Re: School Abuse on Dr. Phil - 12/5 -- info on handling bullying

[Guest guest]

Re:  BULLYING

 

I am a former school counselor who trained administration, social workers,

student assistant professionals, teachers, other counselors and students in my

school district (prior to having my kids) about bullying.

 

Here is a simple way for kids to understand:

horseplay is when everyone is laughing and having fun. 

bullying is when only one person is laughing -- the one who is bullying.

 

For older kids there is a criteria:

The Double I-R Criteria

I = intentional (was the behavior done on purpose?)

I = imbalanced (there has to be a power differential -- imbalance can be actual

or perceived -- ex.) a bigger child bullying a smaller child/a child feeling

that another child is smarter

R = repeated behavior

(this criteria is outlined in the book, Bullybusters by Dr. Arthur Horne now

retired professor at The University of GA)

 

Also -- there is a difference between tattling and reporting information...

tattling is just to get someone in trouble and reporting information saves

someone from further harm or injury. 

 

Hope this helps.