CHAT - - one parent of a teenager to another

March 15, 2006

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Are you going to the Convention??? We can sit and commiserate! LOL My Kaity,

(you might have met her, she's been to the last 3 conventions), is now 16,

and I too would gladly PAY someone to finish the job!! LOL

Kaity is a wonderful young lady, and I am SO proud of her (most of the time)

but some days.........

I, too, thought that maybe all the " attitude " had something to do with the

needs of my g-kids. Aidan was born when Kaity was 10, and came home to our

house, usurping Kaity's position as the youngest. Aidan lived with us for

two years before her mom finally moved out on her own, but since we do all

her baby-sitting, (while mom is at work, and school) she's still with us a

large amount of the week.

Before Aidan moved out, was born, and his first year was horrendous!

I spent more hours at Drs appts, specialists, hospitals, and doing research,

than I can count. And we always had to be careful about who could visit,

because " god forbid " we passed any germs on to . I know that even

though Kaity loves Bran, she resented the restrictions imposed by his

presence.

Now I believe I might have been TOO understanding. We've found ways to deal

with the " attitude " problem, (major loss of priviledges) but I don't think

it would have ever gotten so bad to begin with, if I hadn't passed it off as

my own fault for all the hours spent away from home.

My mom's theory is that the teenage years are God's way of loosening the

bonds between parent and child, so that when the kids move away, it's not

quite so heart rending. Everyone is ready for a little space! LOL

As Kaity is my fourth child, and I've already been through this 3 times, let

me assure you that it DOES get better. Once the kids are out on their own,

facing the big bad world, you won't be considered quite as " stupid " as you

are now.

It's all a matter of sticking to your guns, being consistent, and just

hanging in there until the process comes to an end!

Hugs of support coming your way! LOL

Pat (g-ma to , RSS, 4yrs 2m old, 28# 10oz, 35 " , G-tube, GHT)

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