Re: Re: Job changes - WLS related?

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 12/08/2003 12:48:13 PM Eastern Standard Time,

clis1@... writes:

> Ugh...it's ALL related to WLS.

> If we are not happy we tend to eat.

>

> Life is too short. Find something pleasing to you. A job that you

> enjoy getting out of bed for, not one that depresses you and sends

> you to the refrigerator looking for comfort.

>

>

I can agree with that whole-heartedly. Life is too short to do something you

hate. If you can do it financially, find something that you will feel

satisfied and productive with. I am one of the lucky ones. I love my work. I

am a

music teacher and church choir director. I had to thread a few jobs together

to make it work, but I love my life. Kim O

[Guest guest]

That is one of the problems....when I'm bored I start thinking about food...I

have put on weight since I started this job....I'm hoping if I find something

busier that I won't focus on food during the day and will start to loose again.

Karla Hook

Dr. Provost

4/7/00

> Ugh...it's ALL related to WLS.

> If we are not happy we tend to eat.

>

> Life is too short. Find something pleasing to you. A job that you

> enjoy getting out of bed for, not one that depresses you and sends

> you to the refrigerator looking for comfort.

>

> Hugs and Godspeed!

> Carol G.

>

>

>

>

>

> > > Since WLS Surgery I have changed jobs several times....bored,

> not

> > > satisfied with what I am doing. Below are the changes in Jobs:

> > >

> > > - Surgery April 2000

> > > Oct 1999 - Oct 2000 - Ended long term temp job Oct 2000

> > > Nov 2000 - Jan 2001 - Worked temp position until got perm job

> > > Jan 2001 - Nov 2001 - Worked perm job until something more

> exciting

> > > came along (basically was bored and not busy enough)

> > > Nov 2001 - May 2002 - Job was fun but my boss left and I was

> doing

> > > her job and was promised the a raise and job title...after 2

> months

> > > of lots of stress and no raise as promised...I left

> > > May 2002 - Jul 2002 - Temp job until recieved perm job

> > > Jul 2002 - Present - my present job the people are wonderful but

> I am

> > > bored and don't have enough to do...makes for a long day. So I

> have

> > > been putting my resume out there and have an interview today

> with a

> > > GREAT company.

> > >

> > > I guess my question to everyone is...since surgery are you as

> happy

> > > with your job as you were before surgery....are you restless

> like

> > > me? My husband says I should just stay where I am because the

> pay is

> > > great and the people are wonderful...but I'm just not

> satisfied. I'm

> > > beginning to wonder if I ever will be again.

> > >

> > > Now I do have to say that my jobs before surgery were all long

> term 4-

> > > 5 years at each company....so don't know if my attitude has just

> > > changed since surgery or what.

> > >

> > > So what do you think?

> > >

> > > Karla Hook

> > > Dr. Provost

> > > 4/7/00

>

>

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>

[Guest guest]

Although this does not apply to everyone I think that

when your MO you tend to settle for things. Whether

it be relationships, jobs, or just plain old life. I

think once the weight starts coming off and you start

to focus on other things you realize that you did

settle for things.

I think that now you are like I am not settling for

this and if a challenge is what you want then you tend

to go after it more now than before.

But with this also comes when you need to really think

about what you want to do career wise. Find out and

explore that.

Your changing jobs may not be all wls related. It just

might be that you need to find what you like and then

go after that.

in NC

=====

In life we all have ups and downs. It is your choice of whether you stand up to

the downs or sit down and enjoy the ups.

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Regina,

What are you going to school for, if you don't mind? You are so brave

and lucky!

Joanie

Re: Job changes - WLS related?

> I've been doing medical transcription from home for almost 12 years so I

> could be home with the kids. Prior to that I set up and managed medical

> practices. Loved the work, but have no desire to go back into that

> field. Found myself restless when the kids went to school full time and

> felt their had to be more than being Tim's wife and and Leah's

> mother. Though nice and enough for some people, just not cutting the

> mustard for me. So, went back to school and now in my second year and

> loving every minute of it (well with the exception for five minutes when

> I had an argument with one of my professor's last week), other than

> that, besides the wls and tummy tuck, its the best thing I've done for

> ME in my adult life.

