Guest guest Posted January 16, 2004 Report Share Posted January 16, 2004 The talk about going out properly dressed, with earrings, hair combed, etc. reminds me of myself. As a child, my mother was very concious about making sure my clothes fit well, my hair combed, and that I looked my best. She said because I was chubby people would notice me more and she wanted them to say nice things about me. I kept this thought in mind my whole life. As an obese adult, I made sure my clothes were nice, clean, pressed, not too tight or too large. I wore nice jewelry, polished nails, and styled hair. I felt I needed to try extra hard to look my best. This is not the way many obese people look. They don't seem to care how they dress. I have seen them without bras, stained clothes, torn sweatpants, rundown shoes, no make up, unkempt hair, etc. It is sad that they have lost their pride. Unfortunately that is why others do not treat the obese nicely. I try very hard to encourage my Support Group of Pre-ops to take pride in the way they look and dress. It makes a difference in the way you are treated. Even little obese children need to have properly fitting clothes that are not too tight, or that look like they are their father's pants rolled up or their mother's sweats. I hope I don't sound critical. I am not. I just want the discriminaton and cruelty to stop. I am an obese person in a smaller body. Even at a size 8, I still feel like I have to look as good as I can so that no one say I am a " slob " . That is a cruel word that I have heard my whole life. Sheila Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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