing I did was to go and get medication for my depression. I hated having to do it. I thought it would make me weak. What I finally had to realize was that I would do the same thing for my diabetes so why should my mental health be any different. It didn't make the problems go away but it certainly helped the thought process. It helped that I wasn't overwhelmed. I also journal some when I get totally stressed especially if I can't talk to someone right away. Hope this helps. Lori Owen - Denton, Texas SRVG 7/16/01 Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce 479/356/hoping for close to 200 On Thu, 25 Dec 2003 07:34:00 -0800 (PST) P writes: > I don't need anyone preaching to > me, but do need your prayers and if you have any good > thoughts on what I can try to do to become happier > then I would love to hear it. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 25, 2003 Report Share Posted December 25, 2003 Dear , Sending warmth and love your way on what is often the most stressful holiday of the year. I was going to send some suggestions, and then I read Lori's note (below), and she said precisely the things that I would have said, only, from personal experience on her part, she said them better than I could ever have done. In a nutshell: help others, and it will help you feel so much better yourself, and seek medical help and possible medications, if only for a while. I cannot stress how important it may be for you to seek the medical help, because what you wrote sounds like clinical depression, and I am afraid that you could do harm to yourself if you do not get some " mid-course correction. " Also, we must keep up with vitamins and nutrition or risk long-term consequences that are extremely difficult to reverse. I have put back about five pounds since my gall bladder removal at the end of October and orders to avoid strenuous exercise for six weeks. I am back to the gym now, but the weight gain has me scared. So, I understand a little bit about how you might feel about your own regain. All the above is sent with caring and concern. I hope that when you read it, it doesn't feel as though you are being preached to. Each and every member of our WLS " club " is so important to all the rest of us, that we sometimes have to risk offending in order to help. Merry Christmas, Steve At 10:35 AM -0600 12/25/03, loriowen@... wrote: >From: loriowen@... > >, > I can certainly hear your pain. I have been in a similar boat on >and off for some 20 years. Their are a few things that have always >helped me. One of the things that I realized was that if I can help >others, I don't have as much time to worry about me or my problems. >...It is amazing the transition in my mood. I discovered that I >wasn't as lonely or depressed. I realized that everyone has their own >burden to carry. I realized I had some value and ability to help others. > It doesn't have to cost a whole lot and it is something that you maybe >able to include your kids. > The other thing I did was to go and get medication for my >depression. I hated having to do it. I thought it would make me weak. >What I finally had to realize was that I would do the same thing for my >diabetes so why should my mental health be any different. It didn't make >the problems go away but it certainly helped the thought process. It >helped that I wasn't overwhelmed. I also journal some when I get totally >stressed especially if I can't talk to someone right away. Hope this >helps. >... >On Thu, 25 Dec 2003 07:34:00 -0800 (PST) P >writes: >> I don't need anyone preaching to >> me, but do need your prayers and if you have any good >> thoughts on what I can try to do to become happier >> then I would love to hear it. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 25, 2003 Report Share Posted December 25, 2003 , Lori and Steve said it so well. Please know we are all here for you and care for you. Please listen to their suggestions and get yourself help. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Diane LAP RNY 9/99 > >From: loriowen@j... > > > >, > > I can certainly hear your pain. I have been in a similar boat on > >and off for some 20 years. Their are a few things that have always > >helped me. One of the things that I realized was that if I can help > >others, I don't have as much time to worry about me or my problems. > >...It is amazing the transition in my mood. I discovered that I > >wasn't as lonely or depressed. I realized that everyone has their own > >burden to carry. I realized I had some value and ability to help others. > > It doesn't have to cost a whole lot and it is something that you maybe > >able to include your kids. > > The other thing I did was to go and get medication for my > >depression. I hated having to do it. I thought it would make me weak. > >What I finally had to realize was that I would do the same thing for my > >diabetes so why should my mental health be any different. It didn't make > >the problems go away but it certainly helped the thought process. It > >helped that I wasn't overwhelmed. I also journal some when I get totally > >stressed especially if I can't talk to someone right away. Hope this > >helps. > >... > >On Thu, 25 Dec 2003 07:34:00 -0800 (PST) P <lisap061970@y...> > >writes: > >> I don't need anyone preaching to > >> me, but do need your prayers and if you have any good > >> thoughts on what I can try to do to become happier > >> then I would love to hear it. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 27, 2003 Report Share Posted December 27, 2003 , I can hear your pain. I don't exactly know your circumstances but I can sympathize. My first husband left in September and it was a hard Christmas season that year. Finances made things even more difficult. I sought counseling for my children to deal with their loss. I did as well so that I would be strong enough for them. I was put on antidepressants myself, due to situational depression. It was to help me think more clearly. It did not change my views or who I was. It was only to help me get the strength to do what I needed. Life dealt my family some pretty tough things in life for the next three years. I took each day as it came and did not focus on what was next. I enrolled in college, got my degree and began working. It was not easy with three kids aged 6, 9 and 10 but they were my inspiration. I drew each breath in for them. Their father failed them and still does. (I never have said this to them.) I had to be a survivor for them. You will find that if you put your trust in God or your belief of a superior being, you will not fall. You will make mistakes and things may go not as planned. Trust me though, the daylight will come back. Each day gets easier. You must put yourself and your children above all else in your life. Seek help in any way you need it. Believe me, there are people with gold in their hearts that will help you to help yourself. Medication is not the answer for everyone but I would seek a professional opinion. Why suffer emotionally to such an extreme when there are other possibilities. You will come through this. You only need to ask for help where you need it. There are really angles on earth. Watch closely because they will help you along your way. Sincerely, Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 27, 2003 Report Share Posted December 27, 2003 Dawn, thank you for posting such a strength giving post. Fay Bayuk **300/168 10/23/01 Dr. Open RNY 150 cm Click for My Profile http://obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/profile.phtml?N=Bayuk951061008 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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