Re: Do you feel like you are missing out on their babyhood?

[Guest guest]

That's a great question. My son just turned 4 months on Saturday and will be getting his DOC Band in 2 weeks but never thought about pictures and such over the next several months with him in the Band. I'll be curious to see what others say too.

From: veronica23z <veronica23z@...>Subject: Do you feel like you are missing out on their babyhood?Plagiocephaly Date: Monday, April 5, 2010, 1:04 PM

We decided over the weekend to move forward with a 2nd DOC Band after 9 weeks in the first Band. My son will be 7 months old this Thursday and they are saying 3-4 months with the second Band. We achieved amazing results with the first Band (from 20 to 7 mm) and I am so glad that we did it but I feel like I am missing out on his babyhood. He looks so different without his Band and I am so sad to basically start over again. We are doing it because it will be best for him in the long run but I feel like all of my memories of his babyhood will be of him in his Band. Anyone else feel like this and if your little ones have graduated how did your perspective change?Thanks,

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My daughter was banded as a toddler so I can't really answer your babyhood question. But, her in a band did become part of her toddlerhood. I didn't really mind. I realize that I may have felt different if she was younger. I don't know.

But, I'm wondering if it will really be as long as they say. 7 months old is still pretty young and 7 mm is mild. I can't imagine that correctly mild plagio will take that long in a 7 month old.

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We decided over the weekend to move forward with a 2nd DOC Band after 9 weeks in the first Band. My son will be 7 months old this Thursday and they are saying 3-4 months with the second Band. We achieved amazing results with the first Band (from 20 to 7 mm) and I am so glad that we did it but I feel like I am missing out on his babyhood. He looks so different without his Band and I am so sad to basically start over again. We are doing it because it will be best for him in the long run but I feel like all of my memories of his babyhood will be of him in his Band. Anyone else feel like this and if your little ones have graduated how did your perspective change?Thanks,

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I am really hoping that it doesn't take that long. I think when you ask them how long the treatment will take they tell you how long the Band will last to cover themselves. At 7 months they start doing the adjustments every 2 weeks so I know that the growth slows down and not to expect the fast dramatic results that we saw with the first band. I hope I am not setting myself up for disappointment by hoping to finish in 2-3 months vs 3-4.

From: <melanie.watson@...>Plagiocephaly Sent: Mon, April 5, 2010 2:22:48 PMSubject: Re: Do you feel like you are missing out on their babyhood?

My daughter was banded as a toddler so I can't really answer your babyhood question. But, her in a band did become part of her toddlerhood. I didn't really mind. I realize that I may have felt different if she was younger. I don't know.

But, I'm wondering if it will really be as long as they say. 7 months old is still pretty young and 7 mm is mild. I can't imagine that correctly mild plagio will take that long in a 7 month old.

, mom to , 2.5 years

STARband grad May 2009

Chiro and CST

land

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We decided over the weekend to move forward with a 2nd DOC Band after 9 weeks in the first Band. My son will be 7 months old this Thursday and they are saying 3-4 months with the second Band. We achieved amazing results with the first Band (from 20 to 7 mm) and I am so glad that we did it but I feel like I am missing out on his babyhood. He looks so different without his Band and I am so sad to basically start over again. We are doing it because it will be best for him in the long run but I feel like all of my memories of his babyhood will be of him in his Band. Anyone else feel like this and if your little ones have graduated how did your perspective change?Thanks,

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I will say, as a mom who had a baby in a band from 6-12mo. old, it is SO fleeting! I LOVED my baby in her band, I thought she was so cute!!! But honestly, It's hard for me to picture her in it. I need to look at pictures to really remember what she looked like in it. It is SUCH a small time frame compared to the rest of their babyhood/ childhood.

I understand your concerns... but looking back, it goes in a flash!

Jen

Mom to Luli - 4 yrs old

Torticollis, Plagio, Syringomyelia

Do you feel like you are missing out on their babyhood?