>

> Just my 2 cents worth.

>

> Regina

>

>

>

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>

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I'm in such a horrible dilemma with my job. I have the boss from hell, he

has done everything he possible can do to get me to quit and I haven't left.

I've worked at my company for over 13 years and he has been my boss for the

last 5. He is truly a horrible person inside and out. I used to be top

in my department and in great demand by all those in my company. (I'm a

programmer/analyst. Many times over the years the manager has quit and I

was always asked to fill in until they hired a new boss. I didn't want the

position and frankly, I'm not sure they would have given it to me. We went

about 2 years without a " boss " before this guy came up from one of our other

divisions.

In the past five years I've allowed myself to be treated in really

unacceptable ways. He removed all of my duties and my skill level has sunk

to just about worthless. I should have kept current with technology on my

own by doing other projects. This past June he scared the hell out of me.

He lost his temper and displayed very hostile and violent behavior towards

me. That is a long story in and of itself. I filed a formal grievance with

my company but they really poo poo'd it. At the time he told me it would be

my word against his and that is how they see it.

ly I'm terrified of making this change. I've never really been afraid

to make a job change. While in my profession I've worked for many different

companies and I've never been afraid to move around or jump to a new job.

The city I live in is small and I would have to leave it to find a decent

job. But it truly is time to move on, it has affected my confidence in my

ability to a huge degree.

For some reason I thought that if I lost the weight that he would treat me

different . . . . sadly he does treat me different he is much more hostile.

Sorry for the long post, this is one of my difficult life decisions and I

think it's coming to head.

Joanie

Lap RNY 08/13/02

284/152

Re: Job changes - WLS related?

> Ugh, the job I got to get this surgery was for a local gas company with

their

> call center. It was awful. We serviced areas all over the US, so we had

people

> from Colorado, Louisiana, Kentucky etc always calling. People were

> horrendous to me and I never let them get me on their level. I got to the

point

> where I would warn them to stop cussing, calm down, etc. or I would

release

> the line. And I did it! I never would've done that before. I know that is

because

> I learned to stand up for myself and could handle any type of person.

>

> I am relieved not to have to work in that job anymore. I loved the

company,

> the benefits, but the job was not for me. I like sitting in front of a

Mac,

> designing my horse ads and editorials and listening to the radio or a cd

and

> not worrying about dealing with people on any level.

>

> M

>

>

> > I have not worked much since surgery. I have been on disability.

> > However, I was relieved when I finally left my last job. I hated the

job

> > loved the pay. For me, I did not have the energy to find another job so

> > I stuck with the one I had. I also took the first job that came along

> > for fear I would never find another job. Who wants to hire a fat woman

> > anyway? I realized that the last job I had was NOT good for my self

> > esteem. I'll give you a good example. I worked in customer service.

> > FCC regulations state that you must give a customer one warning of

> > inappropriate conduct before you hang up. Our company policy was that

> no

> > matter how abusive the customer got, we were not allowed to EVER hang

> up.

> > We were required to accept the cussing, the criticism, the foul mouths,

> > etc. I think that the more weight I loose the better I feel about me

and

> > the better I feel about me the more I expect to be treated with respect.

> > So, yes I think we change after surgery.

