need to vent this sad, helpless feeling

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I have a daughter who is 19 and married. When I had my RNY in Feb 02, she

was a normal 17 yr old girl....healthy, not in the least bit heavy. She was in

the low 140's. Perfect for her. has gradually put on weight. I

think she might be around 190. She is 5'2 " . I am in pain watching her. She

knows

that I love her no matter what she looks like. She has mentioned her weight

once or twice....asked for advice on occasion, but shows no sign of really

doing anything about it. She is experiencing knee pain. She looks bloated.

Her

clothes are too tight and I am scared watching her. Bottom line....it hurts

to watch her because I can feel the weight. I wish I could make a deal with

someone and switch bodies with her. I know this is not something I can do for

her, but I wish I could help her.

I don't know what the answer is, but if I don't express this...it

will turn in to a binge for sure. Thanks for listening. As usual.....Kim O