Re: Help me...i'm new to all this

[Guest guest]

Hi Gloria,

I think you have come to the right place. This is a great support

site. Many have been through a similar situation as yourself, and

have gone through the process. Some of us are in the initial phases

like you are doing. I just got my braces put on last Thursday.

There are many people here who are younger as well. I am an

oldtimer (52), but I can definately relate to much of what you are

saying anyway. One thing, as a parent, your parents may not appear

to be supportive, but they are probably very concerned about the

process and your safety. Having kids myself, and ones that needed

surgery, even when I wanted the very best decision for them, it was

more difficult feeling responsible in case something went wrong.

The fact that they are helping you do this shows that they are on

your side. They are probably just concerned. I was that way as a

parent too.

But here, we support whatever decision you make about this. We have

gone through the process and decided to go aheead. I had a rough

weekend with the new braces, but I am still determined to go

forward. The end result is worth this bit of rough terrain. People

will be here to answer questions you have. Please let us know what

we can do to help you through this. And welcome to the board!

Hugs,

Fran

> Hi, i'm Gloria. Im an asian 16 year old girl with a prognathic

jaw

> problem...

> The 12th of july was the first time i went to the orthodontist.

In

> the following appointments..they had x-rays, photos and moulds

done of

> me.

> 3 days ago..i went to see my surgeon for the first time. My

surgeon

> had a chat with my parents and myself about what they plan to do.

> I was told that i would need to have some teeth taken out first

in

> order to create space for teeth movement before orthodontic

treatment.

> Following that, my orthodontist will put braces on me to correct

the

> position of my crooked teeth to make surgery easier.

> Then, I will need surgery on both my upper and lower jaw sometime

> late next year.

> The thing is...my parents aren't very supportive. I mean..being

an

> adolescence is already very diffucult in itself. Haha..i had to

> literally nag them to do something about it.

> Only if they knew of all the emotional and physical pain I had

and

> have to go(ne) through.

> I often feel like an outcast of society. An object of stares..I'm

> always treated differently. I hate meeting new people in real-

life, I

> hate publicity..And...i hate photos...

> I haven't got that many friends and no love life. My little

brother

> who has seen my photos..said: you look like a super star..it's

just

> your jaw.

> It's not that I want to look good..I just..I can't stand

concealing

> my identity anymore. I often try to act normal and hide away from

all

> the things that are hurting me.

> I can't do this by myself, that's why I need professional help. I

> pray that Jesus will help me.

> Life is extremely unfair.

> I can't wait until all this ends.

> Now..it's just a matter of time.

> Though I won't be left unscarred.

> *Sniff*..I need Emotional support..=,(

[Guest guest]

Gloria,

Hello, my name is Rene` and I have an almost 15y/o son in braces. I

know that this is a trying time in your life and I'm sure your

parents want what is best for you. Sometimes it's just hard for us

to remember what it is like to be a teen. Maybe you should have a

heart to heart w/ them. Tell them how you are are feeling and what

you are looking for out of all of this.

Secondly, what is the problem. I mean what would you be having done?

Are your parents open to the treatment plan? I didn't have braces as

a teen, because my parents were busy and couldn't decide who would

take me. Money was not a problem, just time. So I made sure that my

son had them on time. He has a class II malocclusion (I have a class

III) and his OD thinks that having the braces now could prevent later

surgery. He has always been confident (to say the least), but I do

notice that he smiles more now. Seeing this gives me so much joy.

Let us know how things progress, and good luck.

> Hi, i'm Gloria. Im an asian 16 year old girl with a prognathic jaw

> problem...

> The 12th of july was the first time i went to the orthodontist. In

> the following appointments..they had x-rays, photos and moulds done

of

> me.

> 3 days ago..i went to see my surgeon for the first time. My

surgeon

> had a chat with my parents and myself about what they plan to do.

> I was told that i would need to have some teeth taken out first in

> order to create space for teeth movement before orthodontic

treatment.

> Following that, my orthodontist will put braces on me to correct

the

> position of my crooked teeth to make surgery easier.

> Then, I will need surgery on both my upper and lower jaw sometime

> late next year.

> The thing is...my parents aren't very supportive. I mean..being an

> adolescence is already very diffucult in itself. Haha..i had to

> literally nag them to do something about it.

