Guest guest Posted January 6, 2010 Report Share Posted January 6, 2010 Pink WWOG I actually got that from a book my sister gave me..Lipshtick by Gwen Macsai....very funny book. But it discribes me perfectly. I have never been comfortable with other women, most of my real friends in High School were guys cuz I was the odd girl out. Straight A's, Cheerleader, but I smoked and was a little bit naughty shall we say LOL Hey it was the 70's. I've just never been comfortable with women friends, my sister yes, my husband yes. But sometimes you just need an objective opinion, ya know what I mean! Dyane Phoenix > > Hi Pink, It is so sad that you being such a sweetheart don't have some close friends. If I lived close we could gab & have coffee and walk our dogs together. > I have been so blessed with friends but I too am isolated here in the forest so I understand that part. > My Mom used to tell me to have friends you have to BE a friend. I am praying you meet a good person that deserves such a good person for a friend. Maybe > you could stop and talk to who ever you speak to on your street. You GO girl you have done so many things that I know you can do it. > > > Love & Prayers > Peggy, IPF 2004 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 6, 2010 Report Share Posted January 6, 2010 Dyane - I consider you a (girl)friend. I was much the same, back in the 60's, but I wasn't straight A and I didn't have any fun.... I was a serious child who was seriously considering a religious life. Then I went on a retreat to consider my options and was actually talked out of becoming a nun by a nun. Nothing major, she just put things in perspective and told me to take my time on making my choice. Live a little, go to college and then see if you still want to become a nun. Long story short, I am now married to someone I almost continually argue with (but then that is how we are... it is not malicious, more of an agreement to disagree... it works for us - 35 years next August). I don't know how I have managed to get my A1c under control... I just got really angry with the Interstitial Disease diagnosis (not very clear), the prednisone that I absolutely could not handle, and then the diabetes (yes, my A1c was up at 10 at the time as well). I got so angry. I went to oatmeal EVERY morning with either walnuts or raisins and water mixed an microwaved. Then I would have a tuna-fish sandwich for lunch with crystal light flavored bottled water. I would have almonds, an apple or rice cakes for snack. I stayed on Lean Cuisine and Weight Watchers microwave dinners in the evening. If I wanted a late night snack, it was the small popcorn packages or graham crackers and water. I did that for 6 months and brought my A1c down to 5.7. I was REALLY angry. I am not as committed to the diet today, but my A1c volleys between 5.6 and 6.5. When it is in the 6 range I try to watch my diet more and if I go out I order fish and salad. I can appreciate the mood swings, I was there at my worst in early 2006... and that is when I got so really mad about the whole scenario. I am less angry today, but I know more today than I did then, too. Know you have a friend (sorry, I am a female, lol) to your north here in Utah. Maybe I can come down to Arizona and we can visit some weekend.... ;-D Stefani 61 year old Utahn ILD 2/2006, NSIP (fibrotic) 10/2009, Diabetes II 2/2006, Sleep Apnea 4/2009 > > > > Hi Pink, It is so sad that you being such a sweetheart don't have some close friends. If I lived close we could gab & have coffee and walk our dogs together. > > I have been so blessed with friends but I too am isolated here in the forest so I understand that part. > > My Mom used to tell me to have friends you have to BE a friend. I am praying you meet a good person that deserves such a good person for a friend. Maybe > > you could stop and talk to who ever you speak to on your street. You GO girl you have done so many things that I know you can do it. > > > > > > Love & Prayers > > Peggy, IPF 2004 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 stefani i see you were dx about the same time i was, isn't it wonderful to be able to say that we are "old timers" with this disease and stable and starting to prove the statistics wrong Pink Joyce R (IPF 3/06) IFA 5/09 Pennsylvania Donate Life Listed 1/09 Inactive 4/09 www.transplantfund.org--- Subject: Re: WWOGTo: Breathe-Support Date: Wednesday, January 6, 2010, 8:41 PM Dyane -I consider you a (girl)friend. I was much the same, back in the 60's, but I wasn't straight A and I didn't have any fun.... I was a serious child who was seriously considering a religious life. Then I went on a retreat to consider my options and was actually talked out of becoming a nun by a nun. Nothing major, she just put things in perspective and told me to take my time on making my choice. Live a little, go to college and then see if you still want to become a nun. Long story short, I am now married to someone I almost continually argue with (but then that is how we are... it is not malicious, more of an agreement to disagree... it works for us - 35 years next August). I don't know how I have managed to get my A1c under control... I just got really angry with the Interstitial Disease diagnosis (not very clear), the prednisone that I absolutely could not handle, and then the diabetes (yes, my A1c was up at 10 at the time as well). I got so angry. I went to oatmeal EVERY morning with either walnuts or raisins and water mixed an microwaved. Then I would have a tuna-fish sandwich for lunch with crystal light flavored bottled water. I would have almonds, an apple or rice cakes for snack. I stayed on Lean Cuisine and Weight Watchers microwave dinners in the evening. If I wanted a late night snack, it was the small popcorn packages or graham crackers and water. I did that for 6 months and brought my A1c down to 5.7. I was REALLY angry. I am not as committed to the diet today, but my A1c volleys between 5.6 and 6.5. When it is in the 6 range I try to watch my diet more and if I go out I order fish and salad. I can appreciate the mood swings, I was there at my worst in early 2006... and that is when I got so really mad about the whole scenario. I am less angry today, but I know more today than I did then, too. Know you have a friend (sorry, I am a female, lol) to your north here in Utah. Maybe I can come down to Arizona and we can visit some weekend.... ;-DStefani 61 year old UtahnILD 2/2006, NSIP (fibrotic) 10/2009, Diabetes II 2/2006, Sleep Apnea 4/2009> >> > Hi Pink, It is so sad that you being such a sweetheart don't have some close friends. If I lived close we could gab & have coffee and walk our dogs together.