wasted youth/lifetime

[Guest guest]

Phyllis

I think we all understand your post about wasted youth. I am 52----4 years out

now, and I often think of the wasted " lifetime " of what ifs. I too am

complimented all the time but like you--feel like my life was wasted for so long

and I mourn this quite often. I actually need a complete body workover---like

arm lift, lower body lift, and major major work on my legs all the way down. No

shorts for me--yuk. But again though, I do look good in clothes so all is not

lost. But I think of the " what if I was never ever fat with all this excess

baggage to carry around " kind of thinking. We probably all do. But, I will take

it. Better than before I had the surgery. And my life really has never been

better. I married again at 50 and have 2 wonderful grandbabies that my husband

loves as much as I do. In fact, he loves my kids and their spouses and the

grandbabies like

they are his own. He never had any and he is loving being a father and

grandfather. He got the first grandbaby when he was 4 months and we have a 2

week old grandbaby girl. We are very happy. So life can begin again at 50 or

whatever age we are! (And he knows about all the surgery and fat stuff---he

doesn't care about all my sags and bags.)

We just have to trust that our lives will be better and MAKE THEM BETTER on our

own. It takes a lot of work on our part. I feel for everyone of us on this

site---as I know we have all been through it all. Maybe that is why we are a

such a big and close group. We have all had the water under the bridge so to

speak. The best to everyone here---WE DESERVE THE BEST life we can make for

ourselves. I know I will always be there for anyone on this list and others too

who need to talk it out! Thats what we are all about here and I am so proud to

be one of YOU!

All of your posts lately have really hit home---Phyllis, , etc.

We are all so fragile deep down. BUT we can strive forward together!!!!

Sherry in Knoxville TN

BLUZGAL

LIFE IS A JOURNEY, NOT A DESTINATION

[Guest guest]

I am hoping the old saying is true: " It is only too late when you are dead. "

I intend to remember and try to live my life in that line of thinking. I am 34,

but

there are days when I feel like I am late in doing everything I want to do and

it

will someday be too late. But, it isn't. If I never get to do all of the things

I want

to do, I remember all of the things I have done in my life that I never planned

and were fun and wonderful experiences. Life is never planned, it's lived one

moment at a time.

All of us live it better now, sagging arms, etc. and all.

Let's all try to remember that! (I am pointing at myself too.)

M

> Phyllis

>

> I think we all understand your post about wasted youth. I am 52----4 years

out now, and I often think of the wasted " lifetime " of what ifs. I too am

complimented all the time but like you--feel like my life was wasted for so long

and I mourn this quite often. I actually need a complete body workover---like

arm lift, lower body lift, and major major work on my legs all the way down. No

shorts for me--yuk. But again though, I do look good in clothes so all is not

lost. But I think of the " what if I was never ever fat with all this excess

baggage

to carry around " kind of thinking. We probably all do. But, I will take it.

Better

than before I had the surgery. And my life really has never been better. I

married again at 50 and have 2 wonderful grandbabies that my husband

loves as much as I do. In fact, he loves my kids and their spouses and the

grandbabies like

> they are his own. He never had any and he is loving being a father and

grandfather. He got the first grandbaby when he was 4 months and we have a

2 week old grandbaby girl. We are very happy. So life can begin again at 50

or whatever age we are! (And he knows about all the surgery and fat stuff---he

doesn't care about all my sags and bags.)

> We just have to trust that our lives will be better and MAKE THEM BETTER

on our own. It takes a lot of work on our part. I feel for everyone of us on

this

site---as I know we have all been through it all. Maybe that is why we are a

such a big and close group. We have all had the water under the bridge so to

speak. The best to everyone here---WE DESERVE THE BEST life we can

make for ourselves. I know I will always be there for anyone on this list and

others too who need to talk it out! Thats what we are all about here and I am

so proud to be one of YOU!

> All of your posts lately have really hit home---Phyllis, , etc.

> We are all so fragile deep down. BUT we can strive forward together!!!!

>

> Sherry in Knoxville TN

>

> BLUZGAL

>

> LIFE IS A JOURNEY, NOT A DESTINATION