Re: now that was alot of work

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I understand you love your your mom and want to be there for her. But there are other ways to love your mom without being her caretaker.

A person with a chronic health condition caring for another person with a chronic health condition is not a good idea. Not safe for either one of you.

Just my 2cents.

C_53_Familial IPF_5/09, Washington

HOPE doesn't disappoint!

To: Breathe-Support Sent: Mon, January 11, 2010 10:57:51 AMSubject: now that was alot of work

Yes I know what I'm about to tell you I'm going to probably get balled out. But I'm pretty darn proud of my self but tired. I don't know if you remember that I had brought my mother back home with us a little over a week ago. She had been staying with my sister while I tried to get a handle on my life. ( if that will ever happen LOL who does) but she has alzheimers, no short term memory, and needs help with a lot of things. Well today I didn't have anyone to help with the shower and I did all my self and actually she helped more then she usually does. I told her that for two people who can't do shit we did

pretty darn good, she looked at me and laughed it was great, and I felt like I did something besides nothing most of the time. Yes I know I need to worry about me and nobody else, but to tell you the truth it is really nice having her here with me again, I really missed her. Got to go take a nap.just be nice to me when you all ball me out. LOL

Gascoigne SD, 50 yrs old, Renaud's 2008, IPF 7/2009

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Thank you for your 2 cents, I really appreciate your concer. I was my mothers main caregiver for 3 years since my dad passed away, and I took care of the two of them about 3 years before my dad passed, and in June when I started all my testing she went to live with my sister, had been there for 6 months. I know and my sister knows that I can not do it al the time anymore, so we are going to try 2months here and 2 months there. And when I go to Denver she will go with me as I have a brother and sister out there too. We will be staying with my brother and his family and they will be there to help with her also. She is so very easy, doesn't talk alot, sits on sofa and watches TV and thats about it. If she was combative, or would wonder away I know that there

would be no way that I could do it. so for now it is working. And I know that if it becomes to difficult I know she will have to go somewhere else. You see I am the baby of this family and she is the most comfortable with me, and I've always taken care of everyone. Yes I know that now it needs to be about me, and I'm trying really hard, but that is a hard habit to break, probably worse then quiting smoking. Thank you again, just keep me on my toes will ya!!!! Gascoigne SD, 50 yrs old, Renaud's 2008, IPF 7/2009To: Breathe-Support Sent: Mon, January 11, 2010 9:27:20 PMSubject: Re: now that was alot of work

,

I understand you love your your mom and want to be there for her. But there are other ways to love your mom without being her caretaker.

A person with a chronic health condition caring for another person with a chronic health condition is not a good idea. Not safe for either one of you.

Just my 2cents.

C_53_Familial IPF_5/09, Washington

HOPE doesn't disappoint!

From: Gascoigne <michelle.gascoigne@ yahoo.com>To: Breathe-Support@ yahoogroups. comSent: Mon, January 11, 2010 10:57:51 AMSubject: now that was alot of work

Yes I know what I'm about to tell you I'm going to probably get balled out. But I'm pretty darn proud of my self but tired. I don't know if you remember that I had brought my mother back home with us a little over a week ago. She had been staying with my sister while I tried to get a handle on my life. ( if that will ever happen LOL who does) but she has alzheimers, no short term memory, and needs help with a lot of things. Well today I didn't have anyone to help with the shower and I did all my self and actually she helped more then she usually does. I told her that for two people who can't do shit we did

pretty darn good, she looked at me and laughed it was great, and I felt like I did something besides nothing most of the time. Yes I know I need to worry about me and nobody else, but to tell you the truth it is really nice having her here with me again, I really missed her. Got to go take a nap.just be nice to me when you all ball me out. LOL

Gascoigne SD, 50 yrs old, Renaud's 2008, IPF 7/2009

[Guest guest]

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You are a very good daughter and it sounds like you have a lot of support from your siblings and a plan too! I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers, always.

C_53_Familial IPF_5/09, Washington

HOPE doesn't disappoint!

To: Breathe-Support Sent: Mon, January 11, 2010 10:02:32 PMSubject: Re: now that was alot of workThank you for your 2 cents, I really appreciate your concer. I was my mothers main caregiver for 3 years since my dad passed away, and I took care of the two of them about 3 years before my dad passed, and in June when I started all my testing she went to live with my sister, had been there for 6 months. I know and my sister knows that I can not do it al the time anymore, so we are going to try 2months here and 2 months there. And when I go to Denver she will go with me as I have a brother and sister out there

too. We will be staying with my brother and his family and they will be there to help with her also. She is so very easy, doesn't talk alot, sits on sofa and watches TV and thats about it. If she was combative, or would wonder away I know that there would be no way that I could do it. so for now it is working. And I know that if it becomes to difficult I know she will have to go somewhere else. You see I am the baby of this family and she is the most comfortable with me, and I've always taken care of everyone. Yes I know that now it needs to be about me, and I'm trying really hard, but that is a hard habit to break, probably worse then quiting smoking. Thank you again, just keep me on my toes will ya!!!!

Gascoigne SD, 50 yrs old, Renaud's 2008, IPF 7/2009

From: worth <hope2thend (AT) yahoo (DOT) com>To: Breathe-Support@ yahoogroups. comSent: Mon, January 11, 2010 9:27:20 PMSubject: Re: now that was alot of work

,

I understand you love your your mom and want to be there for her. But there are other ways to love your mom without being her caretaker.

A person with a chronic health condition caring for another person with a chronic health condition is not a good idea. Not safe for either one of you.

Just my 2cents.

C_53_Familial IPF_5/09, Washington

HOPE doesn't disappoint!

From: Gascoigne <michelle.gascoigne@ yahoo.com>To: Breathe-Support@ yahoogroups. comSent: Mon, January 11, 2010 10:57:51 AMSubject: now that was alot of work

Yes I know what I'm about to tell you I'm going to probably get balled out. But I'm pretty darn proud of my self but tired. I don't know if you remember that I had brought my mother back home with us a little over a week ago. She had been staying with my sister while I tried to get a handle on my life. ( if that will ever happen LOL who does) but she has alzheimers, no short term memory, and needs help with a lot of things. Well today I didn't have anyone to help with the shower and I did all my self and actually she helped more then she usually does. I told her that for two people who can't do shit we did

pretty darn good, she looked at me and laughed it was great, and I felt like I did something besides nothing most of the time. Yes I know I need to worry about me and nobody else, but to tell you the truth it is really nice having her here with me again, I really missed her. Got to go take a nap.just be nice to me when you all ball me out. LOL

Gascoigne SD, 50 yrs old, Renaud's 2008, IPF 7/2009

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great story

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Subject: now that was alot of workTo: Breathe-Support Date: Monday, January 11, 2010, 1:57 PM

Yes I know what I'm about to tell you I'm going to probably get balled out. But I'm pretty darn proud of my self but tired. I don't know if you remember that I had brought my mother back home with us a little over a week ago. She had been staying with my sister while I tried to get a handle on my life. ( if that will ever happen LOL who does) but she has alzheimers, no short term memory, and needs help with a lot of things. Well today I didn't have anyone to help with the shower and I did all my self and actually she helped more then she usually does. I told her that for two people who can't do shit we did

pretty darn good, she looked at me and laughed it was great, and I felt like I did something besides nothing most of the time. Yes I know I need to worry about me and nobody else, but to tell you the truth it is really nice having her here with me again, I really missed her. Got to go take a nap.just be nice to me when you all ball me out. LOL

Gascoigne SD, 50 yrs old, Renaud's 2008, IPF 7/2009