> > I have been so blessed with friends but I too am isolated here in the forest so I understand that part. > > My Mom used to tell me to have friends you have to BE a friend. I am praying you meet a good person that deserves such a good person for a friend. Maybe > > you could stop and talk to who ever you speak to on your street. You GO girl you have done so many things that I know you can do it. > > > > > > Love & Prayers> > Peggy, IPF 2004> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 Bruce, Again you are the writer of sage advice!!! I have probably always had SAD..in some form or another. I was one of those kids that would have gone unnoticed unless attendance was taken in classes! Then I met Mike.... he's just the opposite...a bit loud, great joke teller and kind to all.( that's except if business is involved then watch out). He has made me less self-conscious ( then the O2 came along)! I still have trouble fitting into new situations...this new move ( 2 years really isn't new) and I'm still feeling like an interloper! Girls have established cliques...newbies really have to start their own! So I made a first step and invited another sort of new girl over for lunch. Hopefully we can keep doing this through the winter.Maybe add others as we go. The volunteer idea is great...I'm going to call the library and see if they need "grandmom" book readers for the little ones. Thanks again Z fibriotic NSIP/05 Z 65, fibriotic NSIP/05/PA And “mild” PH/10/07 No, NSIP was not self-inflicted…I never smoked! Potter, reader,carousel lover and MomMom to Darah and Sara “I’m gonna be iron like a lion in Zion” Bob Marley Vinca Minor-periwinkle is my flower Bruce wrote: For those feeling lonely, I want to toss out a few ideas: Find local groups, support or otherwise, even if not tailored exactly to your disease or interests. Senior centers, especially events at them or short day outings with them. Get on a bus to the theater and a meal with a bunch of seniors and talk is guaranteed. You may just find you end up liking the person sitting beside you. Churches. I don't know if there are any groups of people more receptive to good friends that Sunday School classes or senior groups within churches. Many churches have lots of senior activities or even middle aged single adult activities and you don't have to be a member to participate. Small social or charity group. Find something that involves an interest of yours. Garden club? Dog Fanciers? (you don't have to have a garden or a dog). Volunteer. With most of us can't be lots or even regular schedule but perhaps occasional for a very short time. www.Meetup.com Go check it out. Enter anything and your zip code and you might be surprised. Try one that is in your fields of interest or check out one that makes you curious and is outside your normal realm. Also, you can find local groups on www.craigslist.com. Take a class. In most areas, community colleges, recreational departments, and high schools offer different things. Maybe a photography class for beginners or bridge or painting landscapes. Rehab. Ok, you don't immediately think of it as socializing but it can be lots of fun. You might even continue to go after you finish if its a facility that allows it. Check out the local small papers such as the weekly papers. They often have many listings of groups. Here one of the papers also puts their ads on www.backpage.com. I just looked and found a place here called girlfriendscafe.com. I know nothing about them but loved the slogan- "Diamonds are nice! ... but the best things in life you can have are Girlfriends!" Card playing groups are popular. Common music interests. I suffer from social anxiety and its never been my thing to go out and meet and join so I know crutches are needed to do that for me. But sometimes you can find just the right way to ease in and then get comfortable with some new people and find you do have something in common. I remember when I received some group counseling in addition to my individual therapy. I really looked forward to the sessions because of the people I was there with. So maybe thats a goal for many of us, to find a way to be around some new people. > > From: Dyane Billings dyanebillings@... > Subject: Re: > To: Breathe-Support > Date: Thursday, January 7, 2010, 9:03 AM > > > > > > > >  > > > > > > > > > > > Stefani/Patti/ >  > I want you all to know I cherish your kind words. I guess I DO have girlfriends, just all across the globe - you too - I feel better already ! >  Dyane, 54, Phoenix, IIP 02 now NSIP 09, Breast Cancer, Psoriasis, Lipodermatosclerosi s, Diabetes, and now a RA like autoimmune component, yadda yadda yadda. > > > "Life is not a journey to the grave with intentions of arriving is a pretty, well-preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, chocolate in one hand, Margaritas in the other, loudly proclaiming "Holy **** What a ride!"." > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 , What a great idea......"grandmom book reader" to the little ones......I know someone that volunteers at a hospital and goes and rocks babies in the nicu that are born to drug addicted moms....lots of volunteer opportunities out there. Patti Indianapolis IPF 2007 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 For the first year I lived here I didn't see a child. I guess there are a few but they are not very noticeable.Beverley Joy,71,PF, Chronic HP, birds and mold 1-09,Diabetes,Sjogren's,Fibromyalgia Idaho What a long signature but for a wonderful groupSubject: Re: WWOGTo: Breathe-Support Date: Thursday, January 7, 2010, 12:35 PM , What a great idea......"grandmom book reader" to the little ones......I know someone that volunteers at a hospital and goes and rocks babies in the nicu that are born to drug addicted moms....lots of volunteer opportunities out there. Patti Indianapolis IPF 2007 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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