Re: My daughter's surgery last Saturday

[Guest guest]

Hi Anita,

Your daughter will not feel like this forever. The first week can be

the roughest part of the recovery. Every day should be better for

her. She needs to make sure she is getting adequate nutrition and

rest, and keeping her mouth clean.

The buzzy asleep feeling is numbness. That is usually the most

frustrating part of the recovery - it's a good sign that she's

feeling it as it means that the nerves that were jostled around are

now waking up (and paying her back a bit for taking them on a wild

ride). When I had my upper/lower/genio surgery, I was numb from

behind my eyeballs to below my chin - no feeling at all. When it

started to come back, it was just like she describes. I even got

sharp jabbies at times, which usually signified the return of even

more feeling. It's just part of the deal. Much patience is required

to wait out this part of the process.

She's also probably feeling the effects of the anaesthesia, which

can cause emotional lows. That won't last forever either.

Drinking lots of fluids will help to flush out that swelling.

Hope that helps,

> My DD had her Lafort I Ostonomy on Saturday in a 4 hour surgery.

It went well but after she bled for quite a while but the NG tube

that was in her nose and down into her stomach prevented her from

vomiting.

>

> We came home this morning from the hospital now the fun begins on

my part. She cannot eat anything but drink. She cannot open her

mouth even a little bit and using a cup does not work, I bought a

mustard type bottle for me when I had my surgeries that worked a

little bit but she kept crying when trying to eat or take medicine.

She is 18 and never cries so she must be miserable.

>

> I got a gift from (). She sent my DD a bunch of zip

and squeeze bags. She was able to take in some chicken broth and

drink some apple juice since she could stick the straw in the side

of her mouth and manage to get the liquids behind her teeth to

swallow.

>

> She is forever calling me (she cannot speak so she calls my cell

phone from her cell phone as it shows up her name) and I haven't

gotten any sleep but snatches here and there. Plus it is so hard as

a Mom seeing my Angel hurting so bad. Her little tiny face is now so

hugely swollen and misshapen.

>

> My vent is over now. Welcome to my pity party.

>

> My question is why is her lips and nose suddenly feeling like it

has a buzzy asleep feeling.

>

>

[Guest guest]

I'm glad the surgery went well and hopefully her recovery will be

quick. I think it is really great that sent her a food

supply. It amazes me how much empathy and heartfelt good wishes the

people on this site have for one another. I know when I first found

out that I would be having this done I had so many questions and my

nerves were working overtime, and I have found a lot of comfort

here. Thanks to all!

> My DD had her Lafort I Ostonomy on Saturday in a 4 hour surgery.

It went well but after she bled for quite a while but the NG tube

that was in her nose and down into her stomach prevented her from

vomiting.

>

> We came home this morning from the hospital now the fun begins on

my part. She cannot eat anything but drink. She cannot open her mouth

even a little bit and using a cup does not work, I bought a mustard

type bottle for me when I had my surgeries that worked a little bit

but she kept crying when trying to eat or take medicine. She is 18

and never cries so she must be miserable.

>

> I got a gift from (). She sent my DD a bunch of zip and

squeeze bags. She was able to take in some chicken broth and drink

some apple juice since she could stick the straw in the side of her

mouth and manage to get the liquids behind her teeth to swallow.

>

> She is forever calling me (she cannot speak so she calls my cell

phone from her cell phone as it shows up her name) and I haven't

gotten any sleep but snatches here and there. Plus it is so hard as a

Mom seeing my Angel hurting so bad. Her little tiny face is now so

hugely swollen and misshapen.

>

> My vent is over now. Welcome to my pity party.

>

> My question is why is her lips and nose suddenly feeling like it

has a buzzy asleep feeling.

>

>

[Guest guest]

I am glad all went well during the surgery. Your daughter is really

lucky to have you to help her through the recovery process. Having

children myself who have had other surgeries, I feel for you at

having to see your child in pain and discomfort. But I agree with

the other posts that you are probably at the worst of it right now,

and it will get better. The swelling tends to be really severe

about now, but tends to get gradually better from this point on.

How great that sent the zip squeeze to you! And I am glad

they are helping too.

Hang in there, and don't worry about venting here! It is completely

the correct place to do just that. We each have either been there,

are there with you, or are getting ready to go through exactly the

same thing. Having a place to vent is your best therapy, whether

you are the patient or the caregiver. And try to get some rest

yourself too. As DD gets better, she may get cranky due to the

effects of the anesthesia, the discomfort, and feeling impatient

with the healing process. You will need to be at your best for

that. And you can vent about that too if you need to! lol

Please give your daughter my best, and to you too.

Hugs,

Fran

> My DD had her Lafort I Ostonomy on Saturday in a 4 hour surgery.

It went well but after she bled for quite a while but the NG tube

that was in her nose and down into her stomach prevented her from

vomiting.

>

> We came home this morning from the hospital now the fun begins on

my part. She cannot eat anything but drink. She cannot open her

mouth even a little bit and using a cup does not work, I bought a

mustard type bottle for me when I had my surgeries that worked a

little bit but she kept crying when trying to eat or take medicine.

She is 18 and never cries so she must be miserable.

>

> I got a gift from (). She sent my DD a bunch of zip

and squeeze bags. She was able to take in some chicken broth and

drink some apple juice since she could stick the straw in the side

of her mouth and manage to get the liquids behind her teeth to

swallow.

>

> She is forever calling me (she cannot speak so she calls my cell

phone from her cell phone as it shows up her name) and I haven't

gotten any sleep but snatches here and there. Plus it is so hard as

a Mom seeing my Angel hurting so bad. Her little tiny face is now so

hugely swollen and misshapen.

>

> My vent is over now. Welcome to my pity party.

>

> My question is why is her lips and nose suddenly feeling like it

has a buzzy asleep feeling.

>

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