therapists/ and the blameworthy

[Guest guest]

dear brave souls:

you know, on a serious note, i have been reading your posts on therapists,

and I am just shaking my head in sadness about the bad ones, --mainly for what

they have done to already vulknerable people. Shame, shame, shame on them.

Shame.

I also am feeling praise God about the good ones, the ones that have been and

continue to be good to you all, the ones that have ethics and follow them to

the letter, the ones who know that love for sister and brother humans is as

much a part of people healing and mending as theories are.

Your writings leads my heart here: There is a concept I love in spirituality;

it comes from the Eastern religions, like Sufi-ism. It is the concept of the

'blameworthy.' The " blameworthy " are people who take on the burden of

apologizing to those who have been harmed when the one or ones who did the harm

cannot

apologize, or will not, or give only patronizing apologies.

In that spirit, and as an imperfect but loving person who has dedicated

herself to healing for over 30-some years of clinical practice, I would like to

offer an apology for any of those from my profession who have hurt you, left

you,

abandoned you, used you, taken your money and not given good serving, lied to

you, intruded on you, acted as though they are holier than thou. No shrink is

holier than anyone else. In fact, in the system I follow, what is within the

patient is The Healer. We are only humble assistants. It is our role to be the

friend to the friendless one, to shine on what is so beautiful, to uncover

useful directions within the person, and always to be one of the winds beneath

the patient's wings, urging them onward, knowing they can be better, learn

better, do better, always.

I am sorry for all those who cannot or will not or don't even realize they

should say sorry, and ask your forgiveness.

This comes with love and care for your soul and spirit,

ceep gmom, just for today, one of the 'blameworthy.'