We decided over the weekend to move forward with a 2nd DOC Band after 9 weeks in the first Band. My son will be 7 months old this Thursday and they are saying 3-4 months with the second Band. We achieved amazing results with the first Band (from 20 to 7 mm) and I am so glad that we did it but I feel like I am missing out on his babyhood. He looks so different without his Band and I am so sad to basically start over again. We are doing it because it will be best for him in the long run but I feel like all of my memories of his babyhood will be of him in his Band. Anyone else feel like this and if your little ones have graduated how did your perspective change?

Thanks,

[Guest guest]

Lexi was only in her DOC Band for seven weeks, and that part was so easy for me.

It's her physical therapy and constantly worrying about this residual tightness

in her end range of motion that makes me feel like I'm missing out on her

babyhood. I HATE having to plan stretches into the day and just wish I could

enjoy having a baby again since she's our last, but instead, it's been one worry

after another combined with PT which we both hate.

Sharyn

Lexi - DOC Band graduate 2/10

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> I will say, as a mom who had a baby in a band from 6-12mo. old, it is SO

fleeting! I LOVED my baby in her band, I thought she was so cute!!! But

honestly, It's hard for me to picture her in it. I need to look at pictures to

really remember what she looked like in it. It is SUCH a small time frame

compared to the rest of their babyhood/ childhood.

> I understand your concerns... but looking back, it goes in a flash!

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> Jen

> Mom to Luli - 4 yrs old

> Torticollis, Plagio, Syringomyelia

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> Do you feel like you are missing out on their babyhood?

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> We decided over the weekend to move forward with a 2nd DOC Band after 9 weeks

in the first Band. My son will be 7 months old this Thursday and they are

saying 3-4 months with the second Band. We achieved amazing results with the

first Band (from 20 to 7 mm) and I am so glad that we did it but I feel like I

am missing out on his babyhood. He looks so different without his Band and I am

so sad to basically start over again. We are doing it because it will be best

for him in the long run but I feel like all of my memories of his babyhood will

be of him in his Band. Anyone else feel like this and if your little ones have

graduated how did your perspective change?

> Thanks,

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[Guest guest]

I really have just accepted that it is part of my son's babyhood.  He's so cute without the band, but he's still such a doll with it on. Most of the pictures we take have him with the band on, but I make an effort to take lots of pics when I take it off to give him a bath.  After I clean the helmet and let it dry out, I make sure I snap a bunch of pics of his cute little head, and I make sure I snuggle with him alot when his band is off.  I just keep reminding myself that I am doing what is best for him.  

On Mon, Apr 5, 2010 at 12:04 PM, veronica23z <veronica23z@...> wrote:

 

We decided over the weekend to move forward with a 2nd DOC Band after 9 weeks in the first Band. My son will be 7 months old this Thursday and they are saying 3-4 months with the second Band. We achieved amazing results with the first Band (from 20 to 7 mm) and I am so glad that we did it but I feel like I am missing out on his babyhood. He looks so different without his Band and I am so sad to basically start over again. We are doing it because it will be best for him in the long run but I feel like all of my memories of his babyhood will be of him in his Band. Anyone else feel like this and if your little ones have graduated how did your perspective change?

Thanks,

[Guest guest]

I agree with what a lot of already post banders have said. It was

such a short time and it wasn't time consuming and he still looked

adorable with it. So no I didn't then nor have I ever in looking back

felt like I missed any part of his babyhood.

Every baby is unique and you have different challenges to go through

their babyhood. Many babies can be fussier or high needs, get

overstimulation, or other things with colicy symptoms. The average

baby has many ear infections over their 1st 2 years. And every baby

gains up to 20 teeth in that time so probably goes through some degree

of teething. And we won't even get into the common colds, bumps from

learning to walk, etc. I think periods of fussiness and illness that

keep a baby from acting normally and take away time from just enjoying

them would be robbing us of their babyhood so much more. Yet those

thing are the norm not the exception. It is part of being a baby so

isn't thought of in that way.

