Guest guest Posted February 7, 2004 Report Share Posted February 7, 2004 , Don't say anything about the surgery. Say that you want to meet him in a public place, like a restaurant or a coffee shop. Tell him you'll be wearing red, but wear something blue. Walk in calmly, look him over hard from head to toe, decide at your leisure how the last 5 years have treated him and his looks. Then, again at your leisure, decide if he's good enough for you to say hello and re-introduce yourself. in Austin RNY April 1998 315/190s Blast from the past.. Should I tell him before he gets here? And what do I do about wanting to stuff my face? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2004 Report Share Posted February 7, 2004 Hi Melty Thank you for your response. The reason for the breakup is that I am not Jewish and his family would never accept me. I wouldn't come between him and his family so I walked away. He is a wonderful man and I don't think I need to be worried about his motives. However, I am worried that my first reaction is to stuff my face because I am nervous about seeing him again. How do you guys handle the old habits of reaching for comfort foods when stress hits? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2004 Report Share Posted February 7, 2004 > > How do you guys handle the old habits of > >reaching for comfort foods > >when stress hits? > One of my cats died in my arms this morning after a very brief and sudden illness. He had congestive heart failure and died when he threw a clot. I allowed myself to eat whatever I wanted to today. I didn't make the best choices, but it was only for one day, I got it out of my system and I'm ready to get back on track tomorrow. Judy Silver Spring, MD Lap Proximal RNY 7/23/02 Drs. & Rabkin/SF 55/5'3 " - 257/140 size 22/XXL - 6/S bmi 46/24 my pictures: http://hometown.aol.com/jpg1747/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2004 Report Share Posted February 7, 2004 In a message dated 2/7/2004 10:57:38 PM Eastern Standard Time, susanw1362@... writes: How do you guys handle the old habits of reaching for comfort foods when stress hits? ======================== By taking care of the stress for instance, figure out the real reason you broke up. My 2 cents is that worrying about his family may not be it, search deeper. Also we need to find a good comfort food. If there is such a thing. Fay Bayuk **300/170 10/23/01 Dr. Open RNY 150 cm Click for My Profile http://obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/profile.phtml?N=Bayuk951061008 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2004 Report Share Posted February 7, 2004 As a guy with a Jewish name, born and raised, but definitely not practicing, this upsets me no end. Not you, , but his family. I certainly cannot question what you did; it's your life and your business, and you acted " honorably. " But, if you should see him again, and if the sparks still fly, I'd advise that you take care of this time around. If his family cannot accept the fine person that you appear to be, then it is THEIR loss. But, don't let it be YOUR loss again, unless you want it to be. I know that was not your question. Your question was about reaching for food to soothe the emptiness and pain. If you can take a long walk or do some other exercise, maybe that would help. And, if you should slip and score some chocolate, well . . . this would be an emergency. Be kind to yourself (but as the priest cautioned to the choir boy who was eyeing the nun, " Don't get into the habit! " ) With caring and empathy (I married a former Catholic--hah!), Steve At 10:55 PM -0500 2/7/04, susanw1362@... wrote: >The reason for the breakup is that I am >not Jewish and his family would never accept me. I wouldn't come between him >and his family so I walked away. He is a wonderful man and I don't >think I need >to be worried about his motives. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2004 Report Share Posted February 7, 2004 In a message dated 2/8/04 12:17:05 AM Eastern Standard Time, sng@... writes: > Be kind to yourself (but as the priest cautioned to the > choir boy who was eyeing the nun, " Don't get into the habit! " ) > > With caring and empathy (I married a former Catholic--hah!), > > Steve > i loved the 'don't get into the habit' quote, it will lighten me when i am resisting a sugar craving.... thanks, laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2004 Report Share Posted February 7, 2004 In a message dated 2/7/04 11:08:32 PM Eastern Standard Time, meltingheart@... writes: > > Thank you for your response. The reason for > > the breakup is that I am > > not Jewish and his family would never accept me. I > > wouldn't come between him > > and his family so I walked away. He is a wonderful > > man and I don't think I need > > to be worried about his motives. However, I am > > worried that my first reaction > > is to stuff my face because I am nervous about > > seeing him again. > > How do you guys handle the old habits of > > reaching for comfort foods > > when stress hits? > > dear , i read your post yesterday, and have been sitting with my thoughts since. i am learning for myself, when i have the urge to do some damage in the comfort food area stimulated by external or internal triggers, i look in the mirror, pull out my old driver's license photo and decide which one of me i wish to be. i find it so interesting when things happen that cause me conflict, pain...my initial mindset, a knee jerk kind of thing, is to hurt myself more...the hurt is not merely about the food, but it is about the emotions i feel when i let this old negative behaviour get in my way. i applaud you that you are so strong to reach out here and seek support. i will keep you in mind when i am wrestling my nastry negatives.. and about seeing your friend again, enjoy the ride. put on something that exudes joy to you, toss your head back, know that your life is just beginning and full of promise ...keep the focus on yourself... warmly, laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2004 Report Share Posted February 7, 2004 In a message dated 2/7/04 4:57:58 PM Eastern Standard Time, susanw1362@... writes: > Should I tell him before he > gets here? > > i forgot this question...simply do what is best for you... might be really wonderful to simply meet him and watch his reaction, soak in the glory, savour the moment and all that jazz.. laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2004 Report Share Posted February 7, 2004 In a message dated 2/7/04 5:36:48 PM Eastern Standard Time, davidinaustin@... writes: > , > > Don't say anything about the surgery. Say that you want to meet him in a > public place, like a restaurant or a coffee shop. Tell him you'll be > wearing red, but wear something blue. > > Walk in calmly, look him over hard from head to toe, decide at your leisure > how the last 5 years have treated him and his looks. Then, again at your > leisure, decide if he's good enough for you to say hello and re-introduce > yourself. > > in Austin o , this is wonderful, great advice... so so positive.... my heart to your heart, laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2004 Report Share Posted February 9, 2004 ROFL!!! Thanks for the chuckle, Janice! in NJ ************************ > > > > as to the other, check him like david said, then if YOu approve, go > ride him like a rodeo > > janice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2004 Report Share Posted February 9, 2004 >>>> as to the other, check him like david said, then if YOu approve, go > >>>ride him like a rodeo > ROTFL.. you are too funny! I'll tack that on the fridge with the rest of > the ideas *wink* thanks for the laugh.. I needed it susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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