> > Lori Owen - Denton, Texas

> > SRVG 7/16/01

> > Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce

> > 479/356/hoping for close to 200

> >

> > On Mon, 08 Dec 2003 15:28:12 -0000 " karlahook " <k.hook@c...>

> > writes:

> > > Since WLS Surgery I have changed jobs several times....bored, not

> > > satisfied with what I am doing. Below are the changes in Jobs:

> > >

> > > - Surgery April 2000

> > > Oct 1999 - Oct 2000 - Ended long term temp job Oct 2000

> > > Nov 2000 - Jan 2001 - Worked temp position until got perm job

> > > Jan 2001 - Nov 2001 - Worked perm job until something more exciting

> > >

> > > came along (basically was bored and not busy enough)

> > > Nov 2001 - May 2002 - Job was fun but my boss left and I was doing

> > > her job and was promised the a raise and job title...after 2 months

> > >

> > > of lots of stress and no raise as promised...I left

> > > May 2002 - Jul 2002 - Temp job until recieved perm job

> > > Jul 2002 - Present - my present job the people are wonderful but I

> > > am

> > > bored and don't have enough to do...makes for a long day. So I have

> > >

> > > been putting my resume out there and have an interview today with a

> > >

> > > GREAT company.

> > >

> > > I guess my question to everyone is...since surgery are you as happy

> > >

> > > with your job as you were before surgery....are you restless like

> > > me? My husband says I should just stay where I am because the pay

> > > is

> > > great and the people are wonderful...but I'm just not satisfied.

> > > I'm

> > > beginning to wonder if I ever will be again.

> > >

> > > Now I do have to say that my jobs before surgery were all long term

> > > 4-

> > > 5 years at each company....so don't know if my attitude has just

> > > changed since surgery or what.

> > >

> > > So what do you think?

> > >

> > > Karla Hook

> > > Dr. Provost

> > > 4/7/00

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG

> > >

> > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

[Guest guest]

Thanks Joanie. I'm studying mortuary science. I know, some people are either

very supportive or are exceedingly appalled at the thought of it.

I think I'm lucky, I woulnd't know about brave, guess that depends on where

you're standing at any given moment. Thanks for that.

Regina

================================================================

> Regina,

> What are you going to school for, if you don't mind? You are so brave

> and lucky!

>

> Joanie

>

[Guest guest]

I am so sorry about your job. Hope you have a successful job hunt

journey.

Lori Owen - Denton, Texas

SRVG 7/16/01

Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce

479/356/hoping for close to 200

On Mon, 8 Dec 2003 18:31:57 -0700 " Joanie " writes:

> I'm in such a horrible dilemma with my job. I have the boss from

> hell, he

> has done everything he possible can do to get me to quit and I

> haven't left.

> I've worked at my company for over 13 years and he has been my boss

> for the

> last 5. He is truly a horrible person inside and out. I used to

> be top

> in my department and in great demand by all those in my company.

> (I'm a

> programmer/analyst. Many times over the years the manager has quit

> and I

> was always asked to fill in until they hired a new boss. I didn't

> want the

> position and frankly, I'm not sure they would have given it to me.

> We went

> about 2 years without a " boss " before this guy came up from one of

> our other

> divisions.

>

> In the past five years I've allowed myself to be treated in really

> unacceptable ways. He removed all of my duties and my skill level

> has sunk

> to just about worthless. I should have kept current with technology

> on my

> own by doing other projects. This past June he scared the hell out

> of me.

> He lost his temper and displayed very hostile and violent behavior

> towards

> me. That is a long story in and of itself. I filed a formal

> grievance with

> my company but they really poo poo'd it. At the time he told me it

> would be

> my word against his and that is how they see it.

>

> ly I'm terrified of making this change. I've never really been

> afraid

> to make a job change. While in my profession I've worked for many

> different

> companies and I've never been afraid to move around or jump to a new

> job.

> The city I live in is small and I would have to leave it to find a

> decent

> job. But it truly is time to move on, it has affected my confidence

> in my

> ability to a huge degree.

>

> For some reason I thought that if I lost the weight that he would

> treat me

> different . . . . sadly he does treat me different he is much more

> hostile.

>

> Sorry for the long post, this is one of my difficult life decisions

> and I

> think it's coming to head.

>

> Joanie

> Lap RNY 08/13/02

> 284/152

>

>

>

> Re: Job changes - WLS related?