> Only if they knew of all the emotional and physical pain I had and

> have to go(ne) through.

> I often feel like an outcast of society. An object of stares..I'm

> always treated differently. I hate meeting new people in real-life,

I

> hate publicity..And...i hate photos...

> I haven't got that many friends and no love life. My little

brother

> who has seen my photos..said: you look like a super star..it's just

> your jaw.

> It's not that I want to look good..I just..I can't stand

concealing

> my identity anymore. I often try to act normal and hide away from

all

> the things that are hurting me.

> I can't do this by myself, that's why I need professional help. I

> pray that Jesus will help me.

> Life is extremely unfair.

> I can't wait until all this ends.

> Now..it's just a matter of time.

> Though I won't be left unscarred.

> *Sniff*..I need Emotional support..=,(

[Guest guest]

I have a question? You mentioned -- " parent's guilt of what they have

caused " . What do you mean? I am not sure what does cause this.

> > Hi, i'm Gloria. Im an asian 16 year old girl with a prognathic

jaw

> > problem...

> > The 12th of july was the first time i went to the orthodontist.

In

> > the following appointments..they had x-rays, photos and moulds

done

> of

> > me.

> > 3 days ago..i went to see my surgeon for the first time. My

> surgeon

> > had a chat with my parents and myself about what they plan to do.

> > I was told that i would need to have some teeth taken out first

in

> > order to create space for teeth movement before orthodontic

> treatment.

> > Following that, my orthodontist will put braces on me to correct

> the

> > position of my crooked teeth to make surgery easier.

> > Then, I will need surgery on both my upper and lower jaw

sometime

> > late next year.

> > The thing is...my parents aren't very supportive. I mean..being

an

> > adolescence is already very diffucult in itself. Haha..i had to

> > literally nag them to do something about it.

> > Only if they knew of all the emotional and physical pain I had

and

> > have to go(ne) through.

> > I often feel like an outcast of society. An object of

stares..I'm

> > always treated differently. I hate meeting new people in real-

life,

> I

> > hate publicity..And...i hate photos...

> > I haven't got that many friends and no love life. My little

> brother

> > who has seen my photos..said: you look like a super star..it's

just

> > your jaw.

> > It's not that I want to look good..I just..I can't stand

> concealing

> > my identity anymore. I often try to act normal and hide away from

> all

> > the things that are hurting me.

> > I can't do this by myself, that's why I need professional help.

I

> > pray that Jesus will help me.

> > Life is extremely unfair.

> > I can't wait until all this ends.

> > Now..it's just a matter of time.

> > Though I won't be left unscarred.

> > *Sniff*..I need Emotional support..=,(

[Guest guest]

Reni,

Oftentimes things such as underbite, overbite, even assymetry is

a " family trait. " Just like some families may have all their members

with big noses or pokey ears, some families may have a common bond of

orthognathic woes. When parents hand this down to children,

especially if the children have a severe case and require surgery to

correct it, it makes them feel guilty. This was something I never

thought of until I began my orthognathic journey.

Connie

> I have a question? You mentioned -- " parent's guilt of what they

have

> caused " . What do you mean? I am not sure what does cause this.

>

[Guest guest]

Gloria,

My name's sarah i'm 20 years old and had my surgery May 2005. I had braces on

for 5 years when I was younger, and had them put back on June 2004 in prep for

surgery. My mother attended very hospital/Dr appointment with me and knew how

much I wanted/needed the surgery done she was nbehind me 100%.

My father and his family didn't want me to have the surgery, they didn't see why

I was going through with it. BUt I explained to them how unhappy I was and how

much pain I was in, they didn't listen so I told them in the end it's my life,

my choice. Harsh I know but they weren't saying nice things either.

I was born with a cleft lip and palate and have had 32 surgeris so far, my

parents have always felt gulity that I was born with a cleft and had to go go

through so many surgeries.

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[Guest guest]

I see. I didn't think of the heredity aspect of this. My son also has

a malformation. Makes sense. Thanks.

> > I have a question? You mentioned -- " parent's guilt of what they

> have

> > caused " . What do you mean? I am not sure what does cause this.

> >