Guest guest Posted January 23, 2004 Report Share Posted January 23, 2004 Yes Solara, there can be love after wls even with all the hanging skin. I found love again at 50 and I had thought I never would again. And yes, I am attractive---but with hanging skin and lots of it.....just look good with clothes on but not without them! My husband does not see the flaws but of course I do. Start by getting online with match.com or love@... etc. They are a good place for older people and for the most part I believe sincere. Everyone meets this way now days. It is ok---be safe as in any situation---but keep your heart open and stand tall with confidence---whether it be fake or real! NEVER give up---it can happen---but you have to make the effort. I am the happiest I have ever been and I wouldn't have thought this would ever happen. We are very very happy and content and I love and respect him even more because he knows about all the weight issues and fat stuff. He is a keeper! Go for it and keep us posted. You also might want to go to the wls relationship group. It is a small but very nice group who discuss relationship issues. Good luck Solana. PS--on the Starkist packets---I forgot to mention that in addition to tuna--they also have the white chicken and ham packets too for 99 cents at Dollar General Store. Great protein snack-beach-work-driving-shopping-quick desk lunch--anytime! Just enough for our small pouches---and where can we eat for 99 cents--- Sherry in Knoxville TN BLUZGAL LIFE IS A JOURNEY, NOT A DESTINATION Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 23, 2004 Report Share Posted January 23, 2004 PS Solara, After reading s post---I just wanted to add that my husband too, would support my decision to have or have not on the plastic surgery issue. In fact, he offered to pay for me to have the works which in my case would exceed $50,000. He made it clear that I was loved in every way without any surgery---in other words perfect to him. I told him no, I would just remain the way I am and we could use that money for future retirement to have more fun! It was just the thought that he loved me so much to offer to do something this grand for me. Made me love him that much more that he loves me just the way I am now without any plastics. So I will just have fun with him and the kids and grandbabies (two---one 2 year old boy and one 3 week old girl!) with all my sags and bags. So you see---love can conquer it all! Be patient and confident and GET OUT THERE AND TRY GIRL! We want updates!!!! Sherry in Knoxville TN BLUZGAL LIFE IS A JOURNEY, NOT A DESTINATION Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2004 Report Share Posted January 24, 2004 Let's see. Sex? Surgery? Boy is this a hard choice. Thanks, Vitalady, Inc. T www.vitalady.com If you are interested in PayPal, please click here: https://www.paypal.com/affil/pal=orders%40vitalady.com re: love after wls > PS Solara, > > After reading s post---I just wanted to add that my husband too, would support my decision to have or have not on the plastic surgery issue. In fact, he offered to pay for me to have the works which in my case would exceed $50,000. He made it clear that I was loved in every way without any surgery---in other words perfect to him. I told him no, I would just remain the way I am and we could use that money for future retirement to have more fun! It was just the thought that he loved me so much to offer to do something this grand for me. Made me love him that much more that he loves me just the way I am now without any plastics. So I will just have fun with him and the kids and grandbabies (two---one 2 year old boy and one 3 week old girl!) with all my > sags and bags. So you see---love can conquer it all! Be patient and confident and GET OUT THERE AND TRY GIRL! We want updates!!!! > > Sherry in Knoxville TN > > BLUZGAL > > LIFE IS A JOURNEY, NOT A DESTINATION > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2004 Report Share Posted January 24, 2004 self love first other love will follow janice re: love after wls PS Solara, After reading s post---I just wanted to add that my husband too, would support my decision to have or have not on the plastic surgery issue. In fact, he offered to pay for me to have the works which in my case would exceed $50,000. He made it clear that I was loved in every way without any surgery---in other words perfect to him. I told him no, I would just remain the way I am and we could use that money for future retirement to have more fun! It was just the thought that he loved me so much to offer to do something this grand for me. Made me love him that much more that he loves me just the way I am now without any plastics. So I will just have fun with him and the kids and grandbabies (two---one 2 year old boy and one 3 week old girl!) with all my sags and bags. So you see---love can conquer it all! Be patient and confident and GET OUT THERE AND TRY GIRL! We want updates!!!! Sherry in Knoxville TN BLUZGAL LIFE IS A JOURNEY, NOT A DESTINATION Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 25, 2004 Report Share Posted January 25, 2004 In a message dated 1/25/2004 1:11:29 PM Eastern Standard Time, bluzgal@... writes: those of us who had good successes after wls in the love field---tell their stories again morning everyone, i had my RNY in jan of '99. i have not been an active participant on this list, but never stopped reading your posts. sorta like my own personal safety net. this thread has brought me out of lurkdom. as i said, i had my surgery in jan of '99 i had just been divorced after a 16 year marriage, and two wonderful children. i was never really happily married, long story... so the divorce was my idea, and the day i did was the day i began living. i'm 5'3 " and at the time of surgery was weighing 206.5 had just developed Type II diabetes, had hypertension, lets just put it this way.... i looked and felt like crap. also, i was 44 at the time of surgery. surgery was pretty much uneventful, and the weight just melted away. i was living ALONE for the first time in my LIFE and GULP.. actually began dating. i had never worked during my marriage, but decided to take a job at Bloomingdales during this time. well ladies... remember.... i was in my mid 40's.. and all of a sudden men were asking me out.... i mean... YOUNG men.... men in their early 30's at first i would just look at them in disbelief.... or say somthing like.. " do you realize i could be your MOTHER??? or tell them that i had a 19 year old daughter... things like that.. but it never discouraged them. i dated SO SO much... but sadly, almost all the men i only saw once, because although most were gentlemen, none really interested me... where i would CARE to see them a second time. i was also beginning to enjoy MY company, and having my SOLIDUDE for the first time in my life also, my mother, my best friend in the world developed breast cancer at the same time, a verrry aggressive case of it... and dealing with that was about all i could handle, at the same time trying to keep my sanity. we lost mom to that insidious disease a little after a year later, and about three months after that, i was ONLINE of all places..... not chatting, just online.. reading email.. when i got an instant message. i USUALLY NEVER RESPONDED to those... but something made me respond. a man on the other end began chatting with me, turned out he lived only about 5 minutes from where i was living, and asked me to meet him for coffee at a local starbucks in the neighborhood. TO THIS DAY i don't know how or WHY i said yes, but i thank God everyday that i did say yes. We met for coffee, spent the evening out, he brought me home and came early the following morning to take me to breakfast and hasn't left since... its going on 4 years now so.. i guess i qualify for a happy love story, and i'm NOT a young chick... and i was NEVER happy (inlove) till i met and fell in love with marcelo.. WHo by the way ladies.. is 14 years younger then i am.. life is so strange.... the father of my children is 10 years older then i am, i NEVER EVER dated younger men, was really never attracted to them... but in my " old age " i have learned, to NEVER say NEVER god bless all smiles from jodi in miami 206.5/114 NO Diabetes, NO hypertension thanks to the bypass and low carbing (with atkins) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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