Guest guest Posted January 17, 2010 Report Share Posted January 17, 2010 Thanks , it's nice to know I have the support and that you all are here for me. This group has blessed my life and made living with this disease easier in so many ways. C_53_Familial IPF_5/09, Washington HOPE doesn't disappoint! To: Breathe-Support Sent: Sun, January 17, 2010 3:08:34 PMSubject: Re: lucky spouse we will help with the motivation, if you need us. Gascoigne SD, 50 yrs old, Renaud's 2008, IPF 7/2009 From: worth <hope2thend (AT) yahoo (DOT) com>To: Breathe-Support@ yahoogroups. comSent: Sun, January 17, 2010 3:00:44 PMSubject: Re: lucky spouse That is so great and . Cuz it's hard when you live alone to stay motivated, I haven't gotten depressed because I've been so busy since my diagnosis making changes to my life, but some days its just too damn quiet in this house. I find myself talking to the dog! It doesn't help that I live out in the country. I bought my house before my diagnosis. So, it is now up for sale, I'm not staying out here. I'm going to move back into town and my youngest daughter and I are going to live together. I am so looking forward to it! I will be closer to friends and family, activities I can do, and all my medical facilities. C_53_Familial IPF_5/09, Washington HOPE doesn't disappoint! From: Terry Oettinger <iltopaint (AT) yahoo (DOT) com>To: Breathe-Support@ yahoogroups. comSent: Sun, January 17, 2010 6:35:00 AMSubject: Re: lucky spouse Hi and everyone,I just want to say how truly lucky I am to have my husband as well. I am so thankful to Phil, my husband of 35 years. When we found out that I have this terrible disease we were both in shock and cried. When we were first married he had a hard time showing his love for his children in the hugging, kissing department and I was always telling our children that he(their dad) loved them and to force themselves on him. Kiss him, hug him and they did just that. Now, I have 2 children who love their dad and their dad loves them physically and I know that when I am no longer with them that they will have each other. Phil takes care of my every need too. He won't make be over do anything but gets mad if I don't do something. He encourages me everyday not to give up (sometimes I feel like it). He cooks our meals will clean when he has too (doesn't like too) and will take me anywhere I want to go. So I look back on 35 years ago and thank God that he sent me Phil because he knew that I would need him. Thanks for listening. From: Gascoigne <michelle.gascoigne@ yahoo.com>To: Breathe-Support@ yahoogroups. comSent: Sat, January 16, 2010 10:31:57 PMSubject: lucky spouse I will tell you I have a wonderful husband. We have been married for 28 years and have to grown boys in their 20's they are great too!!! But I don't know what to say. What a support he has been, He actually has did the laundry probably for the past 10 years. Yes he does, doesn't iron though (got to teach him that one LOL) We both have always taken turns cooking He is a really good cook, I used to do all the cleaning, I try to still do some of it.. Cleaned my bathroom today and it took probably an hour or so with the resting. But he is now doing all the floors, washing and vacuuming.. The dusting a do a little at a time (never liked to clean any how) Had a great gal who cleaned every two weeks for me for about 2 years and they moved back to Peru, haven't been able to replace her, I miss her was a great friend.. Mental support is a little lacking though which is ok, You see if you don't talk about it there is nothing wrong. (OK?). But he is dealing with all this crap the best he can, and that's ok. He tells me that all he wants is for me to do, and go where ever I think they will help me stay the same or get better. What ever I think is best for me and he will agree. The other thing is that I have always been the caregiver and organizer of both families to make sure everyone is ok, and if not I usually make sure they are and its hard for him and really hard for myself to stop being that person which I probably won't, I will be making sure that everyone is ok when the time comes for me to go and you know what that's alright with me.I thank God everynight that I found this air family, because truthfully I don't know what I would do otherwise. (Probably go crazy)Love Gascoigne SD, 50 yrs old, Renaud's 2008, IPF 7/2009 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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