Then b/c each baby is unique, some babies are delayed in certain areas

and require therapy or intervention that takes a lot more time than

helmet therapy does. Some babies are more with other marks, etc that

may end up being removed later. There are so many variations of a

babyhood.

On the opposite end of the spectrum are babies who grow fast or

develop quickly. If I look back at any of my kids babyhood his helmet

would be last on the list of things that would make me feel I missed

out. My 1st dd grew 4 " her 1st month and remained tall ever since

(she is 5'6 at 13 now and that is shorter than we expected). She was

also advanced, rolling over before she was a month old. Alert from

birth, scooting at 4 month and crawling at 5 month. To me everything

from development to the tiny new baby went by way quicker than is

typically so I have felt like her babyhood was way too short. My next

dd had reflux as a baby and it took 6 wks before I could get to her

regular ped who dx it. The on call ones kept saying she just had

colic no matter how many times I went in. So it was 6 wks of her in

pain on no meds I dealt with. Then her meds worked a month before she

needed a 2nd added. Then the 2nd caused adverse reactions so she had

to be taken off. So she spent 9 month on lesser meds so got relief

but not 100% relief. So all the fussiness and pain that was endured,

that I can say let me enjoy her babyhood less. But a cute little

" hat " that we had fun decorating and never hurt or caused him

discomfort, nope.

We have also had a lot of times over the years had ppl ask about

pictures or special occasions. We left it on for all of that, it was

part of that period of his babyhood and I wanted it documented as

such. Yes we did, at times decorate it to match. An elmo helmet when

we went to see sesame street live, a football helmet to go with his

halloween costume, etc

And I nursed through it all, still wore him in a sling, still sleep

with him in the cosleeper and kissed his head when it was out or

otherwise kissed his chubby little cheeks. Looking back, as others

have said, I forget and so it doesn't even come to mind at 1st. And

it has been 2+ yrs so it is hard to even picture what he looked like

with it. Heck at times I missed it at 1st b/c he was crawling with it

and learning to walk, it protected him from quite a few head bumps

On 4/8/10, blueskies0402 <erinhakes@...> wrote:

> It's funny...before we started the band, I was so worried that I'd be m

> iserable while he was in the band because I'd feel like I was missing out on

> his babyhood. But then once he was in the band, it just seemed like a part

> of him (like having socks on or something), and I didn't really get sad

> about it. Like so many have said, we really thought he looked cute in it.

> It was way easier than I expected. But the day he graduated, we were

> sitting at dinner and I couldn't stop staring at him and that's when I just

> started crying. All of a sudden I felt like someone had robbed me of the

> last three months of seeing him like this. Maybe I had held it all in too

> long and just needed to get it out. Since then, I've felt great, and I

> certainly don't ever regret banding him. I'm glad we have photos both of

> him in the band and out, though I wish I had more of him without it. I

> think the more you can see this as just one small element of their lives and

> not the defining thing about them, the more you can enjoy their babyhood.

> Sometimes if I felt I was obsessing about his head shape or thinking about

> the band too much, I would take a break from reading the posts here so that

> I would stop thinking about it so much.

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> Good luck with the second band! I'm sure your little one will end up with

> amazing results.

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> Mom to , DOC band 12/29/09-3/29/10

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>> We decided over the weekend to move forward with a 2nd DOC Band after 9

>> weeks in the first Band. My son will be 7 months old this Thursday and

>> they are saying 3-4 months with the second Band. We achieved amazing

>> results with the first Band (from 20 to 7 mm) and I am so glad that we did

>> it but I feel like I am missing out on his babyhood. He looks so

>> different without his Band and I am so sad to basically start over again.

>> We are doing it because it will be best for him in the long run but I feel

>> like all of my memories of his babyhood will be of him in his Band.

>> Anyone else feel like this and if your little ones have graduated how did

>> your perspective change?

>> Thanks,

>>

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