>

>

> > Ugh, the job I got to get this surgery was for a local gas company

> with

> their

> > call center. It was awful. We serviced areas all over the US, so

> we had

> people

> > from Colorado, Louisiana, Kentucky etc always calling. People

> were

> > horrendous to me and I never let them get me on their level. I got

> to the

> point

> > where I would warn them to stop cussing, calm down, etc. or I

> would

> release

> > the line. And I did it! I never would've done that before. I know

> that is

> because

> > I learned to stand up for myself and could handle any type of

> person.

> >

> > I am relieved not to have to work in that job anymore. I loved

> the

> company,

> > the benefits, but the job was not for me. I like sitting in front

> of a

> Mac,

> > designing my horse ads and editorials and listening to the radio

> or a cd

> and

> > not worrying about dealing with people on any level.

> >

> > M

> >

> >

> > > I have not worked much since surgery. I have been on

> disability.

> > > However, I was relieved when I finally left my last job. I

> hated the

> job

> > > loved the pay. For me, I did not have the energy to find

> another job so

> > > I stuck with the one I had. I also took the first job that came

> along

> > > for fear I would never find another job. Who wants to hire a

> fat woman

> > > anyway? I realized that the last job I had was NOT good for my

> self

> > > esteem. I'll give you a good example. I worked in customer

> service.

> > > FCC regulations state that you must give a customer one warning

> of

> > > inappropriate conduct before you hang up. Our company policy

> was that

> > no

> > > matter how abusive the customer got, we were not allowed to EVER

> hang

> > up.

> > > We were required to accept the cussing, the criticism, the foul

> mouths,

> > > etc. I think that the more weight I loose the better I feel

> about me

> and

> > > the better I feel about me the more I expect to be treated with

> respect.

> > > So, yes I think we change after surgery.

> > > Lori Owen - Denton, Texas

> > > SRVG 7/16/01

> > > Dr. Ritter/Dr. Bryce

> > > 479/356/hoping for close to 200

> > >

> > > On Mon, 08 Dec 2003 15:28:12 -0000 " karlahook " <k.hook@c...>

> > > writes:

> > > > Since WLS Surgery I have changed jobs several times....bored,

> not

> > > > satisfied with what I am doing. Below are the changes in

> Jobs:

> > > >

> > > > - Surgery April 2000

> > > > Oct 1999 - Oct 2000 - Ended long term temp job Oct 2000

> > > > Nov 2000 - Jan 2001 - Worked temp position until got perm job

> > > > Jan 2001 - Nov 2001 - Worked perm job until something more

> exciting

> > > >

> > > > came along (basically was bored and not busy enough)

> > > > Nov 2001 - May 2002 - Job was fun but my boss left and I was

> doing

> > > > her job and was promised the a raise and job title...after 2

> months

> > > >

> > > > of lots of stress and no raise as promised...I left

> > > > May 2002 - Jul 2002 - Temp job until recieved perm job

> > > > Jul 2002 - Present - my present job the people are wonderful

> but I

> > > > am

> > > > bored and don't have enough to do...makes for a long day. So

> I have

> > > >

> > > > been putting my resume out there and have an interview today

> with a

> > > >

> > > > GREAT company.

> > > >

> > > > I guess my question to everyone is...since surgery are you as

> happy

> > > >

> > > > with your job as you were before surgery....are you restless

> like

> > > > me? My husband says I should just stay where I am because the

> pay

> > > > is

> > > > great and the people are wonderful...but I'm just not

> satisfied.

> > > > I'm

> > > > beginning to wonder if I ever will be again.

> > > >

> > > > Now I do have to say that my jobs before surgery were all long

> term

> > > > 4-

> > > > 5 years at each company....so don't know if my attitude has

> just

> > > > changed since surgery or what.

> > > >

> > > > So what do you think?

> > > >

> > > > Karla Hook

> > > > Dr. Provost

> > > > 4/7/00

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG

> > > >

> > > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >