Guest guest Posted November 13, 2005 Report Share Posted November 13, 2005 I am so sorry Your poor mom. My family went through this with my grandfather it's very hard when they have given up because no matter what you do or say he's going to do what he wants. There really isn't any way to MAKE him do therapy. Well you know where I am if you need me. Chrissy ALL MY LOVE TO NANA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2005 Report Share Posted November 13, 2005 Hey Jodi hang in there. It must be a pattern because my Father-in law was the same with excersise and said he wants to die and didn't want to cooperate, but i think when he figured it out that weather he wants to die or not it is not up to him he has gotten alot better. so therer may be hope. Just give Mom a big hug from a big " ol " North Dakota boy and she will be fine.LOL Hugs Sheldon Chat:my dad hi all!! sorry if i havent responed to your emails, i have been sick and pretty much in bed since wed. night. my father was moved to Good Shepard Rehab center in town, PA (about 30min. from us, we are waiting to see if a bed opens at their Easton, PA center so he can be transfered that is only about 20min from us) he has been very, very nasty to my mom and myself lately. he is pissed that i havent been there (since i have been sick). he keeps telling everyone that my mom beat him with a baseball bat and that he is selling their home. he has just been being down right mean to my mom and today she was very upset because of it. he was nasty to the one therapist today and wouldnt do his therapy (she wanted to try and have him walk, he said he doesnt do this much activity at home and he already excerecised his legs for 20 min and wasnt doing it!!) he wants a sling for his left arm, they told him no that he has to learn to move it. he wants a power scooter and they told him no he has to learn to walk again. this is becoming very overwheliming for my mom esp. jodie c Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2005 Report Share Posted November 13, 2005 Hey Jodie - sorry about your not feeling very well. Did you have the flu? I sure hope you are feeling better. I'm sorry to hear about your dad being difficult these days. He's really going through a tough time. I know that many people do not like to feel as if they are being a " burden " to others - even though people are there to help them, it's not easy to submit to others - it's a powerless feeling and your dad is probably trying to " control " as much of his life as he can so that he can feel powerful. It's not an excuse for his actions towards others, but he's also probably going through a little bit of anger right now too - it's part of the whole grief process. He's cognitively realizing that - " hey, I didn't ask for this! " and he's reacting very normally. We always hurt the ones we love because we know they will always be there for us. Give your mom a hug and remind her how much your dad loves her. He really needs you all - whether he wants to admit it or not. If he doesn't straighten up though - you can tell him I'll be right over and do therapy with him myself! LOL Just kidding. Give your mom an extra big hug for me. I got one for you too if you need one <grin>. - H > > hi all!! > sorry if i havent responed to your emails, i have been sick and pretty > much in bed since wed. night. my father was moved to Good Shepard > Rehab center in town, PA (about 30min. from us, we are waiting to > see if a bed opens at their Easton, PA center so he can be transfered > that is only about 20min from us) he has been very, very nasty to my > mom and myself lately. he is pissed that i havent been there (since i > have been sick). he keeps telling everyone that my mom beat him with a > baseball bat and that he is selling their home. he has just been being > down right mean to my mom and today she was very upset because of it. > he was nasty to the one therapist today and wouldnt do his therapy (she > wanted to try and have him walk, he said he doesnt do this much > activity at home and he already excerecised his legs for 20 min and > wasnt doing it!!) he wants a sling for his left arm, they told him no > that he has to learn to move it. he wants a power scooter and they > told him no he has to learn to walk again. this is becoming very > overwheliming for my mom esp. > > jodie c > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2005 Report Share Posted November 13, 2005 Jodie - PS - thanks for inviting me to the Yahoo instant messenger. Dawna and I already had a nice little chat today! I really appreciate your thinking of me. - H > > hi all!! > sorry if i havent responed to your emails, i have been sick and pretty > much in bed since wed. night. my father was moved to Good Shepard > Rehab center in town, PA (about 30min. from us, we are waiting to > see if a bed opens at their Easton, PA center so he can be transfered > that is only about 20min from us) he has been very, very nasty to my > mom and myself lately. he