Re: Re:Confessions of an autism mother: Why I'll never ...

December 24, 2008

ROFLOL Wow-- I must really be home schooling " wrong " then, because I've

never found that " it's a lot less work "

EVER!

bek

In a message dated 12/22/2008 8:38:21 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

bodegalee@... writes:

And another answer to " why homeschool " .And another answer to " why

homeschool " .<WB

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December 25, 2008

Have your kids been in school? I don't know if I'd say a lot less

work, but I think homeschooling is certainly easier in many ways.

Before I had to get up early, drag a sleepy kid out of bed, make

lunch, drive or walk him to school depending on the weather. Then I

had to do it all again for half day afternoon K and the second child.

Pick them up after school and rush through at least some homework,

rush out to their extra curricular stuff at least 3-4 days a week,

come home late and tired and do the homework thing again. I have to

fight my oldest with school work when he's homeschooled, but I still

had that same fight when he was in school! Plus I had to deal with

all the social junk issues that are popping up (good and bad.)

Attempt to find out from my apraxic son what happened at school and

never get answers. Scheduling the necessary private speech therapy

was completely impossible unless I wanted to take him out of school.

And, sorry, I've never been fortunate enough to get my son the level

of therapy that he needs. Plus even though he never had a behavioral

issue at school my son had ten times the meltdowns at home when he was

in school compared to now that he's homeschooled again. I think it

was because there wasn't down time and there was constant stimulation

and no recess (at least in half day K. 1st would have recess, but a

full day which would also be hard.)

So I won't say less work, but different work and not as stressful for

me although I get a lot less housework done as a homeschooling mom!

Oh, and homeschooling is MUCH easier than the 2 year battle for

services I had with the public schools in our former district. MUCH

less stressful.

Miche

On Thu, Dec 25, 2008 at 2:14 AM, <tbniesh@...> wrote:

> ROFLOL Wow-- I must really be home schooling " wrong " then, because I've

> never found that " it's a lot less work "

>

> EVER!

>

> bek

December 25, 2008

I guess I've been home schooling too long then-- or I've got too long to go

yet-- LOL

I've been schooling for 11 yrs with another 18 or so to go. Definitely a

long road ahead of me

With 8 kids, (2 special needs, medically/physically/neurologically and

educationally challenged)

with all our therapy needs OUTSIDE of the home in addition to inside the

home-- we're out EVERY DAY for one of them. I dunno-- but at this point in my

home schooling " career " , it's definitely NOT easier than when we had our

oldest in school full time.

There are many here who might be newer to the HSing scene that are coming

from the school system and are looking at how they can home school their child

with special needs. I'm coming from the OPPOSITE side of the spectrum where

I've BEEN HSing my special needs child, and he has too many severe learning

disabilities that work against each other-- that I cannot teach him here at

home. I've finally come to that understanding. He's the opposite of what you

were saying with your son-- and the meltdowns are HERE at home-- making life

un-livable for the other 9 co-habitants of the house. It's getting pretty

difficult.

I think that if I had ONE child that was home schooled-- I might be able to

figure out how to specifically meet his special needs educationally *IF* he

would be " workable " -- but he's NOT workable with mom and dad, and he's NOT

the only child-- sooooo-- we're looking into other schooling situations for

him.

Tough for the die-hard home schooler who has always felt that home schooling

was our only choice.

arrgh-- crappy week

bek

In a message dated 12/25/2008 7:04:29 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

miche37@... writes:

So I won't say less work, but different work and not as stressful for

me although I get a lot less housework done as a homeschooling mom!

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December 26, 2008

Bek

I just wanted to encourage you to do what is best for YOUR family. I am a

die hard homeschooler, but I realize that it isn't for everybody and I'm

thankful that we have another option. If your one child is completely

disruptive to your home, then maybe school is the better option for him.

Possibly he can get more attention (with the help of aides) that you can't give

him, considering you are currently at the 6:1 ratio. And even if the ratio was

the same at school, they probably wouldn't have the wide range of skills that

you have at home, which would make it easier for them. I have a friend

who wanted to homeschool, but didn't due to the first child's condition (and she

didn't want to alienate the first by putting her in school and homeschool the

other three, so she put them all in school) and in the end she lost them all to

a system that didn't support or encourage her family values. The point of the

story is you need to do what is

best for your entire family. If everybody is feeling tense due to the one

child, then they may end up not having amicable feelings toward him and you

don't want that either. If you put that child in school and you were able

to meet the other children's needs, then possibly the other children will

appreciate the one a bit more when he is home. Either way, this is your family

and you need to do the best for everybody. I only had three children (the first

time around -I'm starting all over with a new set of children), and there were a

lot of times that I felt completely overwhelmed and I didn't have any children

with disabilities that were visibly obvious (though in retrospect -there were

learning disabilities). So rest assured in your decision and if you get flack

from anybody - just laugh it off - don't let others bring you down!!!

Blessings to You,

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From: " tbniesh@... " <tbniesh@...>

Sent: Thursday, December 25, 2008 9:38:54 PM

Subject: Re: [ ] Re:Confessions of an autism mother: Why I'll

never ...

I guess I've been home schooling too long then-- or I've got too long to go

yet-- LOL

I've been schooling for 11 yrs with another 18 or so to go. Definitely a

long road ahead of me

With 8 kids, (2 special needs, medically/physicall y/neurologically and