RE:Revisions, out of town Surgeons, family and

[Guest guest]

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I know that when I land in Tacoma, I will be walking into a warm supportive

environment and I trust that entirely. I know you understand, I know a lot of

people do and I feel a great comfort in that. I'm glad you feel the way you do

because I'm sure my sister will be calling you next week...hahaha I also know

that you will be able to answer her questions and that will make her feel

batter. You will handle her far better than I can. The two of us are so

emotion ridden, it's hard to get past that. I end up on the defensive and so

does she. My sister can be a real snob, but like I said, she is also very

caring and generous and I love her for that.

I had intended to talk to her husband because he's so much more rational and I

thought I could explain the whole surgery thing to him. My hope was that then

he could give the information to my mom and sister in a form that would make

sense to them, but he hasn't been very co-operative in meeting with me. I think

he's afriad of what I might say...hahaha

I do feel blessed that you're there and I know there isn't a place in the

country where I could land and find the support and warmth that awaits me from

the Washington group.

By the way, have I mentioned that I whine? hahaha

Hugs,

Cindy

Hugs,

Cindy

You know, I know how odd it is for people to leave their families to

come here. The families do not " see " the network of people around

here, nor those Out There, who would be willing to protect you from

" us " .

It is interesting that the first phone call we get not FOR our

person is someone back home who is checking us out. Once they are

certain we're nuts, they seem somewhat reassured, actually. I doubt

that I would be comfy with my loved one undergoing surgery " there " ,

when I am familiar with " here " , even if the surgery " here " had not

gone well. However, when we send them home in good spirits and body,

the families are ok with letting them come back to visit!

Thanks,