is pissed that i havent been there (since i > have been sick). he keeps telling everyone that my mom beat him with a > baseball bat and that he is selling their home. he has just been being > down right mean to my mom and today she was very upset because of it. > he was nasty to the one therapist today and wouldnt do his therapy (she > wanted to try and have him walk, he said he doesnt do this much > activity at home and he already excerecised his legs for 20 min and > wasnt doing it!!) he wants a sling for his left arm, they told him no > that he has to learn to move it. he wants a power scooter and they > told him no he has to learn to walk again. this is becoming very > overwheliming for my mom esp. > > jodie c > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2005 Report Share Posted November 13, 2005 Jodie, I am very sorry - hope it gets better! > > hi all!! > sorry if i havent responed to your emails, i have been sick and pretty > much in bed since wed. night. my father was moved to Good Shepard > Rehab center in town, PA (about 30min. from us, we are waiting to > see if a bed opens at their Easton, PA center so he can be transfered > that is only about 20min from us) he has been very, very nasty to my > mom and myself lately. he is pissed that i havent been there (since i > have been sick). he keeps telling everyone that my mom beat him with a > baseball bat and that he is selling their home. he has just been being > down right mean to my mom and today she was very upset because of it. > he was nasty to the one therapist today and wouldnt do his therapy (she > wanted to try and have him walk, he said he doesnt do this much > activity at home and he already excerecised his legs for 20 min and > wasnt doing it!!) he wants a sling for his left arm, they told him no > that he has to learn to move it. he wants a power scooter and they > told him no he has to learn to walk again. this is becoming very > overwheliming for my mom esp. > > jodie c > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2005 Report Share Posted November 13, 2005 I am so sorry. Hang in there. My thoughts are with you and your family. > > hi all!! > sorry if i havent responed to your emails, i have been sick and pretty > much in bed since wed. night. my father was moved to Good Shepard > Rehab center in town, PA (about 30min. from us, we are waiting to > see if a bed opens at their Easton, PA center so he can be transfered > that is only about 20min from us) he has been very, very nasty to my > mom and myself lately. he is pissed that i havent been there (since i > have been sick). he keeps telling everyone that my mom beat him with a > baseball bat and that he is selling their home. he has just been being > down right mean to my mom and today she was very upset because of it. > he was nasty to the one therapist today and wouldnt do his therapy (she > wanted to try and have him walk, he said he doesnt do this much > activity at home and he already excerecised his legs for 20 min and > wasnt doing it!!) he wants a sling for his left arm, they told him no > that he has to learn to move it. he wants a power scooter and they > told him no he has to learn to walk again. this is becoming very > overwheliming for my mom esp. > > jodie c > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2005 Report Share Posted November 14, 2005 Ugh, your poor mom....and YOU!! I really hope things get better Jodie. I have been thinking about you soo much. I miss our phone calls and emails, but I understand COMPLETELY! You just keep doing a great job taking care of your family. And also remember, your dad really does love you guys. This is just hard on him too. And, he is reacting to it all. Please reach out if you need anything. Call anytime too. Hugs, Jodi R. > > hi all!! > sorry if i havent responed to your emails, i have been sick and pretty > much in bed since wed. night. my father was moved to Good Shepard > Rehab center in town, PA (about 30min. from us, we are waiting to > see if a bed opens at their Easton, PA center so he can be transfered > that is only about 20min from us) he has been very, very nasty to my > mom and myself lately. he is pissed that i havent been there (since i > have been sick). he keeps telling everyone that my mom beat him with a > baseball bat and that he is selling their home. he has just been being > down right mean to my mom and today she was very upset because of it. > he was nasty to the one therapist today and wouldnt do his therapy (she > wanted to try and have him walk, he said he doesnt do this much > activity at home and he already excerecised his legs for 20 min and > wasnt doing it!!) he wants a sling for his left arm, they told him no > that he has to learn to move it. he wants a power scooter and they > told him no he has to learn to walk again. this is becoming very > overwheliming for my mom esp. > > jodie c > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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