how do I convince my husband this surgery is important to me?

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MY husband thinks that because this is elective surgery that it is

mainly cosmetic and that even having to pay a percentage of the cost

of the surgery is too much. I have offered to work two jobs, since he

earns the bulk of our income, so that I can get the surgery. I am 38

and have an underdeveloped lower and overdeveloped upper jaw (long

face syndrome with slightly receding chin) and an extremely narrow

bridge and quite a large open bite. From a 45 degree angle my face

looks sunken in and it makes me look years older than i am (I think i

look like an old witch). aside from the asthetics i have constant

headaches and jaw pain that are only going to get worse. I understand

that my husband doesn't want to go into debt but i don't want to have

tmj and lose my teeth prematurely either. i think he loves me but it

seems like he loves money more. Am I being a selfish brat or should i

find a way to do this even if it is without him?